In the busy lives that we live today, do we remember all the small things that can make little people into fantastic big one’s !
This doe’s not mean we don’t want to teach them all these things of course we do, but, other things some times, just get in the way, and we over look the tiny things that can have a great impact on them and as they are as young adults.
Do your children ever hear you telling complimentary things about them to other adults, this is a great boost for them, but the case maybe that they only hear you telling the problems you may be having with them,this is a normal reaction,but the affect on them is not.
Do you get involved at your child’s school, and their school work and activities, do you encourage them to take extra sports or academic lessons. Are you aware of where they may be struggling in school or with friends.
Do you respect them by knocking before going into their bedroom,if you show respect they will follow you and give it to you, and they love to be appreciated for the little things they do, just like you.
Do they know what to do in an emergency, to be calm and avoid a panic situation, and do you remember to never leave the keys in the car when you are not there ! (kids love adventure)
Do you let them express their imagination, when choosing toys do we think about powering their imagination through them. Encourage them to read books, with all the modern con’s available today, a book is something many children don’t know about.
If you are fair, caring and show integrity, they will pick up on this, and maybe think of you, when they need to apply this. Remember that a lot of childs character is made up like your favourite dish, they are both homemade with love, creativity and skill.
They love to be praised in public and maybe criticized in private, let them know you trust them and how great they are. No time ever spent with your children is wasted time, and never feel that you can’t give them the best of everything, the most important is that you give them the best of yourself.
Listen to your children, they have amazing things to tell you,but pay especial attention to little white lies (we all know when our children do) speak to them carefully and gentle for them to see the right way around a possible problem they may have with someone, something or themselves.
Always remember that your children are what they are and cherish them for that, not for what you’d like them to be. When you ask them to do something, you must always ask “Do you understand” a simple ok is not good enough.Always try to keep peace in your home, a loving atmosphere is strong stability for young children.Always take in their dreams and help them reach them.
It’s hard, but we really should allow our children to know what the consequences of their action’s, can be, this way school is not such a shock, and always give them a hug after the discipline is over, they also have to learn the then and now !When we make rules they have to be clear, fair and consistent.
A great statement for parents to remember is “My child would never do that “……………………..we honestly never know what is around the corner !! But if we also remember to hold your child’s hand every single time you get, because before you know it, they are holding someone else’s hand, and he or she won’t let you. And whatever the outcome may be, we sure know that we love them no matter what……..
Transforming Suffering:
It seems that whenever there are intense emotions involved, there tends to be a disparity between how things appear and how they really are.
Whether we are successful or not, even the honest attempt to search for our own contribution to a problem allows a certain shift of focus that helps to break through the narrow patterns of thinking that lead to the destructive feeling of unfairness that is the source of so much discontent in ourselves and in the world.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
When you choose your life partner, you have to choose really well, this is not an easy decision for anyone, nobody ever know’s, but from this decision depends a lot, it is said that it can be 90% happiness or misery. It is essential that you marry for love, other interests should not be considered, you should always be prepared to make sacrifices and know how to forgive, forgiveness is a big part of making a parnership work long-term, everyone is human and can make mistakes, no one is exempt from that.
Falling in love is also essential, for as you go through your life, you will need to fall in love many times,always with the same person, each stage of our lives bring changes and you will need your love through all this. Your home should always be a happy place, it does not matter what goes on outside, but the harmony and the balance of your home should always be right, happiness within is very important, enjoy your meals together, don’t make them a discussion point about problems within your workplace,and never forget the word forgiveness, when there is a disagreement, which there will be, it does not matter who is right or wrong, always apologize, say the magic words “I’m sorry” this cannot come always from just one of you, this is something you must both know how to say and mean.
At times you will see if you are doing well, by the happiness of your partner and the respect given to you by them, respect is an important aspect of any partnership, we all need to be appreciated from the smallest to the largest thing we do,whatever it may be. Family traditions are also important, they are to be respected and never broken,don’t ever start to take your partner for granted, or friends or family you are all attached by a bond of love.
When choosing your partner, it was once said that if you chose a good partner you will be happy, if you chose a bad one you will be a philosopher (Socrates) on a humourous note, they also say two bathrooms, two bank accounts !! Space is important, we all enjoy our own space, living in a pocket of someone can be very claustrophobic
Generally a good partnership, is based on commitment and not-self convenience, a relationship should be based on the love for each other and not the need for each other, the love you have as young people can be superficial compared to love you will experience in later years, a good strong partnership needs to be built on everyday, don’t forget this, a fire left all to its self will go out ! Love, a great love and to obtain great achievements involve great risks, never be afraid to do that,and above all always be your partner’s best friend.
Never let an opportunity go by, 
to tell the people who you care for that you love them.
If you find yourself worrying too much, it may help to think of the other people who have similar or even worse tragedies. Once you realise that, then you no longer feel isolated, as if you have been single-pointedly picked out. That can offer you some kind of condolence.
