This is another section connected to my emails, which I feel is valid a post.
It is not uncommon to find children now, with 2 Mummy’s or 2 Daddies,and to them it is perfectly normal if handled in the right way by Mummy and Daddy. In fact, it is probably more difficult for the adult to come to terms with it, than the child (depending on the age of the child) Mummy and Daddy at times can feel resentment towards others that spend time with their children, there is a jealousy that can be difficult to come to terms with, this is probably a very normal reaction but, if considered from all parties from the beginning it can make the transition a little easier for all concerned, especially the children, ( I know I’m asking for a lot) I can hear you loud and clear, and I honestly do understand, but you have to remember that this situation is there because two adults have decided that they can no longer live together, the children do not make that decision and should be spared as much as possible not to suffer the natural human problems that comes with that. And I also know that at times it is not two adults,but one who decides they wish to change their life. This is devastating to anyone and can have many side effects, but it is our duty to put the children first, it’s when you have to be brave and confident for your children, you need to adapt as soon as possible, although some people never adapt, but the children must see that you do and can live without that other person. A depressed parent is the last thing a child should go through and witness,and don’t become another person that let’s all rules and regulations go through the window, for a quiet life or to be on par with the new Mummy or Daddy, that in the end, can damage children dreadfully. Try to keep a routine going for children, they need it, and don’t make the fatal mistake of letting them sleep with you …….because ? Don’t discuss it in front of them with friends or family, children are very clever, and will use it against you at the first opportunity if they think they can achieve something that would normally be a no no…….they pick up on everything, they don’t do this with malice, beware you have been warned, but they are also excellent at adapting to new situations, much better than adults,they nearly all have little oscar winners in them and know how to get what they want.
The next problem that can arise is when a new person is a permanent fixture within the home, this is when at times, the real fun and games can start, It has to be discussed the rules and regulations regarding the children and the boundaries set for them, in many cases, children will play the adults of one against the other, even when the children maybe have no contact with the Mummy or Daddy in the original family unit, if you have a situation where the adults do not support each other, it is a disaster waiting to happen, when children automatically run to the original parent for cover, and they do not support the other,when a child is being chastised both acting parents should be as one, if this is not dealt with, the child will eventually split your new union apart. A parent who covers their children are making life very difficult for themselves and especially for the child, in the original surroundings this would not happen, these kind of children will have problems outside of the home also, in school and general socializing, they will become selfish and think it normal to always have their own way, whether it be at home school or wherever, they will be known as problematic, this is not a label you would want your child to have, as unfortunately a label can stay for life, I am not saying this is right but the child will suffer, for your weakness, again this is a subject that should not be discussed in front of the child/ren. Children with this tendency will also find accepting any future children very difficult, as they can become deceitful in their ways, they learn how to manipulate the weaker adult, and would do the same with a new addition to the family. As you can see this is a delicate situation, and can create many problems, however if it is handled correctly from the start it can be a lot easier, but who said life was easy……………..Good Luck !
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- It’s springtime and we think that we are full of energy and ready to go after the long winter months, but it really is not that way for everyone, in fact there are more cases of depression registered in May than most any other time, so for that reason we need to take note and add a little motivation into our work mindset,
- This has to be action – we tend to sit on the side lines and wait for people to tell us what to do, we should just focus a little more, get to the point of things and get the job at hand done, once you have done this successfully you will get a great injection of self-esteem and feel really good. Confront your fears – Fear is generally nothing more than a lack of confidence in yourself, this can be solved by a little bit of curiosity, try to learn something new everyday regarding your work,a new way of doing things,don’t just imagine something because you don’t know how to do it. Due to your curiosity you will be prepared to take on something new.
