SO .. what are you doing, what are you thinking, what are you focusing on right now ? (apart from reading my post, of course) Are you having problems switching off !! Remember what you are thinking right now is coming right towards your front doorstep….. so if you are going over and over a problem this week-end, stop right now, because all you are doing is feeding this monster , and it will just come back time and time again, much of the same, time and time again, however if you could turn this around, what comes back would be different and certainly more favourable to you. Starve it to death and start to see a positive outcome, you see, if you sit back a little and hold on to your thoughts but imagine a good result instead of the terrible one that you are worrying about, every situation can have a positive shift to it, you just need to see it, and believe that this could happen.
The saying says “There are always two sides to a coin” and problems and situations in our life are exactly the same, but at times we are so involved we just don’t see it, that’s why it’s important to sit back and try to see it from the outside looking in, take yourself out of the situation, think of it happening to a third party, What advice would you give ? Would you be able to see the positive and the negative ? Would you be able to take it as an experience worth going through ? You see with every situation and worry (work/relationship/family etc.,) we do grow as a person, we learn and we take what we have learnt with us in a positive way, always seek the positivity in everything you do……………………………And switch off, it’s the week-end !!
Have a great week end everyone, be good, be kind, love and be loved, remember to treat others how you would like to be treated.
Relax and enjoy your peaceful time, give time to yourself and your loved ones, try to eat together as a family, it’s the week end, be patient and grateful for everything we have , enjoy all that you have and ………Be Happy !!!
The job of a coach is not to do the work for you, coaching is to unblock your potential with the result being for you to maximise your performance , It is to help you how to reach your objective.
A coach will see in you your talents, that go ignored by you, they will help you to bring them to the surface for you to recognise them and use them .
A coach will bring you out of your comfort zone where you are stuck/blocked, a coach will adapt to your personal profile without giving you standard situations that will work for your companions , but what will work for you.
You will learn how to bring the best out of youself, Personal growth and in your work environment, how to face your work problems and that in your everyday life. They will find :- What is it that makes you feel bad, e.g. that you did’nt get your promotion that you wanted, your personal relationship is going wrong or has gone wrong etc.,. (You will see and feel that this has nothing to do with you ? you will also feel you have the answers to everything related to you) The coach will get you to see that 10% is what really happens and 90% is how you respond, so there is room for great improvement here.
I feel that inside all of us, is the principal resource to obtain our objectives, we are all born with confidence, babies are born with no fear, and as from 2yrs old we start to take in what goes on around us. Therefore if we take up fear for example and start to live with it, we make it our friend we can change this. Fear can be un-learnt you can break it down. To eliminate this we first have to accept “I’m afraid” and you know my answer “so-what” ………….this is your life and you deserve to have the best you can, so attend to this by asking for help, prepare and accumulate resources and put yourself into action. And finally face what it is that troubles you, or what you are afraid of, and remove it from your life. If you would like to contact me please feel free to do so.
My post yesterday mentioned being calm, to be able to step through your opening door, to be able to see it clearly and not miss the opportunity, that is being presented to you
I also mentioned that when you need to step back due to your chaotic mind, it is a message being set to you, to calm down and prepare yourself and state of mind. Maybe you know how to do this and maybe you don’t, so I thought I would share with you today what works for me.
1. We carry around so much information with us, that at times it can all become far to much to handle, we feel agitated and feel that our mind might actually explode, we have great capacity but enough is enough, we reach overload and in this state, we are little good to anyone and more importantly ourselves, so I like to find a comfortable spot, where it is nice and quiet, I close my eyes and breath deeply, until I am breathing comfortable, I then visit one of my favourite places, I am sat in a big chair inside a beautiful patio, full of ivy spreading across the old stone walls, the sun is warm on my skin, and at the end of the patio is a decorative large iron gate, where i can glimpse a view of the sea, moving on the horizon, I walk towards the gate and step out, there is a mixture of small peebles and sand under my feet and I can hear the small waves ebbing and flowing on the shore, I can smell the sea, I take in deep enjoyable breaths, and let the sensation flow, I feel free, calm and at peace, I stay there taking in this beautiful view and feel the slight breeze and sunshine on my skin, I am at one with my mind, I stay until I am ready to leave, to stroll back to my chair inside my relaxing patio.
