How can it be Friday again, time is just flying by, so this morning I have decided to give you a little food for thought on time, as you fly through this Friday !!
Have a great day, use your time wisely and always enjoy your time !!
I know this is not normally my thing, but I am writing this post because I made a promise, and I like to keep my promises, not so long ago I left a comment on MakeItUltra, regarding a true experience I personally had, I was later asked by quite a few bloggers actually, to tell a more complete version of my experience, so where do I start.
I bought a house, a house that totally had me spellbound from the day I saw it, it was a large older house,very elegant and I totally fell in love with it, the entrance hall was very grand and leading from this was a library, dining room and music room all these rooms had the original wooden floors, which I loved and cared for with a special spanish oil that I used to buy, this oil has a strong smell (a pleasant nice smell) however the music room never lost a smell that was there from the first day, it was not a bed smell, it was similar maybe to rose-water used by maybe your grandma, it was an old-fashioned type of smell, I hope you can imagine what I mean, but it was pleasant(But this oil never covered it) which was strange, I also had fresh flowers in this room 24/7 .
After approx one year and the birth of my 2nd son a new friend of mine came to visit (she lived 2.000 kms away) in another country, we sat having coffee and generally chatting when she asked me if I believed in spirits, I told her that it was something that interested me but was not 100% percent sure, and that I also had doubts regarding the people who claimed to see them, she understood and asked if I would like her to tell me about a previous lady of the house, the house I now owned…I did not know she had this gift so I was taken slightly by surprise, but of course, curiosity got the better of me. She told me the life of a lady by the name of Aina (Ana) she explained her long black clothes and the Mantilla she wore on her head, she has books under her arm and a walking stick, with an attractive gold handle, she was an educated woman but lead a very sad life, due to her husband and the years that she lived in, she told me how in her day the horse and carriage had pulled up in front of the dome at the other side of the hall before the lawn had been laid. This was in direct line with the main front double doored entrance. She also told me that this was their summer home (it is close to the beach) and that they had another home in a village inland from this one. That the wine cellar had been used to receive contraband from the beach (just in front) and that she loved being there at that moment, as she felt close to me and adored the children, she also told me that in later years her bedroom had been down stairs (THE MUSIC ROOM) and that she thanked me for the fresh flowers……..this was quite a bit for me to take in, but I listened and found the story very interesting, I do know that I knew when she was around as her rose-water went with her… it was four years later that I had the opportunity to gain solid evidence regarding everything I had been told on that day and other little bits and pieces my friend had told me. I was attending a dinner for the boys, kindergarten, in a beautiful old house which was now a restaurant in a village inland from my home, as we sat chatting, one of the teachers asked exactly where I lived, she told me that the house had belonged for many many years by her husband’s family, I knew that this could be my opportunity to see if anything I knew was true ? I later took the opportunity to speak to her and asked if she knew any information about the family and maybe a great-grandmother figure, she was amazed at little things I told her and how I had obtained the information, we arranged to have coffee with her husband at the house a few days later. I was able to prove with thanks to Maria’s husband everything I had been told, it was amazing and totally mind-blowing to him, he knew I was telling him what I had been told. After that I also managed to go to the Public land register and was able to prove her name etc., I also have to tell you that the dinner in the inland village had been the winter residence of this same family……I have left out names of towns etc., but obviously I have them, I lived there. I hope this post makes sense to you all, as I do understand that I see everything very clearly in my mind, and maybe my fingers don’t move so quick !! so I hope you understand, let me know if you require more info and that I have explained what you wanted to know.
I also would like to mention that one day on our way to kindergarten and talking about nannies, my youngest son very innocently asked me who was the older lady and what was her name he could not remember, he had never had an older lady ? Who could he mean ? they say that children do see spirits until a certain age, he does still remember this.
