In the busy lives that we live today, do we remember all the small things that can make little people into fantastic big one’s !
This doe’s not mean we don’t want to teach them all these things of course we do, but, other things some times, just get in the way, and we over look the tiny things that can have a great impact on them and as they are as young adults.
Do your children ever hear you telling complimentary things about them to other adults, this is a great boost for them, but the case maybe that they only hear you telling the problems you may be having with them,this is a normal reaction,but the affect on them is not.
Do you get involved at your child’s school, and their school work and activities, do you encourage them to take extra sports or academic lessons. Are you aware of where they may be struggling in school or with friends.
Do you respect them by knocking before going into their bedroom,if you show respect they will follow you and give it to you, and they love to be appreciated for the little things they do, just like you.
Do they know what to do in an emergency, to be calm and avoid a panic situation, and do you remember to never leave the keys in the car when you are not there ! (kids love adventure)
Do you let them express their imagination, when choosing toys do we think about powering their imagination through them. Encourage them to read books, with all the modern con’s available today, a book is something many children don’t know about.
If you are fair, caring and show integrity, they will pick up on this, and maybe think of you, when they need to apply this. Remember that a lot of childs character is made up like your favourite dish, they are both homemade with love, creativity and skill.
They love to be praised in public and maybe criticized in private, let them know you trust them and how great they are. No time ever spent with your children is wasted time, and never feel that you can’t give them the best of everything, the most important is that you give them the best of yourself.
Listen to your children, they have amazing things to tell you,but pay especial attention to little white lies (we all know when our children do) speak to them carefully and gentle for them to see the right way around a possible problem they may have with someone, something or themselves.
Always remember that your children are what they are and cherish them for that, not for what you’d like them to be. When you ask them to do something, you must always ask “Do you understand” a simple ok is not good enough.Always try to keep peace in your home, a loving atmosphere is strong stability for young children.Always take in their dreams and help them reach them.
It’s hard, but we really should allow our children to know what the consequences of their action’s, can be, this way school is not such a shock, and always give them a hug after the discipline is over, they also have to learn the then and now !When we make rules they have to be clear, fair and consistent.
A great statement for parents to remember is “My child would never do that “……………………..we honestly never know what is around the corner !! But if we also remember to hold your child’s hand every single time you get, because before you know it, they are holding someone else’s hand, and he or she won’t let you. And whatever the outcome may be, we sure know that we love them no matter what……..