SHY AND FINDING LOVE IN LATER LIFE..

Just reading the headline of this post,is enough to scare the life out of some people, later in life you can be on your own for many years, this is a common situation, at times it is because this is what you want, you send out vibrations that is telling the whole world stay away from me ! or you could be trying so hard, your vibration just scares people away, however there is another group of people who would maybe love to have a life companion, a new partner to share their life with, but they are shy and just simply do not know how to go about it…….

 

When you are shy, you start to imagine different situations and the whole embarrassment of meeting someone, are you concerned that people may laugh at you, you are timid but also very afraid of the reaction you may create. 

This is all in your mind and an inferiority complex you are nursing which converts you into a negative and frightened person. 

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To help overcome this situation in your life, it would be a good idea to count on a female/male friend, who in a very natural way you could form a relationship to overcome these fears, if you find her/him attractive, even better, take yourself outside your comfort zone, with the assurance of your friendship, admit that you are afraid to be criticized or not accepted, and listen to the replies that you get, use this feed back to help you take the following steps. If you can create a link of confidence with this person, who better to help you with this task. 

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Looking for a new partner, later in life, has nothing to do with luck, mature love is more to do with intelligence, knowing what you want, what you are looking for and having confidence within yourself. Don’t ever be afraid to speak what is on your mind, nothing is taboo in mature love, feelings really should be said out loud and obviously showing our feeling is not a crime ! 

 

Wishing you all lots of love ❤

 

 

Brooke Universal Coach

 

 

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YOU ALSO……………………….

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We all have the hidden power of intuition within us, we just have to recognise it and let it flow freely, it will never let you down, it is your inner guidance, your personal GPS, working everyday, all day just for you ……………listen carefully, give it a little tender loving care, it really is one of your most prized possessions…………..<3

 

 

Brooke Universal Coach 

 

 

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WHEN YOU FEEL THAT NOBODY LOVES OR NEEDS YOU ………………………..

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I receive many emails regarding, feeling like a spare part ? Some of you seem to be passing time, all day and everyday, especially if you have children who have flown the nest with a feeling that nobody needs you anymore ! You are depressed and certainly not happy, you may find that your partner has a social life with his friends, and you are left behind on more that one occasion, or you have not had a partner during your years of raising your children and you feel even more alone, you may not have a situation of the empty nest, but maybe your children have started school and they become independent and you have more time on our hands, which at the moment is getting the better of you, most people long for time, it is one thing most people like to claim, and can’t…….you are basically bored and don’t know what to do with yourself, and at times sadly this is when a depression can go one step further and bad dark thoughts run through your mind, , so what do we do to turn this round, until very recently you have felt important and needed by your family, and when your children have flown the nest, you fall apart !! not because they are not there, it is more to do with you having never set goals  or objectives which make you feel important, you can start to do physical exercise, activities that you enjoy and will help you to relax dancing, painting or join a club where you can sing, if you enjoy that….. you can travel, take a look around you and you will see other woman in similar situations enjoying activities outside the home, this can be a big cross-section of ages, as each situation is different,when you start to join these activities you will feel that you are not alone, that a new group of friends are starting to form you start to feel valued again as a person,  what ever the reason, why you feel this way, if you are living with a partner, it is very important that you discuss your situation with them, let them know how you feel, hopefully this will open a dialogue for you both to put an end to your boredom within the home, this way, you should be able to start to feel happier within your situation and most importantly understood. When you both have the ability to enjoy other activities, with the new-found time that you will now have.

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Always make the most of your time, as later it is something we can never get back, if you are alone, you can enjoy life just the same, there is no written rule that states you have to go through life with a partner 

 

Brooke Universal Coach

 

 

 

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OH YES I CAN !!……………………….

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So, now you have it very clear on what you cannot be/do etc., but, wow just look, a little courage and you can have all this, it has to be a win win with COURAGE………………………Find your courage and live your life!

 

Have a great day, we are half way through the week………..nearly weekend..

 

 

Brooke Universal Coach 

 

 

 

 

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YOUR IMAGE………………………….

Why do so many people feel unhappy with their image and are holding hidden agendas about themselves and how the world see’s them.

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They feel that the image they project is truly horrendous, it is difficult for them to look in the mirror and love themselves, they start to have weird thoughts about finding a partner or friends. They talk themselves into not really being interested in having a permanent relationship and not wanting a family. People around them try to convince them, that everyone has a soul mate, somewhere out there, sadly all this seems to do is just make them more frustrated and depressed. 