I have recently been following a TV Reality show, where a group of people in this case (famous!) are left to survive on a desert Island, I have to say I do not follow this for entertainment reasons,quite the opposite, it draws me in from a psychological point of view, it never fails to amaze me how these so-called human beings behave and interact with each other , some from the first day, others as time goes on, how they struggle with a food shortage and everything else, don’t lets forget they do know where they are going, it’s not as if from morning to-night their personal situation has changed and this now is their new permanent life. As many are facing in Europe and further a field, as we know by the news we see everyday, these poor people leave their homes, families their whole life to be safe, and face the same conditions or much worse, sadly they do not have a film crew, who can step in when a dangerous or unstable situation pops up.
So, back to the reality show for a moment, as I said previously they do know where they are going, do they prepare ? Most not at all, however when you see them in all their glory, ranting and raving at each other for silly stupid differences, they probably show themselves in a very poor light and we get the opportunity to see what shallow people they are, they have no companionship, love for their fellow-men etc., and most of them are excellent in the art of insulting, would this not be an excellent situation to give support to each other, even as a reality show, surely the more caring and understanding they were, would make them excellent survivors !! Working alongside each other, finding food, water etc., they even argue regarding the biggest fish, maybe they have never had to share and help others, to see, at times, this vicious vain that appears still amazes me, with everything we know and see in this world, how they pick on the weakness of others,and actually take delight in seeing human distress,do these people realise that others live in the world with them and do they know what a heart is ? What I have noticed is that at the end of the 3 month period, if they survive that long, they do start to appreciate (a little) what they have in their normal everyday life. And this is what matters most to me, do we really realise what we have, I am talking basics here, water, light,gas, food, clothes…. these are the basic things we need, obviously we all go far beyond these basics, we have a bed to sleep in, we have a roof over our heads, we have hygiene facilities, we have electric , and so much more the list is endless and we still would not be talking luxuries, which again many of us will have. We have had an education, and much more that has made us who we are today, Do we need to go to a desert Island to take note of all this, I hope not, but, maybe the answer is yes, do we need to leave everything behind and run in the middle of the night to feel safe and free ? again I hope not, but it does make me think of the terrible situation we have today, with people having to leave their country,everything that made up their lives, not knowing where they are going and to what! The thought would be terrible, as individuals there is nothing on a grand scale we can do, however if we show kindness when we can, respect other people and help when we can, we will be doing our little part. Maybe above all we should be truly grateful for everything we have, big or small, we do take lots of our life for granted and I honestly feel we are all guilty to some degree of this. So my post today is a wake up call to all of us, the next time we maybe have no water for the day, think of these people who deal with this everyday, not just a couple of hours, don’t get angry when the supermarket does not have what you went out for, we still have a choice,when the light bulb blows and we don’t have a spare,these little things that we some times think come into our life t are unimportant, and let’s be grateful for everything and everyone we have within our world.
If only……………………………….. everyone could understand this !!!
I know it is the summer time, and some of you may be experiencing high temperatures, I’m here with 38/40 degrees, its HOT !! However the point I was going to make is, are we boiling our brains and overdoing this “I’m not enough business” between doubt, fear, panic, self-esteem etc………………………………. When are we going to get the message of what we are worth…….A Million Dollars my friends and not a cent less, so lets see how we are going to put these words into solid action,there are many reasons why you feel this way, and I can’t possibly mention them all, but how we correct this usually all go the same way, there is a pattern.