This is my favourite place, but you probaly have one of your own, I have used this many times for myself, groups and private one to one clients, you are left, free, a clear mind and ready to face your day to day, and all those doors that are just waiting for you.
2…Another method I use, is finding always a comfortable place for you again quiet and that you are fine, this time I imagine a large cupboard or wardrobe with lots of seperate drawers, I imagine a very old piece of beautiful furniture, full of little drawers and pretty porcelane knobs, I start to organise what I have in my mind, some days this is easier than others, I’m sure you know what I mean! Once I have organisation I choose a drawer, I open the drawer and deposit my thought inside I have a little mental conversation with this thought and close the drawer, saying hasta la vista until another time when I need it or wish to draw information from it. I repeat this process until my mind is clear and everything has been placed into my personal filing cabinet, this method is great for your organisation skills and allows you to get ready to take on more information needed or not !! you see it does matter if you know how to file away your thoughts, anxiety or what ever it may be that is agitating you and blocking your view of what is right ahead.
3…Meditation….the medicine to quiet all minds, if you have the art of meditation,which is wonderful,but many have problems with this. When you master meditation it allows us to connect and listen to our very own soul.
I hope that if you have problems with an over excited mind, which most of us do,we spin plates in every direction, we are curious and we love to learn new things everyday. Add to that the everyday stress that we cannot always avoid and the other little bumps we cross on our path, that this will be a tool you can use and find instant relief, enjoy stay calm and stride through that door, you deserve it !!
” The human mind and the entire life process is chaotic, Chaos is not something that lacks order chaos has varieties of order within it “
Let me know if this works for you ?
” Everyone says, that love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts, Rejection hurts,Losing hurts “
We have probaly all had a broken heart at some time, and for those of you that have’nt I hope you don’t, Love is a strange thing, even at times it’s difficult to really know if we are in love, it is so easy to get into the confusion of habit, and at times even from a sense of duty, we put other things first, and this helps us to stay convinced that we are happy and in love ? when there is a situation of this nature you really cannot think of others you need to come first, because as they say if you are not happy how can you make another or the people that surround you, especially if we are considering close family and children, they are the most intuative in these situations and maybe even realise the problem, before we do ourselves, close friends don’t take long to pick up on it either. When this happen’s both parties can be hurt, not just the one that is left, when people have been together over a period of time, nobody never really wants the other to suffer,because there is still a form of love, not the love you would find with your soul mate, it’s a consideration love, and some if we are lucky know that you don’t deserve to be hurt, but life must go on, and the aim is to be happy, including the other person, on the other hand, love not only hurts it can be a tremendous pain, like a train you never saw coming, this is where deception has taken place, and who you thought that you were the most special person in the world, gets thrown away like something that has broken, the following day, and even more pain is inflicted if you are left for someone else, your mind goes into over drive and along with the pain you have to add anger, you start to put things together, and sadly you those faith.
When this happens it shakes our total foundation of trust, we start the battle, the problem being is that the battle is with ourselves, we doubt everything,we even doubt love, and it is these moments of pain, hurt, betrayal we can even lose our path in live for a while,BUT, remember yourself, you know deep in that broken heart of yours that you did not deserve this, or maybe you had your blame, but you accept this, you own it and you must start to live your life again, happy, love hurts, it is risk we have to take, but love also heals and we know that, if we did’nt why does everyone keep searching for it ? think about it, yes for a while we all say never again, but when we least expect it, wow there it is again…. You can’t look for it, love will find you and your lucky new partner, they are honoured to have you, remember we are all unique, and have lots to give and receive, never cry tears for anyone who really does not deserve them. If you have had a broken heart you know that in the end, everything gets back on the path of life, if you are going through a broken heart right now, sit back, take a deep breath I know it hurts and is painfull, but you need to own this, take control, you are in control of yourself always, you are important to yourself and everyone around you, you are strong,emotionally strong and can do this, you deserve to be happy. Enjoy your life, enjoy love, no more pain, you deserve everything wonderful life has to offer.
When we think of living alone, let’s first think of our home, you want to feel comfortable, cosy and that when you are at home, you feel that you are at home,there is a big difference between a house and a home you want to be there and you enjoy returning to it, an advantage of living alone is you only have to please yourself, so your decor is your choice, your colour scheme is down to you, you have a canvas to freely paint yourself. Enjoy your space and distribute it to your needs, whatever makes you happy. Cleaning is also very important, don’t put things of, although you can, it’s not a good idea, the cleaner and less cluttered your home is, the better you will feel, clutter will only give you a cluttered mind, a good motto is a place for everything and everything in it’s place, this gives you structure and organization in your life, which is always good and is a positive point when one lives alone.