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The secret is to believe in yourself, it will be alright, take a look around,at what is going on, pay special attention, see for yourself that there are couples everywhere, which are made up of totally different people, all kinds, pretty,attractive, not so pretty but never horrendous, like you may be thinking, the perfect beauty,does not exist, we all have defects. If we only had relationships with people who are spectacular and perfect within their body , half the world would be suffering with depression. It is a very normal occurrence that normal people, which could be you and I, think of ourselves as ugly, as we always want to compare ourselves with others and always looking for another that is more attractive. If you do not value all the positive points you have, and you continue to qualify yourself as horrendous, you can be absolutely sure that you will have a negative attitude towards life and this in turn will bring out your lack of being attractive to the opposite sex, and you will just manage to send any possible loving partner away as far as possible, maybe it’s time to turn on your charm, you know it is there…………and No you are not horrendous ! We are all beautiful and have wonderful things to offer ❤

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Brooke Universal Coach

 

 

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COURAGE……………………………….

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Today, take a deep breath, fill yourself will all the courage you will need to pursue your dream of today, then slowly exhale and visualise yourself achieving your desired goal……………………now you are ready and you have all the courage you will need.

Brooke Universal Coach

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DON’T LEAVE FOR TOMORROW ………?

Are you one of these people who leaves your tax return till the last day, or you study for your exam the night before, sorry to tell you this, but, if you do the above you are a professional procrastinator………Let’s see if we can get you out of that habit………

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This statement is not what you should hear most, with life being as quick as it is nowadays, don’t get left behind, remember a mobile phone can have us localised 24 hours a day. and it is considered bad education if you don’t reply to an email within the same day, a working environment today has no room for procrastination, also remember that when we stall to answer, act or move forward on something, it can be FEAR, yes, on many occasions, fear is what holds us back, unless of course you are totally lazy, that is another story, however when we start to look at the fear side of procrastination, you will be able to recognise the fear factor, we are unsure of ourselves, we do not have the confidence to get out there, or speak your opinion be it, in a written form or face to face, you know, when we have this reaction, we are in actual fact creating a bigger problem than the original moment, it is having a snowball effect, collecting more and more difficulties along the way, therefore, when we learn to face our fears and deal with the matter at hand it will always have a simpler answer and certainly not any bigger. 

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This statement is also very true and is also a form of procrastination, how many of you, have left things under the excuse of it not being the right time, whether it be that the money is not available for what you want to do, the children are not big enough, can I take the risk, I would love to,but ?? We have all probably done this,but, they really are excuses, although you may not want to see it this way, take the situation and start to break it down into smaller units, one step at a time, it can be done and no excuse can stop you, unless that is what you want !!! People even start new business ventures, without finance, today there are many ways to get started,and slowly grow, working from home is very popular,so children can be worked around more easily, as they say,” where there is a will, there is a way” 

Never waste your time, when you do this, you are in fact wasting the value of your own life also. We far to often do not give the importance we should to this, as we leave so much to be done, at the last minute, procrastination can appear for many reasons, one of them being, we never give ourselves enough time to start and finish what we are doing, have you ever noticed people who always arrive late for a meeting, because they start to get ready to late, then don’t take into consideration traffic, another reason, as I have mentioned is fear, fear of failure…we doubt are own capacity to do certain things, we systematically leave things un done, Over confident, thinking we can do this in record time and in the end, it does not get done or done badly, and another great one, is not being able to say NO, we put so much on ourselves, that we don’t or can’t  fulfil are obligations…..

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Here are some little tips that just might help you out a little………………

1…Realise for once and for all, we are not perfect………..we all make mistakes and will continue to do so in the future, The major thing here is to learn from where we went wrong and try not to do it again. 

2…Change your everyday language, become an addict of saying, “I will” instead of “I won’t” it’s good, give it a try.

3…Give yourself more attention… Don’t only worry about leaving things for tomorrow, look at when it happens, with who, where do you get stuck, over what and over who. If you start to respond to these questions , each time you will have more control over what is happening.

4…Take a breath of fresh air…..Don’t substitute the fear of being judged for suffering from having one hand on top of the other, at times a little rest (siesta) is the most effective thing you can do. Then get back to what you were doing. 

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Brooke Universal Coach 

 

 

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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY !

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NOW, how simple is that…………………………………………so what are you waiting for, have a great week, its all up to you ❤

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SUNDAY SEAL………………………….

The artist known as Seal, is originally a Henry, born in 1963 in England, he is a musician, singer and composer. One if his biggest hits “Kiss from a rose” was the soundtrack for the film “Batman forever” he was awarded a Grammy award for this 1995, he started his musical career in 1989 and is still performing in present day, in fact if my information is correct I believe he is on the point of releasing a new album with some of the great swing favourites. 

I hope you enjoy and find this a nice wind down for your Sunday evening. 

 

 

Brooke Universal Coach 

 

 

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WAKEY WAKEY……AND SMELL THE COFFEE !!!

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No Coffee is as good as that first morning coffee, which one will it be on this peaceful Sunday morning !

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Now is the time to get into the world, it really will not wait for anyone so…………….

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Have a wonderful day, Sunday is really a lovely peaceful and enjoyable day, just for you ! 

 

 

Brooke Universal Coach 

 

 

 

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