The first thing that will stand out here, no matter what the why, is the focus we are giving it (we do this) we look for what is missing, but you know if you go out into the world, it really is pretty amazing…I am sure,just where you live, there are things of true beauty, amazing things you have never noticed, because due to your, lets call it problem, you don’t see anything, it is like you live with blinkers on, open up, open your heart, open to the world, nobody is going to run away with your heart, its yours remember….. when we don’t see beauty around us, we don’t see it anywhere, not within our life, not within our home,family, work, no where, so it’s an important step to waken up and notice the beauty around you, you can do this, you do not need the help of anyone and it costs nothing. Decide to find one thing today/tomorrow that you find beautiful or that you can appreciate, you should be able to see a hundred, but one will do for a start. If you feel that something is holding you back,to feel sure of yourself and have the confidence you think you are lacking, the internet is a wonderful form of information, there are courses, videos blogs, everything you can think of that will be designed to what you want to know, this again does not have to cost you money, (we can do this) Guilt is another rock that we like to carry around with us, if it is past tense, which is usually the case, it is past, gone, finished nothing will change it, so the fact that your whole focus is there, is telling you that you are living in the past, DO you know what you are MISSING in your present, also by being totally focused in this, the chances of it reoccurring are great, remember what you think is what you get!! So, first rule let it go, nothing at all that you do will change it, so give yourself a chance and change those thoughts, start to think of how you would like it to be, no matter what it is, and never forget that others may have the problem not you. When I have clients with this type of problem, I usually do a little exercise, I go outside with a bag, and for every problem,fobia whatever you wish to call it, is bothering you, we look for good size stones and place them in the bag one at a time, now lift that bag, it will be heavy, that is what you are carrying around with you 24/7, imagine the pressure, the strain this is having on your life and health, as you start to resolve each one in your mind, take a stone away….. you get the idea, this is a great exercise, I wish I could do it with you, but each stone has its own solution. I can tell you that nothing from the past can be changed, so accept this and let it go, drop that stone, if you wish to change your direction in life, start to get the information, drop that stone and move forward, if you want love in your life, give love in your everyday life and bring love into your life,imagine the kind of person you want,write down the details,drop that stone and get out there, if you stay at home all the time, you will meet no one, take action(you do this)
When we start to notice what is around us and the beauty, you will see that nature can be a great help, to walk with nature, fills us with peace,we become calm we breath good fresh air in, and let the old out.As a tree grows, it will grow strong and expand, it opens itself to the world, its branches reach out, do you remember the post about planting the seeds, this is your chance to plant your new seeds, with no panic, no fear, this is you,what have you to fear, all these emotions are feelings, we allow the feelings in by what we are thinking, so you do control this, when you start to think differently your feelings are different and your emotions will change. You may think this is very difficult to do alone, I understand you,but, you can do it, just one thought a day,
Don’t be a one page person, go for it, this is your life, and if you decide it could be quite amazing, you will see that through this post I have written a few times (this is you) my reason for this, is for you to see the importance you have, you can turn all this around, you can come out of the dark and into the light, expand and reach out, if you wish to ask me anything specific, and if I can help please feel free to email me at :- theutopiauniverse@gmail.com
At times it is hard for us to accept, that what we have in life, is due to ourselves and are previous thoughts and situations. I say situations because when we are in a situation, which can cause us to face fear, feel panic and not be are true self, this is not an excuse it is true, and this is maybe where we have to work on change, in the event of further situations. When we have a situation in our life, that turns are safe haven around one hundred times, we can be caught of guard, as they say, we were not expecting this issue in our life, and when this happens we do not re-act as we would normally, if we experience fear, we will think of the most terrible outcomes and everything that goes through our minds will be negative, when we panic, it will be the same and eventually everything we have thought, comes to pass, there it is, it has entered our lives, and we resort to call it bad luck, a bad spell we are going through etc., what we don’t or should I say didn’t realise is that we invited them into our life, due to our thoughts and negative thinking.
However, as we probably have been through a period like this, we can now relate to this being true, as your reaction was probably automatic, but, we now know different, we know the effect this can have on our life, and we should know how quickly this can be turned around by the change of our thoughts and having positive thinking.
We are not going to make a problem go away, but by making positive decisions and thinking positive thoughts regarding the outcome we can take control of the situation, instead of it controlling you through fear, panic etc.,
” Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice”
By changing your thought patterns now, you can avoid a situation from arising, as it would have before, have you realised this pattern in your life at any stage ?
Choose what you would want in your life, and think about those things, about how you are going to enjoy them and with who and how, don’t give time to think about anything you don’t want. The more you see things that you want in your life, that is the universe bringing it to you, you may see it many times, before it is physically yours, but the universe is letting you know it is on the way, never reject what you see, if it is something you want, jealousy or anger will postpone the delivery for you, always look and feel at what you want with love.
