For a child to feel safe and sure of themselves,it is down to the time and help a parent gives them and teaches them to understand, you have to remember that children come into the world with a complete blank canvas, but learn at an extremley fast rate, they are like little sponges that take up every drop of information it is given, this is not filtered and can be the good, the bad, and the absolutely not…
A child does not feel sure of themselves simply because everything works out well for them, nor is knowing the right from wrong,they also have to know about their strengths and limitations. This is all the work of parents,
Reflect……………. learn how to wait after the tears and tantrum, to be able to put into action the correct answer or solution to the problem.
Iniciative………….. They need to be left to find the different alternatives . Parents need to be patient, the learning curve crossing from showing them and the errors they make can be time consuming.
Give the example. We cannot expect our children to find solutions in a calm manner if we react in the opposite way, crazy and not coherent.
Values…………… You have to be supportive when they make an achievement in any area, this will give them belief in themselves and they will see that they are capable of over coming future obstacles.
Emotions……….. If they are mad or in tantrum mode, you must explain to them that everyone has these emotions and sentiment but that they must learn to control this, just because the outcome is not what we wanted.
One of the first problems that children face, is that they are not always going to get what they want, by not showing our children this lesson is only posponing there happiness, it will make it more difficult for them to face any kind of problem and successfully resolve them. In the world that we live in today, most children have nearly everything they want, and in many homes they say what is watched on the television and the food they are going to eat. Children that are given everything they want, as to not have a scene or tantrum (at home or in public) are only producing a spoilt and consented child, a child that will have great difficulties and frustration in resolving difficulties they may face as they grow. When a child does not know how to channel these frustrations they will be unhappy, as a child and as an adult, they will never understand why they cannot have what they want, they will always blame others,or put it down to circumstances and a thousand other excuses. The only way to resolve this is to say NO, the sooner they understand and respect this word, the happier they will be, as they grow they will need to understand, that many things in life are going to be a no, if they have experienced this, just try to imagine how hard life is going to be for them, do you want this for your child, alot of the time we do not see the impact further down the line is going to be, we all want are children to be happy, but there has to be boundries, rules and regulation’s,they are happier for it. When a child has a structured life style knowing that the word NO exists they become far more capable of being a happy teenager and adult .
When a child is prone to tantrums “time out” is one of the best solutions, this also gives the child time to calm down, do not let them fool you with the tantrum, you will find once the lesson has been learnt, the shouting and screaming will soon stop, and each time will become easier, but you have to put time and effort into this,and never offer a prize for good behaviour or a way to calm a child down, this only gives them more power for the next tantrum,they have to learn that this behaviour will not get them what they want,we all want happy children, and the way you resolve there conflicts now will determine how happy and for long that will be, When you make it quite clear that a NO is a NO, with no prize or compromise, the batter for all, and never say No and five mins later say OK, this is sending out the worst of signals and giving permission for everything. Children do not love you less, because you say No, or give them a good social or academic education.
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YES, IT DOES!
Take yourself to the beach today, close your eyes and feel that ocean breeze across your face and moving your hair, let yourself drift with the sensation and allow the clarity to move in…………………
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READY STEADY GO….
Remember that there is nothing you cannot do……….you are capable of great things and everyday is a new beginning, a new opportunity, so start your week as you been to go on…………………..
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BE HAPPY……….ALWAYS
The happier you are, the more you will attract what you desire, be happy!
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TIPS FOR BETTER CONCENTRATION
A great strength has to be found in organization and planning, and the better you know yourself the easier this will be, to be able to go forth and tackle with the needed concentration on major events, you have to know your best time, are you a morning or a night person? choose the best time for you………it is also well worth remembering that your concentration span is around 45 mins, so it’s not wise to go on further than that, organize your rest periods and then go back to what you are doing… take around 10 mins between your periods of concentration, by doing this you are actually gaining time and not wasting it, always take your rest period to reach your full concentration potential.
Concentration and motivation are very closely linked, the more you enjoy what are doing, the better your concentration will become, you will able you to visualize and to be more positive.
Always try to find the appropiate place when you know you need to concentrate, your surroundings are very important, as little noise and distraction as possible,
Of course, you may find that the noise does not come from around you or the exteriors, it can be simply within you, this is may be the worst kind, your mind jumping from one thing to another, that little voice you have within that is telling you different options and opinions, when you feel this atmosphere around and within in, take contro of yourself and apply relaxation techniques to calm yourself down, sufficient to be able to have a clear concentration time.
And finally remeber you are human, and there will be moments that you will be distracted and it is not the correct moment for you to concentrate as you should, accept this, don’t become angry with yourself, the soon you accept it for what it is, you will be able to start to concentrate more and better…..
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NEW YOU
A new way of thinking is essential when we wish to change our lifestyle and who we wish to be, everything we learn is beneficial to us and those around us, we should never stop learning, each day, one small thing is sufficient for us to master are new string of thoughts and the journey in which we wish to embark, nothing is impossible,if you set your mind to it!
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CAN YOU COPE?
Can you cope? some of us are very good at coping and maybe even hiding the facts from others, although this is not the answer, the more open we are the better it is for all concerned, you are in a position to voice your opinion and express your concerns and may be even panic regarding the subject, depending on what it is ………….. the more you can express yourself freely without hiding the facts from others, the better you will feel,this will also allow you to feel supported by your friends and loved one’s and in a position to sit and chat it through, no matter what it is, if you feel you need to.