Now let’s look at people who live alone, they have total freedom and no one to fight with, except themselves, this is a trap they must not fall into, if they are grumpy with themselves, they will start to feel negativity and depression can creep in, living alone can have many advantages and they need to work on these points, and enjoy them, not fight them or give in, if they live alone by choice, they will not experience this, however if circumstances have brought this living alone on, it may take time to adjust, but once they get used to it and start to enjoy the advantages they may never wish to live another way. They can eat, when they want to, how they want to and where they want to, it is important to try and plan their weekly eating plan, for a few reasons, one it will make the weekly shop much easier and also if they were to come down with the flu for example, they know they are not going to go hungry !! Which brings us to another point,they should always be prepared for sick days, keep a basic first aid kit flu medicine, sickness etc., throat pastels, ibufrofen etc., that way if they do feel under the weather as they say, there is no need to go out to the local chemist.Hopefully they will never need them, but nobody wants to go out when they are not feeling 100%.
When people live alone they are totally accountable to themselves, this is a big responsability, they have to get to know themselves very well, what makes them happy and know their strengths and abilities, they will even discover alot they did not know about themselves, it is vital to have interests and maybe new hobbies that they enjoy, they also have to know what makes them feel lonely, that way they can counteract the moment that feeling comes along, having a pet companion is great for this, they have a duty to that pet, maybe they need a walk, they certainly need to be fed and cared for, this gives structure to their day and self-discipline, pets are also great healers and help to keep stress at bay, they need to engage with the world, get out maybe join a club, the library a gym, interact with others, if returning home to an empty house is there worry, they need to think ahead, leave a light in your entrance hallway and outside if possible, so that they feel the warmth of their home as they enter, also if they have a pet of the dog/cat variety, they for sure will be there to greet them, and they will feel instantly that they are needed and loved.
There own personal routine is key here, they need to be part of the world and let the world into their personal world, they need to open wide the windows and let the fresh air and light in, they need to enjoy this, a routine breakfast, even if it’s just coffee in their favourite chair , pj’s included, making the bed is also a good routine item, shower and dress, even if they do not have an outing planned. There is lots of casual wear around today, for easy day living, they feel comfortable therefore happy.
The beauty of living alone, can be of your choice, it does have a lot of advantages, everyone is different as we know, we are unique and quite amazing, what they thought was not for them, could end up being perfect, (or not) this depends on the individual, what is for sure is the happier they are, more will they achieve in persuing what they want. Have a great life and love yourself always.
You have to know in your heart that you are ready to be open to love, relationships can take a long time, it’s takes time to allow commitment to form, and the first rule you need to know is the importance of loving yourself first, because this will help you to love others. For a relationship to be strong with lots of love there has to be great communication and honesty between you and the love of your life you are looking for. While you are looking for the love of your life, don’t look to hard because they will be waiting for you, when you start to do things you love, you have to let go of the life you thought you would have had, as to have the life that is waiting for you.
Destiny always plays a role in this chance meeting of the love of your life, be in the right place at the right time, there is always a place where you feel comfortable and you let your personality shine out, you know where you like to go, just be there.And whatever you do, don’t let a past bad relationship keep you from finding the love of your life. You have to go, at times through bad days, to get to the best days of your life. Anyone can appear in your life and whisper how much they love you but it needs someone super special to stay in your life and to show how much they love you.
You have to be able to see the difference between loving a person and just loving the affection he or she shows you, also love can become a habit when your not looking, so you also have to be certain you have not fallen into a routine trap which is not a healthy habit. When we are in love it feels good, and this at times can be to strong to see true thoughts about your loved one, make sure you see their true qualities and not the one’s you wish to see. Anyone can make you smile, others can make you cry, and then the love of your life can make you smile with tears in your eyes. And also don’t panic, when you start to follow your heart you may feel you are going crazy in the process.