“This is the miracle that happens every time to those who really love: the more they give, the more they possess”
It is important to remember that when we use the Law of Attraction, in our life, it is all about you, and only you……… for the universe you are the only person in the world, the universe will always work with you and not against you. It responds to your feelings, it is all about what you give out ! Whatever you feel about others, is what you are bringing to you, don’t judge or criticise as you bring this to yourself. don’t hold on to bad feelings or things from your past as you will bring them those feelings back as negative circumstances, when you complain about things, you bring them more into your life, just turn yourself off from the things you dislike, there is no room for them in your life, so don’t invite them.
Nothing is impossible for the Law of Attraction, do not be afraid to put your wishes out there, there is no limit to what you want and where you can go, the universe has no lack in any department.
“Ask and it will be given, Seek and you will find, Knock and it will open”
This is a very special award that has come to me all the way from Italy, the original design and commencement of this award is from the blog https://quindicirighemichela.wordpress.com .
I have been nominated for this award by https://violetadyliopinistapercaso2.wordpress.com (Bukurie) who is a very talented photographer and someone I have followed for a while now. Please visit her blog, her work really is outstanding and very varied.
I challenge you to find your value tag: rules:-
Use the original award image and mention the creator of the tag and thank who nominated you
Speak of the value that best represents you
Answer the 10 questions
Nominate 10 bloggers——————————————-What are the values most important to you ?
Emotional Intelligence is one of the key things I look for in another person. With this you can go anywhere and with anyone in the world.
–How important are the values in your life,? primary or secondary importance ?
To me personally, Emotional Intelligence (simple form of manners and morals )are everything, there are people who may have not been fortunate to have a good education, but they do have manners, social manners, which will always stand them well and people will remember them for it.
-Put into practice the values that are most important to you in everyday life.
I have always made manners and morals part of my daily life, I hope, from a child I have practiced this value, and also passed it on to my boys, which I have to say over the years, has been mentioned many times, for their social graces, it involves being aware of others needs, kindness and manners all rolled into one.
–Do you think that today the values for young people are not important ?
Again, this is only my personal opinion, but I think I would have to say in general NO, (this makes me feel very old) I sound like my grandmother, but I feel that being polite costs nothing, and I have encountered on numerous occasions while seeking a service whether it be in an office, supermarket, etc., an angry indifferent person serving me, don’t you just love it, when they don’t even look at you, or carry on a conversation with some one else while attending to you, needless to say I don’t go back ! I understand that many people do a job that they are unhappy about, but this is a first class example of doing something you love, it really does show, why work with people if you don’t like them ?
–In one sentence – who are you ?
It’s difficult to speak about yourself in this context but, I think I am a caring, considerate person.
-What is it that you recently learned new about yourself?
I have recently learnt to care more for myself, I have always put others first, and I realise now that you cannot always do that.
–In order of importance, what role would you recognise the following aspects of your life, happiness, money love and health.
Health, Happiness, Love & Money, I have taken this order because I feel that without health, the rest have no importance, happiness is important for our well-being and those around us, love, if we love ourselves it could be placed anywhere, and when we love ourselves we love others, Money, I honestly don’t think it should be last, as we need it, sadly !! but without the rest, we could live and eat well, but we could be ill, unhappy and have no love in our life. So……?
–What do you do when you do not agree with what most people think?
I allow and accept, I do not have to be in agreement with them, but if I allow and accept, I am happy and feel content with my decision.
–What did you do to be the person you’ve always wanted to be ?
Do we ever reach that total 100%, we are all in continual growth and learning new things everyday, I follow my instincts to follow my path, my life journey, I do want to me, who I am, so maybe by doing what I do, I’m doing the right thing.
–The fear of failure – did it prevent you from accomplishing anything? And what did it teach you ?
I do not allow fear into my life anymore, I used to, but now I am in control, I see failure as success turned inside out, when I did have fear,it prevented me from living my life as I should have, so it taught me , to ignore fear in any shape or size, I take a deep breath and go for it, and just keep going.
