When you really start to take notice of the power you have within, you can start to change your life and help the things you truly want to come into your life, you can help to create them into reality, having a positive start every morning will start you on the right road, when you step out with confidence in what you are doing and who you are, people will notice and respond to you in a different manner, you where not born into this world to hide away, share your talents and abilities with the world , because you will have them, even if you think, that this is the case, we have all hidden talents, that we are aware of, but through lack of confidence, shyness what ever you wish to call it, we do not use it, if you fail to use it, you are not using your purpose in life.
You deserve to have a happy life and to be happy, do you know what you want right now, could you finish this sentence? “I accept for myself………………….” if you can do this, you believe in yourself and what you are worth, if you reject what you really want due to your lack of confidence and your own lack of worth, you are closing the doors to your happiness yourself, how you feel within yourself and how you carry yourself and your thoughts determines on how your day your week month life goes……………it is all down to you, you are the important factor, if you have always been taken in by old beliefs, now is your time to change that, have enough confidence within yourself to take that positive change and start to create the life that you wish, the way you think and the thoughts that you process are the concepts that form those very beliefs that you can build your new on, and create what you truly want.
Public speaking – what a topic, I know that many of you, break out in a sweat and shake in your boots, just at the thought of it, not actually doing it, to a point being nervous is normal, you are maybe going to stand in front of a number of people, the amount really is not important, the effort on your part is the same if its 10, 100 or thousands…… and the points to be guided by are also the same, there are four principal points to take on board, when you know you will be a public speaker at many events and requested to do so many times, ……………………Always start with by being totally fired up with your subject and be tenacious, firm in your beliefs, because this is what you are going to need to translate to your audience, this is far more important than you can image, if only it was possible to be able to visualise the spirit and hear the heart of your beliefs, your audience would be totally engaged with you. If your start however is weak and without conviction, you will have lost them within seconds of beginning, it is important to maintain the same energy throughout your talk, this will feed your enthusiasm and that of your audience,just think how your self confidence will soar, your capacity to speak and convince , a perfect speech, both said and received.
Know what you are going to talk about, you really must be the master of your subject……….unless you know what you are talking about back to front, it is normal you will feel apprehensive before hand, however knowing the subject exceedingly well , will only fuel your confidence, no matter is requested of you your nerves will not be settled on that, as you know that you can comfortable talk and answer all that is asked of you, there is nothing worse than doubting yourself and your subject, this shows and people will pick up on it, straight away. It is also important that if you move, which is quite acceptable, the movement does not become a tick, the same movement over and over again will be seen in this way. There are a few tricks you can do with your hands and fingers forming a triangular open space, that can take care of shaky hands or twitchy fingers.
Third point, is to proceed with confidence, it has been said that the action comes after the feeling, but in fact both are closely tied, regulating the action which is under control of your voluntary impulse, which indirectly regulates are feelings. Again knowing are subject and confidence go hand in hand, no matter how much you prepare and take that deep breath before you go forward, a lack of knowledge will be seen, and no great effect will be made. Always breath deeply at least 30 seconds before you start, this will give you the oxygen you need to feel the bravery you may need, this breathing takes the nerves away. There are many ways to look upon your audience, some say to rest your eyes just above their headsand fix yourself to a spot as your guide line, personally when you fix a spot, it is very difficult to interact with your audience and this will give a feeling of being absent, and you could lose the interest of your audience, Dale Carnegietold his students to think of your audience as people who owed you money, and that they were there to ask you for more time to be able to pay, this apparently has a good affect. It is a golden rule not to hide behind any kind of aid for you on a stage, hiding away will resolve nothing, however if you stand behind a chair or a table and use it to lean on, this will help you to keep yourself under control………some great speakers of today, will hold a pen, place their hand in the pocket of their jacket or hold their glasses, we all find our little thing that make us feel comfortable and when we are comfortable we generally will do a good job, also try to wear clothes that you feel comfortable in, if you are dressed very well, but, feel very uncomfortable you are wearing the wrong outfit !! Give thought to what you wear as “all eyes are on you” you are your business card, and first impressions last,
And finally, practice practice and practice, this could be one of the most important things for you to do, the more you do it, the better you get, if you totally fall apart time after time, maybe you should look for someone to talk for you, although everyone can learn to Speak in Public if you have already forgotten what you have read till now, remember this, the first method, the only method and a method that never fails to develop our self confidencefor speaking in public, consists in talking…….this big problem reduces to one thing just practice and practice , anyone of us, can fall into an attack of nervous excitement, which has nothing to do with being shy , we can have this attack along with a little temperature , the only way to get the better of this situation and discomfort is the more you do it, generally the less these attacks will appear. Each time you will become stronger and more confident with what you are doing. Always go through your talk before your event, practice in the mirror if you wish to see the result you could be having on your audience !! Remember know your game, spring into action, have feeling and interest for what you are doing, use your voice and yourself to attract the affect you want, and dress for the occasion, remember you are your visiting card, best foot forward and good luck !!