It is important to form an emotional link with this special person before a physical one, however if the physical bond comes first it will not stop you from having an emotional bond, it just takes a little longer and is a little more difficult, you have to let your instints help you when meeting this special person, you need to trust yourself and the decisions you make,be comfortable and patient take your time be open to new situations in what you refer to as love. On many occasions we enter relationships with baggage, if this is the case assure yourself that they will help you to unpack.
And finally if you find the love of your life, hold on tight it could be the most fantastic journey of your life.
“Being a family means you are a part of something very wonderful. It means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life”
If you find that your mind is full of nothing, little things that get in our way all day long, just stops us from getting where we want to go. you will be premanently distracted and this will wear you down, and what we have to learn is that these small things are not important, they will make no difference what so ever, if you don’t put your washing into the washing machine until the afternoon, does it really matter, what difference will it make, if you clean the car tomorrow instead of today, does it make a difference, if we have to wait at the post office to collect a parcel a little longer than we would normally does it make a difference. What difference do these little things make.
When you give attention to these little details that will distract you, when you focus on these unnecessary details, you will not feel good, so you have to realise that these little things do nothing to help us on our forward motion of a good and happy life. You need to simplify this clutter in your mind, to be able to take care of your own feelings. When you do this you are creating space, lots of room to accomodate everything new you want in your life.
This will help you to see things in a different way, you will realise that nothing in our life, comes with a good or bad label on it, it is the feeling we attach to it, that creates the good and bad, everything is nothing until we decide differently, you give the meaning to everything simply by the feeling you create. It’s not the situation it’s your feeling towards it that makes it what it is, so if you could avoid numerous things that make you feel bad, would you not do this ?
“Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”
The Law of Attraction is at work at all times, I have mentioned this many times, how you send out your feelings and thoughts is what comes back to us, when we use our time on trivial things that really never make a difference, will be returned to us, the universe does not take in to account good and bad, it simply gives back what it receives from us, when you think badly of someone or gossip badly about a person you do not have feelings and thoughts that carry any love, therefore what returns holds no love, whatever you give you receive, the Law of Attraction is very simple to understand on this level, those bad feelings will come back to you.
“Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” Albert Einstein.
It’s Monday.. a great new day to start a great new week, what we don’t know is that this could be the start of a big change in our life. Everyday is an opportunity for new things to come into our life, our job is to be open to thoses opportunities. Having and holding on to the believe that anything is possible, on any given day, the situation or the person we need to meet is a possibility, so obviously we need to start our day with positivity, to be alert and ready to make the right choices, remember we always have a choice in any situation, what we did last week or even yesterday has gone it now belongs to the past, not the present, your inspiration is new, how you feel is new,your frequency is new, everything is new ! your chance, choice, commitment to what you are doing, so it’s up to you to make the most of that.
If you are starting a new job today, or you have an interview today, that is bringing your dream nearer to you, if this is so, congratulations you are making new choices to making your dreams a reality, and you have done that, situations have been put in your path to make this all possible. It this is not your case, never forget, that this new day also brings many opportunities to you, it is exciting to know that you are creating your reality every second of the day, don’t waste this time away, be your best at everything you do, if you are not happy with something you are doing, change it, even if you have to completly re-do it, feel good about yourself and your productivity, don’t worry about the judgement of others, you are your best judge, you know when you have done your best, your attitude you carry with you should always show how you would like to be treated, if you have a good attitude, you will receive a good attitude back, give and you will receive.
This is your new day, own it and make it a great day for you and those around you,design your own happiness and future, one step at a time,believe in yourself and know that you can create your reality.
Have a great Monday……..Be happy !!
The way you present yourself is your personal business card, we are a walking talking business card, and we never get a second chance to make a first impression, we only have one opportunity. How you present yourself, is how people first view you,so what are you showing and telling ? because this determines how others see you. Don’t forget that style is more than just what you wear, but it is how you are seen as a whole, you see the world as it is today, when human relationships are so fast, fashion can be an instant language, on saying that please don’t fall into being a fashion victim, informal dressing is very popular today, we now have gabinet ministers that no longer wear a tie, the secret is to look together with a good clean polished look, it’s not what you wear, it’s how you present the whole look that determines what their first impression will be, it is how you will be remembered, Beauty lies in us by being different and unique, Beauty is more than just looks, it’s about how you speak and interact with others, Beauty is not about having a good face, it also envolves a good mind , good heart and most importantly a good soul. People respect respectable people and they observe how you treat yourself. It also envolves confidence, how can your audience be confident about what you say.