My nominees are:-
Ioana – https://musicteacherloifestyle.wordpress.com
Stella- https://simpledimplesite.wordpress.com
Daisy – https://daisywillows.wordpress.com
Deb – https://onceuponahotflash.com
Lynne – https://lynnesrecipetrails.com
QueenBee – https://bodyelectricweb.wordpress.com
Miriam -https:// outandabout.com
Dehan -https:// dehantaylor.com
https://moylomenterprises.com (Inner Ramblings Boulevard)
https://anotsojadedlife.wordpress.com
I hope that the above nominees will accept this award, they are under no pressure to do so, but it is always nice to see the award move on and spread around the blogosphere. Thank you.
Good Morning !
The day of rest……………………hope it is for you, everyone enjoys a lazy Sunday, read the paper, drink good coffee, a special breakfast day start the day as slowly as possible, and just let the day pass by.
Enjoy your day ……………………………………………………………….
Good morning everyone, how are we today ? It’s the week-end again,where does time go, I can’t believe how quickly the week-end comes round, are you busy busy this week-end, or is it your chance to chill, I have a mixed week-end, I am going to see my youngest son,who has recently moved, so I am going to see his new home, which is exciting and my little one’s which I always enjoy,if you have anything bubbling around in your head, they sure help you to focus on other things, (them !) I come away exhausted,but revitalised…. However, I have now changed a few things regarding the normal chores we all have to face, even the pool cleaning ! (that sounds like a real chore) I hear you say, but it is, when things become an obligation we see them in a different light….believe me it’s true, so now I sing or mutter to myself,”How lucky I am, when I’ve finished this , it will be perfect for me to enjoy ” when I clean, iron,water the garden or plants, clean the car,what ever is an obligation I just sing my little song, it has really helped I enjoy them more now than ever, just thinking how I am going to enjoy my clean home, clothes, freshly ironed clothes etc., I am putting into my brain the way I want to feel (I did a post last week about the brain input) so yes, I am practising what I preach……………..the word obligation has a negative affect on some of us, maybe all of us, and my little plan switches it right around ! So this is my week-end tip to you, try it, I hope it works for you like it works for me, it can apply to anything you have to do, that you may not be looking forward to, these things also take your time, and your time should always be enjoyed, so find your way to enjoy everything !! It can be done, I promise.
Buddha said; Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are; it solely relies on what you think …………………. I for one would not doubt these great words from this great man, so try my little tip.
Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing and love what you are doing.
So, whatever your plans for this week-end…….Be happy !!
If you are happy, the ones around you are also happy, (Now there is an obligation for you !)
Have a great week-end.
I don’t know if this is an age thing, or if we all at some time think how short life is, the saying say’s here today, gone tomorrow……I do not intend for this to me a morbid post, quite the opposite, but do we really realise that what we have is everything to us, in some cases it is our reason and purpose in life. So, do we…….on a daily basis tell the people we love, that we love them, do we always have a great hug when they leave or give that little peck on the cheek !! Do we do what our heart really wants to do, or what are emotion is really wanting, or do we fight how we feel, and play everything low-key. This post is about encouraging ourselves to do, what we feel, when we feel it, to repress emotions is one of the worst things we can do, we suffer on many levels, our health being a big one, what we hold in, will appear somewhere and it is usually regarding our well-being, you know the disease theory, dis-ease, our body is not right, so, by not showing your affection is it really worth that, many of us struggle to show our feelings,for many reasons,( that’s another post), but to say I love you, be careful, miss you, are really not that hard, even a compliment is nice to hear.
Life really is short, even if we live to be 105, if we feel that we never really let the people in our life know they are important to us. Do we really have all the time in the world, the answer is NO, as we never know what is around the corner, for any of us.
This is even down to how we live our life, how many diet nearly all their life, why ?, if it makes you unhappy, they never travel, but want to,why? People live in fear ! Of what, it could be anything ! some not so serious, life is for living, the best way we can, then there are people who cannot forgive, and feuds go on for years, why? nobody is perfect, and its usually the ones that inflict most pain on others, that have the most to hide, it can be an emotion of jealousy, possession control, everybody is different, but we all have a heart, that feels and can be damaged . When things get way out of control, many feel there is no way back, love always has a way, no words are necessary, you just need to show and share that love, love always finds a way, I am not talking here about couples, when a relationship has ended, you have to respect the other party, forced love is not acceptable.(again this would be another post)
So, the big question is, are we happy with ourselves, at the way we show our feelings, our love, our kindness to the one’s that are important to us, if the answer is no, then you know what you have to do, this does not have to be a big meeting, a big chit-chat, just show at your own speed, always let the people around you know that they are appreciated, loved, cared for, what ever your emotion may be, don’t wait for time to pass, for the right moment, just do and say what is in your heart, because this is also your time and life, don’t be at dis-ease,be happy the best of your ability, now and always, we get many things thrown at us, in our life time, but situations, any situation cannot and should not affect the love we can share, this does not cost money, the distance is no problem, there is no reason on this earth that can stop anyone from feeling the power of love, respect and kindness. Spread all the love you can always.