- Pick up your potential It’s at this time that we don’t have enough energy, so go for a run, sprint hard, then slow done, each time to your own new limit,later relax and collect all the new energy When we feel full of energy we have more capacity to confront what is going on around us. Recharge your energy Now you have your new-found energy, you also need to rest, how you breath and what you eat are also definite facts to your physical energy, it is essential to take a little break every 90 mins of your working day, sit,relax, listen to your breathing,take deep breaths and take in the vital energy you need to bring your levels back up and exhale. Let yourself go – try to visualise the enormity of the universe which is around us every moment of our life,think of the miracle of life and how we are here and why, when we see all this we realise how small our problems are, with every mistake we learn something valuable . Don’t worry about what people say- Just be yourself,in the work place you are probably one of many and people are not waiting to see your mistakes, the world does not evolve around you,and those around you don’t care (it’s not personal it’s a work environment) so be as true to yourself as you can be, people are not waiting to jump on you, when you do something good or bad. believing in yourself, does not depend on others for you to reach your goals. It just depends on you………………………………………….
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THE RIGHT CIRCLE
Always have great positive friends in your circle, positivity is contagious, let it stick to you and then you pass it along, spread your positivity wherever you go!!
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A little something different for this afternoon, some very typical and beautiful Spanish Guitar music, I hope you enjoy and relax, start you week well, refreshed by releasing the tension of the day, imagine the beautiful streets of Spain, the warm breeze and the Spanish chit chat in the street cafe’s and the fabulous Spanish aroma that lingers in the air,
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KICK START!
Start your week as you intend ………..keep your goals in your mind and go and get it, create is on your agenda!
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Enjoy today, each and every second, the clock ticks by and we need to prepare for our Monday full of motivation and emotion……………..you know what you need to do, are you ready?
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Today……could be your day of possibilities, but don’t forget the coffee!
Have a great day……………………….you all deserve it, you know you do?
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THE COST OF A HABIT ! ……………..
Have you ever given it any thought as to what your habits may be costing you, I am not talking about your good habits, if they are good and healthy it is a cost of what ever kind well spent. I am talking about bad habits, these bad habits that we acquire along the way that in fact are stopping us from achieving our goals, so they are costing us a lot, maybe not financially directly but they are costing us, they are preventing us to reach that goal which maybe is also an increase for us financially.
So, are you supporting your better self or are you letting your self down badly and have not even realised the fact, sometimes the obvious is the hardest thing for us to see, so when we focus just on ourselves and analyse how much our bad habits really cost us !! we tend to get a shock, one of the first things we need to do is to give up a number of things that we probably do now on a regular basis , which means it is a habit and a bad one at that, take a look at the following, are you capable to give up, making excuses, having self-doubt, how you procrastinate, always trying to please people, our total fear of success, negative thinking, and don’t forget negative self-talk, judgement of others, and negative people in our circle………………..how many if not all of these things do you do as a habit, don’t worry about it, I would think it is maybe quite common to have more than one of these not so healthy habits, but it does help us to see how we cost ourselves a great amount in deed, what kind of price do you put on these habits, or better still what price would you put on the reverse of these habits, turning them into fabulous healthy life inspiring habits !!
The power of positive thoughts do certainly have a positive outcome in our life, things do change, which allows us and are progress to also change in extremely positive ways. It is known that what we think is what we become, so why would we choose to be negative or think of ourselves as victims, you wants to be a victim of anything, no matter what others may say or think, you own the opinion of yourself and it is far more important than that of others,you know the saying of “sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you ” This is why it is so important that you are your own person at all times, we can accept support and help from others, but knowing our own worth is “priceless” When you own these feeling over yourself, you are in balance and harmony with yourself and your life, you are aligned with the universe and most of all you are at peace, to be at peace with yourself is a gift that cannot be bought.
As you slowly work your way through what is costing you most, you must not start to feel this as an obligation, it is for you, for you to be happier and healthier in everything you do, as time passes you notice the incredible changes that come about, simply by applying the small list of what is a good idea to give up, and maybe you can add to that list, you know yourself best.
The golden rule, never to be forgotten is what you think is what we create, it is what you are experiencing in your world right now, at times it is difficult to admit or see what you are doing wrong, or what is holding you back, at times you can be held back by people and situations in your life, however they are not an excuse and should never be used as an excuse, you are capable of creating your future no matter what you have stacked against you, go out there and do it ! you can do it !