“You have brains in your head You have feet in your shoes You can steer yourself in any direction you choose”
Remember the next time you are meeting some one, on a one to one , the impression you make will be the impression they will remember.
Have a great Sunday !!!
I went about my normal day today, and instantly had a smile and felt happy, living on the mediterranean gives you lots of bright days, it’s not sunshine all the time, but we don’t tend to get smoggy skies, it can be cloudy some days and even the odd low temperature, but generally it’s pretty good, and that makes a big difference when you go out to start your day, already spring can be seen, the almond tree’s are in full bloom, beautiful pink and white flowers are all around, and with a little breeze, a carpet of colour lies at your feet. making your way around a very pleasant experience, the almond perfume is in the air, coffee shops and terraces busy, a very mediterranean way of life, and people love to talk, and not always in a european quiet way, and they would be totally lost without their hands and arms, there body posture making it easy to read, how they feel and how their day is going. Early morning see’s the mothers who have just left their children at school, and now winding down after the getting ready and breakfast rush, and even maybe a little tear at the school gate, any of us with children will have experienced this,they sit and chat and compare their motherly commitments, other mothers take the coffee and rush of to work, the working mum has a totally different appearance and posture, you see the way we move through are day or life, can tell us everything we need to know, slumped shoulders and head down is definetly a person who is not very happy and would probaly just want to be invisable to the world, why ? they could have stress, depression,I mentioned yesterday that if you live in fear and anxiety you are not part of the world, you shy away from it, or hopefully they are just having a bad day, but this is not likely to change their body posture so quickly, so this is someone that could need a little TLC and have their place in the world, given back to them, so if someone near to you is like this, reach out and make a difference, however you will need that person to want that, they tend to find being a victim their comfort zone, but a little love can go a long way………love is a great medicine, now the other side of the coin our the happy people, they step out with vigor, head held high, shoulders back welcoming the world and ready for opportunities, that will not pass by them, this does not mean that they do not need TLC, we all need love in our life, and the more the better, this can come in many ways, a simple good morning from a total stranger can mean alot to some, this I am happy to say is very much tradition here when we are treated in the right manner in an office, supermarket in our general day we instantly feel good and happy. This should be a normal thing to happen, but sadly this is not the case, so when we come across these not so happy people, take a second and think ! We are happy and hopefully the person infront of you might be also happy real soon, happiness can be contagious so be happy for them and let them see that when you are in the world, its a great place to be, happy alive and enjoying everyday.
Have a happy day…………………….
We feel every moment of the day, it is something we cannot switch of, when we sleep we can turn of our conscious mind, but not our feelings, we feel with every part of our body from the moment we are born, the only time we don’t feel is when we are dead, to feel is to be alive.
We have our five senses so that we can feel things in life, they are feelings that you can see,hear,taste,smell and touch you can feel everything , your feelings design your life, the way your life is at the moment is because of the way you feel. Your words and thoughts are so many during a day, it is the feeling that go’s with them that sends out your frequency to the universe, our words and thoughts are important but without the feeling behind them, they will fall short, and not reach there destination, when you are manifesting for what you want in your life, this is why feelings are so important, when we express our dislike of a situation or a person it is followed by negative feeling,it is as easy to think before we speak and phrase the sentence in a positive way, therefore giving out a positive feeling. Remember that what you give out you receive back. You have to give feeling to the thought, so it will take form.
If we go back to the subject of Love, the more positive your thought, the more love is attached to it, it is a positive feeling,and the more love you give, the more love you will receive. The same with fear, hate, despair they are negative and do not have love attached and exactly the same will happen, it is what you will receive. The happier you feel, the happier your life will become, and of course the worst you feel the worse your life will become. Your life is in your hands, feeling good is not a difficult to do, for a better and happy life, when you appreciate what you have around you and see it (many people don’t) take the positive and feel good, feel the sun rays or the wind or the rain, it’s not bad, think of all the tree’s and plants that need that , and of course us, we need water, so it’s great to see the rain. It is impossible to feel good and have negative feelings, note the word good, okay is not enough, okay is more negative than positive. Your feelings reflect what you are giving, and reflect what you will receive.
Have a good day, be happy, everything has a good side !! When asked, what do you answer, is your glass half full or half empty ?
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