We all complain, in fact we could maybe call it a National Sport, regardless of where we live. And we have a right to complain, to complain can be a way for us to express pain or annoyance over something and at times it can be beneficial to us. However when this complaining becomes a habit and forms part of our everyday life, we have to step back and ask ” what is wrong” this could just be a way for us to hide our head in the sand ! instead of confronting the problem that is worrying us, complaining stops us from taking action and resolving what is really happening.
If you complain all the time, its time to ACT., When you complain 24/7 you will be in a group that sees the problem less than everyone else, however people who never complain could be the ones that encourages more the complaining, so we have to be brave and find out the real why, one way is to take note of how, when explaining the situation (complaint) how they or we focus more on the negative aspects, do they or we take responsibility for the situation ? Do they or we tend to blame others for the situation that we are involved in and we complain about that ? When we acknowledge this behaviour, we can then step into the action of putting it right.
A good way to make a change regarding this , is to revitalize a little what we are complaining about. A good sentence to throw in would be ” Maybe it not so bad” every time we start to complain again,, our favourite subjects can at times be about our partners in life, so when you find yourself saying ” No, he/she does not love me as much, because I don’t agree with…but, maybe it’s not so much ” by incorporating this little extra, we are dis -activating the whole heavy complaint, and making it easier for the negative pattern to disappear easier and faster.
Question and ask, another way to change this pattern evolves around four questions:- Is it true? Can you be absolutely sure it is true?(yes/no) How do you re-act when you think about this and what are you thinking…How will you be without this thought? Who and what are you without this thought? If you do this not only in thought but with the complaint, which in reality is thinking also, we may see and realise that we do not hold ourselves responsible of the complaint or the situation.
You will know that there are people who prefer to complain instead of making a change in their behaviour, when we don’t take responsibility for what is happening, we block ourselves and lose control of our life, giving power to other and our surroundings. We need to be brave and step up without fear to take responsibility for what we can change, and not accept that we can’t change anything. Complaining takes away our energy, and leaves us tired as we stay in this vicious circle without hope of getting out. It leaves us with a sad emotion which makes it difficult to take action , the way out is to pay the price, make a change and put ourselves into action to make a permanent change.
“Live in a no complaining zone, just try it and see the difference it can make in your life”
Whenever you hear something new for the first time, how long do you remember it, maybe a telephone number, they say in goes into the memory maybe during a few seconds !! However if we do not use that telephone number frequently and within a short time of it originally going in, your brain will cancel it immediately. It does not want to fill your hand with unworthy information.
Experts say that we need at least 10 to 20 seconds of repetition or concentration for something to stick in our minds, less than this time it will just evaporate and disappear, this also happens with our positive emotions, our brain remembers them with difficulty, why, because we are programmed to survive, that’s why we remember better the negative things, because it think it helps us to survive better !
This is the reason why, we should do a special exercise, when we have a nice moment, a great moment that you have experienced, maybe like a great hug you have received from a loved one, think about it for more than 20 seconds and let it fill your whole body, “Your brain, programmed for survival, it is more interested in survival than your happiness, Train it to remember more the positive moments”
This is way, when we replace negative thoughts with positive one’s it has to be on repetition, again and again, for the brain to accept that positive thought, the same with affirmations, say them time and time again. Repetition is the key. Train your brain to take in what you want, not the other way round, it’s just a case of a new habit, repeat, repeat, repeat that’s all you have to do.
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