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Do you ever ask yourself this question, that something some where is missing, but, you are not quite sure what ? That you are doing everything and more, yet the pieces are still not placing themselves together, a little like a jigsaw puzzle. As the question above suggests, we try to find ourselves, what exactly does that mean, what are we looking for, if we don’t know what we are looking for, how can we find it ? ……………….Or are you looking for something you do know, but can’t reach that place, is it something so far away from the life you lead, it could be verging on impossible, although I have to say, I do believe in the possible, if we truly want it, we need to go and get it…………easier said than done, I admit, we have to put things into reasonable perspective !! and that you have to decide.
Are you fighting yourself or the society you have around you, many of us wish for a freedom, that only we can give ourselves, freedom is a sensation you need to feel, when you feel your freedom it is easier to find it truly in your life, it will start to materialise if you can achieve the sensation, you will never be able to accomplish anything new if you can’t feel the emotion of how it feels, freedom can be many things and in the form of many things, we all seek a different kind and obviously you have to know what freedom you want. if it is financial, you need to find the means to do that, life has been made simpler now with the help of the internet, never be afraid to branch out and try something new, you can learn and do not let your age be a problem, I can prove to you that new lives are out there for you, if you are prepared to take those steps……..you will have seen in my previous posts how I talk about one of my multistream incomes in Network Marketing, don’t let anyone tell you, you can?t, because yes you can. If you are looking from personal freedom from a stale relationship, don’t hang back, take the steps necessary to set yourself free and obtain your freedom, remember this concerns another person and you are setting them free also, even though they may not feel that at the time, you know, that everything happens for a reason whether you seek your freedom or give it. at times it is a relationship that is not right, that causes us to lose ourselves, we lose our identityand feel lost.
We all long to be wonderful, but again it is a feeling, an emotion our attitude our mindset whatever you wish to call it, you have to believe that you are wonderful, that is the secret, the big and only one, how you see yourself, there is no reason why that should not be wonderful, wonderful can be in many ways, it can be physical it can be mentally and it can be an around package, a truly wonderful person, and if that is your belief there is little than can stop you feeling and being that way, this is how your confidence grows how you grow as a person, the way you see yourself, sadly many people go down hill when they have an upset in their life of any kind, yes things happen and we have a few off days, but then it is time to pick ourselves up, we were not born to be victims, we are born to shine, in everything we do, when we give our best, you know and that is what matters more than anything else, what you know and feel, in any area where you think you need attention to your life, always be grateful and keep the magic going, believe in everything you do and say.
Now for many of you that follow my blog here, you will know my soft spot for Mr Einstein….. and here we have yet another great saying, and it is so true, I often wonder when speaking and listening to people in general, what on earth they would do if something went wrong in their life, or I also find that many have what I refer to as a selective memory,when will people realise that by making mistakes they are learning to grow, the person who constantly talks and finds fault with others is the one who truly needs to grow, they have limited experiences and the slightest of them, leave them with no idea on what or how to do things, there is nothing wrong with mistakes in life, they are lessons sent our way and are living proof of a constant evolution in trying new things and making progress in the right direction. It is not down to us to judge others for what they do or don’t do, we should look for ourselves and if we can help others along the way, it is a job well done…………no one understands the suffering or worries of another, so understanding should always be given priority and not to take a critical stand. Freedom can also be found in this situation, freedom to be who you really are.
So what attracts one person to another, most people will always go for a physical reaction as a certain physical attraction is needed, but it can be for many things, carisma,intellect, humour confidence, these are all qualities that attract people to us, however, when we are truly free and feel freedom in every fiber of our mind and soul we show ourselves in a way that maybe has been hidden for many years due to circumstances that has not allowed that freedom to flourish. So do you feel there should be more, that you have more to offer, the secret to unleash this freedom, is within you.
Feel and be happy, create the feeling of what you wish, let each link flow free one step at a time, most magic works better when we have appreciation in our life, when we feel grateful and thankful for everything we have in life, magic happens and continues to happen, when we seek freedom of any kind, feel your freedom, believe in yourself and the freedom you wish to obtain, no matter what kind that maybe, life really is a beautiful place and when you start to live it on your terms and not some one else’s, when you have your freedom and feel free………………………….fly
Always complaining with no end in sight and the use of permanent negative speech, when we use what is known as victim language it feeds insecurity within us and stripes are confidence away. Choose positive words when speaking to others and speaking to yourself. When we use positive language it takes away the drama in difficult situations and has an impact directly on us. To keep your motivation going I suggest you make a list of 20 motivating word, writing them down and reading them aloud when you feel on a downer, can really help at bringing your motivation level back up.
CHANGE YOUR POINT OF VIEW
At times, due to our education we are some what programmed to stay with the bad, it is in relation to survival. But this pessimist attitude stops us from identifying daily good happenings, they are part of everyday, it could be our favourite song, a nice walk, something that makes us smile 🙂 . Make a diary of this, look over it at the end of your day and give thanks for those moments. It can help you through difficulties and obtain a different point of view, a new perspective.