How you cope with any situation will greatly determine the outcome, you have to be able to divide yourself a little and distinguise between your emotional and logic sides, when you can do this, you are relieving your nervous system of a trauma waiting to happen, we are all capable of falling apart over many things, but, when we think why we should not, it helps greatly and you are the principal reason followed by your family and friends. The more together you are, the more you can reason and understand, the more clarity you will have, and the less self pity and sympathy you will wish to feel for yourself.
When we look at our problem, as a challenge sent to us, we instantly take on another view and our action plan is different, we start to operate from the brain and not the emotional heart, this does not make us hard or misunderstood it simply allows us to go through the motions in a step by step process and we don’t bounce all over the place, along with our emotions, we will have high and low days, but we will know deep down that we are never sent anything that we cannot handle, although it may seem impossible at the time, we are resilient, and strong and can overcome anything, if we have the correct mind-set…… and the support we need from ourselves and the one’s we love, whatever you are going through it is a challenge, you can overcome, an experience you can put into your life folder and maintain the power within your knowledge. ……………you are becoming that better person, that person that is still within your learning curve of life……the person you wish to be….
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AND YOU?
When you gain knowledge, which is Power you add Love and of course a Sound Mind, you have developed balance and equilibrium within your life…………………
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THE DANGEROUS TYPE OF WOMAN OR MAN….
Married life is something you have to work at, as I am sure many of you know, at times we come across people you are not healthy to your marriage, here is a small guide about which kind of people you need to look out for, if you don’t want your marriage falling into the danger pit!
The Sparky type
These kind of people can be your friend, a gym colleague or you may even know them from work, and on top of it can be happily married and just like to take pity on their down colleague, they may enjoy the same kind of hobbies as your partner or none at all, but for some reason they catch the attention, they light up a spark, and this is dangerous for your marriage.
That Special Friend
You probably know or have heard of them, as when we become infatuated by someone we tend to mention their name an awful lot, watch out for that, its difficult to know where that fine line between friend and something else exactly is, but it does get crossed, it can start with the odd text, then it becomes a constant stream, the danger point here is when all goes quiet, that is when they start to cover their tracks, beware……………
The Online Connection
Your partner might think that a little flirt on the internet is just fun !! beware….they can be extremely naive, after a while this” flirting”has to go somewhere, it starts to progress ? or just fades away ……it can be a great escape route and helps you to believe you have found your soulmate………..take care with this one.
The Emotional Affair
When you reach this stage, emotions have been put on the table, feelings are out there clinging on to whatever is possible, both parties will be getting more and more into it and the energy will be zooming round, and very little will be left for the marriage,if it becomes public knowledge they will swear they have hardly kissed !!!!
The Full Blown Affair
Bad news this is the full package, emotional and physical, although they will only admit to sex, “its only sex” and just wish to end the relationship, in most cases, not all ! Your partner may wish to work on your marriage, but very often the other relationship continues in secret, not wanting to close any door for good at this moment.
The Love of Their Life
This really is your worst nightmare and outcome, your partner will tell you they have found their soul mate, they will feel bad for hurting you but it will not stop them from seeing each other, but don’t despair just yet, they have yet to know each other well, they have not crossed any bridges or family problems yet, your partner will feel very in love with this third person more than anything else to justify the hurt they create for their family.
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YES, IT’S YOU
Never be afraid to find yourself alone, at times when we become who we wish to be, people see the change in us, but do not wish to understand the why or where of it all, we find ourselves for the better not for the worse, don’t let trivial things worry you, if you feel you are on the right path to truly being you, carry on……………….you deserve it…..
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In the world that we live in now, is very different than that of days gone by when love was forever and people stayed together for a lifetime, this is now more out of the ordinary than break ups,
So what goes wrong in these modern times, do we just all have a sell by date, or are we totally unaware of the needs,emotions and understanding it takes. People have no idea of what they are going into, being in love is not the same as liking some one. A life long commitment needs the real thing,we all know how difficult it is to live with someone else,we need to find the person that is right for us, that shares the same capacity as ourselves of understanding each other and others around us, to respect and admire for who people are and how they are, when there is no respect or your admiration wears thin we walk away.
So how do people understand between themselves ? You need to be able to put yourself in the place of the other and understand how they would react, how they would express themselves, if you have this with your partner, you will obtain a deeper relationship,and could live a true real love, but this has to be both ways, it is no good if only one of you do this. Does luck have anything to do with all this, well, being born was a pretty lucky event, so who knows maybe luck is involved, maybe you were in the right place at the right time, or maybe not, maybe it was just meant to be ? We have to have the ability to find the correct person and to know what is right for us, you have to be able to see and feel that somethings are right and some are wrong, this is when you have to be strong and very truthful with yourself. Your happiness long term is at stake here, and if you are not truthful with yourself and strong enough to walk away if you know that something is not right, you will never be truly happy and in time will also take that happiness away from your partner. The more you have in common (outside your love bubble) the better, this does not mean that you have to do everything together, your own space is also valuable in a lasting relationship, but by having these interests, values, likes,dislikes will always give you a focal point,never be afraid to speak out your opinion, the art of discussion is very healthy in a partnership,please note here that we are not talking about an argument, it is here where the respect comes in, and with mutual respect, life will never be boring,you are both individuales.
Love is a wonderful thing, and if you experience this love with your partner, and you understand each other, you could have a long and happy life together…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
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IT’S YOUR TIME
It is a perfect time for you to decide what you are looking for in life, it is not right that you continue your life to always please others, you now have the opportunity before you to live your life and not one that has been chosen for you…………
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