Although you may not always be able to avoid difficult situations, you can modify the extent to which you suffer by how you choose to respond to the situation.
Transforming Suffering
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
This is from Free Flow Friday, https://theviewfrommywindow2016.wordpress.com it’s a great idea from Laura, pop over and have a look, join in and enjoy.
Lucky me !! I have to say a great thank you to Lynne, who very kindly nominated me for this award. You must check out her blog for fabulous recipes : https://lynnesrecipetrails.com she is passionate about food, and has fantastic recipes, she is also passionate about animals, 3 dogs and 4 cats, all from rescue shelter’s, so, she also has a big heart, you will be pleased to visit her interesting blog.
The rules;
Display the award on your blog
Nominate 7 other bloggers
Answer three questions that come with your nomination
Ask three questions to your nominee’s
The answer’s to the question’s I was asked are:-
Who was the first blog/blogger you heard of or read and did they inspire you to start ?
No, this was not my case, although I have been here a while, I honestly don’t think I could say I was blogging as such until December of 2015, when I made a decision to see if I could actually acquire follower’s and gain actual interest regarding my topic’s, I am very pleased with my results, which is why I am always grateful to you all. I suppose I challenged myself.
Do you see Blogging as a future career or just a side hobby ?
At the beginning it was a hobby, but as I progressed, I have referred some on my clients to view the blog, as a point of reference for them, I have also acquired clients through my blog, so yes it is now connected to my career.
What is your all time favourite album and why ? How does it make you feel to listen to it ?
This is very difficult to answer, as I have many and very different, I love my Motown Albums, that make me take a trip down memory lane and the feeling is great, I love the sound track Out of Africa, totally different with more of a nostalgic feeling I love and enjoy all types of music, I find music can make me very emotional,and all for different reasons.
My Nominees are:-
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https://euphoriciraqisinglemom.wordpress.com
https://simpledimple.wordpress.com
https://chapeblog.wordpress.com
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My three questions to you are:-
If you knew you only had 24 hrs, until you moved to the other side of the world, what would you do and why ?
What was or do you think will be your favourite age and why ?
What happy event, stands out most in your mind and why ?
I hope you all accept this award and enjoy nominating seven bloggers to continue on this award. You are under no obligation so please feel free to decline if that is the case. Hoping everyone has a great day.
Thank you.
Transforming suffering ;
The point that has to be borne in mind is that the reason why reflection on suffering is so important is because there is a possibility of a way out : there is an alternative. There is a possibility of freedom from suffering.
Initially, of course, feelings of grief and anxiety are a natural human response to a loss. But if you allow these feelings of loss and worry to persist, there’s a danger, if these feelings are left unchecked, they can lead to a kind of self-absorption.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
Misunderstood, what a word ! Do you know how many emotions can be involved in the meaning of misunderstood, we all feel misunderstood at some point in our life, it can bring, frustration, hurt, pain, even love.
Misunderstood, is usually when the other person/s hears you,but does not listen, misunderstood is not some one shouting out I’m right, quite the opposite it is having the goodness of heart to see another’s point of view and respecting that, the same as you, to understand is not to agree, this is when you see the true person in front of you, and at times we don’t see the person we know, we see someone we don’t know, we all look for good in another, but, at times, some people lose that, they lose their heart, it just is not big enough to love and comprehend that of the person they are confronting.
The quote above has an excellent truth in it, have you ever thought of this in this way, maybe this closed of heart that maybe is being directed at you, has far more issues than you. This is not your problem, and you should not take this responsibility on, it’s not your’s it’s their’s. This may sound harsh, but at times life is. When you have experienced being misunderstood, and have gone through your frustration, hurt, pain and many more emotions, a moment will come when you remember yourself, and not the one you are trying desperately to communicate with, you know a square won’t go into a circle, right,,something somewhere will be broken, when we drop a beautiful vase, the first time maybe can be repaired, but the more we drop it, the more difficult it is to fix, so it has to be removed, because it is not pretty enough to be on display, we try with human relationships not to be so drastic but at times the inevitable is the inevitable and you need to care for yourself, before you become the broken vase, you owe it to yourself to be whole, half or pieces of you are not good enough, you are worth more, and a piece of you deep down will know that, look for that, find it and rise, restore yourself, the issue is not you, you have tried, you have done your best, for good or bad results, nothing more than your best, you cannot do more and should not feel that this is all down to you, it is not.Sometimes we just have to realise that the other has greater issues than you, which only they can resolve and if they do, your heart will be bigger and stronger to make decisions, where their’s were not.