This is a golden opportunity to grow, although it can be the reason for feeling down, and most of us are not equipped to accept unexpected events, we cling to our known world, what we expect. The consequence however ? When we are unsure we feel vulnerable and fear appears, which is one thing can paralyse us, so what do we do ? see these changes as opportunity and not a problem. It has been proven that these kind of situations let you obtain qualities which can be of the utmost benefit.
MAKE A LITTLE PROGRESS
And celebrate them everyday ! You don’t have to be a super heroe and save the world, don’t take on too much, this will make you feel worse, just make a list of small goals, that you wish to reach, make sure you do something everyday to help you reach these goals and keep yourself happy, by doing this and seeing these little results you will feel positive and realise it is possible to do, it will keep you motivated to confront further obstacles and raise your confidence.
FEED THE ENJOYABLE
Find activities that fill you, leave you with satisfaction, things that we tend to avoid, thinking in a negative way that no one will want to join in ? This is a big mistake, take up a hobby, something that lifts you, give it time and enough space in your life to give you a positive result in your life.
DON’T HIDE FROM SUFFERING
You have to learn how to handle it, at times things don’t go how we expect and pain, anger and feeling sorry for ourselves appears, do not become addicted to this feeling, find an internal dialogue to help you fight the frustration, look for solutions and help relieve the feeling.
Are you a couch potato, many of us now pass a lot of hours in front of the magic box, on our way to work and generally at home, without even realising we become trapped in sedentarism, and this hides many consequences which affect our health, and we should know what to do about.
For many years tabaco has been blamed for most deaths as the plague that is bad for us all, however it now seems that a new habit we have acquired is sedentarism, we are so inactive, and this is having a big result on our health, and facts show that more than 3 million people die each year, due to this. So, are you a sedentarism person, are you that little couch potato ? It is very probable that you are, as you may be working sat down for eight hours a day, or on your feet for that same time, and if you add on to that time your travelling to and from work you could be spending up to ten hours sat or standing. This over the years will have sad side effects, it does not always show its face early on in your years, it will be later……the list of the illness it can bring are quite unbelievable !
There are various little habits that we can incorporate into our daily routines to help with this, try to take little breaks during your working hours, get out of your chair, go for a glass of water, every two hours min if possible, try to walk when possible a bus stop earlier or by taking stairs, spend less time on the sofa and try to take a little stroll, try to practice a sport or take up an activity for at least 150 mins a week, this can really give your life a quality turn of 180 degrees, spend more time doing odd jobs or gardening than watching the tv or just sitting.
It is also known, that not only our physical health can be damaged, but also our emotional state , when we move and are active it is good for our confidence, self esteem, how we approach life and our daily jobs in general, the more we move the move active we become both physical and mentally and of course the happier we are, what more motivation can we wish for.
The advantages of the Urban Garden, whether it be an extension to your pantry or ecological or just a very gratifying hobby. Making your own Urban Garden is great for your health and personal satisfaction.
You may think that the trend Urban Garden is very “cool” and the in thing to do, however Urban Garadens have been around since just after the second world war, when many towns starting to use green land to plant vegetables, and to become a little more self sufficient and the food was fresh which was also something hard to come by, at the time. Now, everyday and everywhere we see more Urban Gardens in the towns, the trend is back, we see them on roof tops terraces and town houses with small spaces allocated to pots and boxes of seeds and vegetables, even in some of the big hotels, its fashionable and stylish and of course very healthy. all you need is a little space and wonder what you are going to grow and how. We now can even see the old allotment becoming popular again, some are offered by your local Town Hall.
A great solution to limited space, is the vertical Urban Garden, this can be made from pallets, pipes a variety of things, you just need to give it a little thought, and imagination, this system enables you to grow flowers, herbs and vegetables in a vertical structure as in a wall. This kind of garden has many advantages and one of them is you do not need to use as much water, to obtain fresh fruit and veg for your home, and it can be very decorative on your wall. If you go for this idea try to remember that a wall with a little sunlight would be perfect, and of course your watering can be the oldest type there is, top to bottom with the simple help of gravity, no fancy gadgets. Apart from obtaining fruit and veg which is very healthy it is also a great stress reducer !!
Other benefits of Urban Gardens, it is a wonderful point of fresh healthy goods, it can create ties between old and young and maybe even your community. It helps you with your movement and abilities, you can learn to be more organised and plan your little garden, and is a great dose of patience. It gives us another view on nature and helps us to understand and respect nature at its best. It can eliminate daily stress and help us improve our sense of humour, it helps to stimulate our senses and to be actively more mentally agile.
Any terrace, balcony can lend to becoming a pretty attractive and functional Urban Garden, nothing can be compared to picking your own herbs or vegetables, making a salad straight from your garden cannot be beaten, make the effort create a new habit and enjoy