And just look who said that !!!
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YOU CAN DO THIS!
To make your own magic, you just need to join life and really live it !! It’s magical
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YOU & YOUR CONFIDENCE……………
The relationship that you hold with yourself is the most important one of your life, far more important than with your partner parents children work colleagues, you and your one to one, because if you fail at getting along with yourself you are marking your life path and destiny, however the great news is that, it is a little like opportunity you can change it, each day is a new day, it is a little more difficult, but, we can change if we wish, we all deserve to be happy and most people would make that choice if they realised how much it depends on you and only you. When a women loves and respects herself, she will be happy, this makes her happy she will be grateful for things in her life and this in turn will help her with the natural flow of her creativity and the construction of a happy life, only lots of time for happiness and love, which can be extremely contagious, no room is left for negativity or it’s thoughts.
When you make that decision to be just you, how you really are, and not what others want you to be, or a copy of someone else, being just you, is what brings you inner peace and happiness, and people around you will sense this, when you are at this stage you will start to see things much clearer, regarding what and where you want to be in life,it will be crystal clear which decision to take.
When you see all these things within yourself, you will start to show up in your life, not just from time to time,but on a 24/7 basis, the reason for this is the comfort you obtain from being you, you are comfortable in your own skin and happy with who you are, you have found a confidence within yourself that tells you it is the best outfit you can ever wear, it fits like a glove and is so comfortable, when you see that you can learn from everything you see and do,you will have know desire to procrastinate, we can all do that, and we have all been guilty of this, I don’t think anyone has escaped procrastination at some time. You really deserve what you want in life, but, a big part is you giving yourself permission to go for it, yes, we hold ourselves back, far more than situations and other people, that little inner voice shouts out its demands and we follow suit, no more, those days have gone, we are strong, strong women are not cold hard and difficult, as many like to say or believe, they simply know their worth and what they want. Some people feel that a strong women can be somewhat mean, this is so far from the truth, they simply have no intention of being or feeling disrespected, mistreated or taken for granted.
You must make all the decisions in your life, when you do this you determine your chosen path, your destiny you do not need anyone to tell you or validate your wonderful worth. This does not only apply to your partner in life, this includes your friends and family who at times feel they have a right to an opinion far superior to yours, friendship is a funny thing, have you ever had a competing friend, they can be great friends, but really they want to be you, this is a perfect example of when being themselves they would be marvellous people, when some one only inspires to be you in the areas of your life of their choice, things can get complicated, nobody want’s to be in full competition with their friend or friends, this never ends well, even though it may have gone on for years,so does a marriage, but occasionally they break……………….never wait for some one else to make you happy, that is your job, when a woman is confident about herself, she is beautiful in her own way, she will have a charisma which is also beauty in itself. As we never know what another person has experienced, this could be the case so maybe remember this, ” Beneath every strong independent woman lies a broken little girl who had to learn how to get back up and to never depend on anyone” on a personal note, I am very proud of the woman I am today, because I went through experiences good and bad to get to who I am today.
When we decide to be that wonderful confident person, there are a few things we may need to change to help us on our way, when we open ourselves up we should start to try new things, new things are always good and maybe they are things you have put on the back boiler a long time ago, listening to some of your favourite music always lifts our spirits and help us to get that well-being feeling, when we exercise we also feel good and of course with time, we will be healthier, decision-making is also an excellent challenge, when you do this alone, with no help or interruption you will feel confident within yourself, learning to say no will also fill you with confidence when you have difficulty with this short two lettered word NO, learning to do so will lift your confidence levels way up ! And of course always feel grateful for what you have and what come’s into your life
” I am perfectly imperfect, I strive for better while loving all that I am today, In loving myself today, I am better equipped to improve myself tomorrow “
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SPRINKLE TIME
Imagine your hand full of glitter, give a little sprinkle on everything we wish to bring magic too today, give your life the sparkle you deserve…………
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