Transforming suffering ;
The point that has to be borne in mind is that the reason why reflection on suffering is so important is because there is a possibility of a way out : there is an alternative. There is a possibility of freedom from suffering.
Initially, of course, feelings of grief and anxiety are a natural human response to a loss. But if you allow these feelings of loss and worry to persist, there’s a danger, if these feelings are left unchecked, they can lead to a kind of self-absorption.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.