Transforming Suffering:
Trying to avoid our problems or simply not thinking about them may provide temporary relief, but I think that there is a better approach. If you directly confront your suffering, you will be in a better position to appreciate the depth and nature of the problem. If you are in a battle, as long as you remain ignorant of the status and combat capability of your enemy, you will be totally unprepared and paralysed by fear. But if you know the fighting capability of your opponents, what sort of weapons they have and so on, then you’re in a much better position when you engage in the war.
Our attitude towards suffering becomes very important because it can affect how we cope with suffering when it arises. Now, our usual attitude consists of an intense aversion and intolerance of our pain and suffering. However, if we can transform our attitude that allows us greater tolerance of it, then this can do much to help counteract feelings of mental unhappiness, dissatisfaction and discontent.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
So, you’re not getting what you want, don’t blame the Law of Attraction, don’t blame others, it’s you…………….simply you !!
What many of you do not realise is that the Law of Attraction can work against you, and yes, that’s your fault as well……….I know you are not conscious of this, but it is true… what you are thinking and what you believe is what you get, I get emails all the time regarding this, even from people who tell me it has worked and now it’s stopped, this flow is controlled by you and no one else. The Law of Attraction is at work 24 hours a day seven days a week, the message you send out through your thoughts is what come back to you, it’s just like a boomerang,this does not mean if you have a bad thought over something or someone, it does not mean that will happen, we are human at the end of the day, we are not Angels everyday, we have to be realistic over this, but if you have an obsession over someone or something then it might. we are referring about your goals and dreams that you give thought to and believe that you will create and manifest what you want.
The beauty of the Law to the Law of Attraction, is your positive attitude, to be convinced that you can, visualise what you want and don’t stop until you get it. If you are not gettting what you want, you have to change the message you are sending out, the universe is listening to everything through your thoughts and believe’s, you have to focus on what you want, without negative thoughts, negative thoughts and negative believes bring negative situations and negative energy, positive thought and believes bring positive situations and positive energy. When they are negative you are blocking your own success
The beauty of the Law of Attraction, is that you are in control always,it does not cost any money, the only thing between you and what you want is yourself, with your thoughts and beliefs. When you change your thoughts and beliefs, you will then be able to change your energy and you will get the Law of Attraction working for you, and of course what you want.
The Law of Attraction is universal energy which surrounds us and puts everything into motion for us, it is connected to your subconscious mind, your sub conscious mind takes this thought and believe, and creates the situations you need that match your thoughts and beliefs.
When you are in negative mode,in your sub conscious mind (thoughts and believes) you will attract negative people, situations, opportunities and things will get harder and harder and will continue to struggle on your up hill climb. Positive or negative it is a mirror of your thoughts and believes.
When you change the way you think your beliefs and you truly believe you can, the right people will come into your life, the situations that you want will occur, you will start to make the right choices so that you get exactly what you want.
Create positive thoughts and beliefs, focus on finding solutions and you will attract positive situations into your life, let the Law of Attraction work for you.
The Universal Law of Attraction is always ready to work with you, it does not judge anything about you or your life, it’s the thoughts and beliefs that you create, you have the power to create and manifest anything you want.
I have a simple 9 page book, “The Basic Recipe to the Law of Attraction” It covers everything you need to know regarding your initial steps to obtain success with the Law of Attraction. If you are interested in acquiring this book, you can find it at the moment of my blog page, a simple click is all that is needed.
The Law of Attraction is waiting to work with you and to create the life you want.
So, what are your plans today ? Nothing, that sounds great, or maybe you have a little trip organised or family lunch, what ever you may be doing today, I hope it is without checking your watch and stress free today is the time, I hope that you get the opportunity to charge the battery, rest, feel free and enjoy the day.
Do you find it hard to switch off, really do nothing, I realise if you have young children that is difficult, well no, impossible actually, been there,done that! but, I do know that the school route is not on today and you can do fun things, that take your mind of the normal Mon-Fri schedule, although we may enjoy our work, it’s just the feeling of freedom we get from a Sunday.
Whatever your decision for today, try to be more peaceful, calm and enjoy your day, whether it be alone or with your loved one’s. Take five minutes to relax, take a look inside yourself and she what you can see, what it is you want, set your weekly goal, your weekly affirmation and mentally take note, get into your mindset and prepare to take the action required .
Today is a sad day, you may have seen in previous posts, that I have made reference to this great man, I have used his quotes and have always held a special place for him, why I’m not a boxing fan at all, but, I never missed a fight of his, as a child I would be glued to the TV, I think it was his charisma that first probably called my attention, I truly loved to see him, even in his later years, so today ,
I want to give him my little tribute.
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…………………TO THE GREATEST CHAMPION OF 
THE WORLD 
If you read these quotes, just imagine that by believing in yourself, just like he did, you to can be the Champion of your world, so let’s turn this sad day, into a day of positivity and believe, he, I am sure would want this , and from some wonderful distant place he will be “Flying like a butterfly and stinging like a bee ” what more can I say, he will be sadly missed.
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