This is just one of the great things about age, and actually passing the years by, your whole attitude does change, not for bad I must add, but things do seem rather different and do not hold the same importance as when we were younger, little daily things that maybe at one time would have sent us crazy, we hardly even notice them in later years. They say that at times older people can be irritable and grumpy at times, I think quite the opposite I think years can give us patience and a better insight into various situations, however I only think this is possible if we maintain active both physically and mentally.
When we embrace our age, life really can be happy and fun, why do some people fight the age barrier to a point of making themselves truly unhappy, they think of operating their features and look into a thousand and one things they can do, what ever you decide to do, one thing is for sure, is that you are not going to be 21 again and you are not going to look that way either, you will also find many people never change their style whether it be clothes or hair, this also is not embracing your age, when we change with the times and maybe the fashion trend we are looking much better and will feel it also, although you will know the famous saying of “mutton dressed as lamb ” nobody wants that look, women of today (and men) do not have to follow the old rules of yesteryear and have no necessity to do so, we need to have the ability to reinvent ourselves, without stress and anxiety, enjoy the age you are at, it is possible, regardless of the age it may be, how many stories do you see and hear now of people coming into their own in their late sixties and more, if you wish to keep going strong you will and you can
You will also find that women over the age of 40 today have lived experiences very different from previous generations , they have no need to cling to the old way of doing things, whether that be in behaviour or style. Society has also started to remove the wonderful labels they use to place on people, we have great changes going on around us both in cultural and fashion areas, of course I am sure we can thank to a great extent social media for this, I think they are responsable for this collective change. Social media have allowed us to find our tribes and niche in life !
This is also a big question today, long have gone the days when it was very badly viewed to be with someone new, whether you were divorced or a widow…..today we are free, to rebuild our life if we so wish, and society are behind you, you will be encouraged and given support, why should you be alone in life, when you enter a relationship in later life, you are more likely to know what you want, you will enjoy conversation and cultural activities more and maybe have an interest in common, love on this level is very different from a young love, it does not mean you cannot or will not have intensity, of course you will be able to find passion, but it will probably be lived on a slower more enjoyable level, Rome was not built-in a day, and there is no rush, values are viewed differently and a relationship at this stage of life can be very pleasant and rewarding for both parties.
This statement is so true, we do improve with age, we become more interesting and maybe(not all) have a wealth of knowledge, we become better on many levels
Enjoy your life today and always, we have only one, and time waits for no one, so do not put of for tomorrow, what you could be doing today !
Brooke Universal LIfe Coach
Had a great conversation today regarding the mind when it goes like an automatic washing machine on full spin !!! when you can’t see the wood for the trees, and everything just gets bigger instead of resolved. I was also told, in no uncertain tones, that just positive thinking all day long, did not cut it, well…. I could not agree more, you see the positive thinking has its importance, but your mindset is more, that is the number 1 step, when you have the mindset you are able to work through the hurdles that life throw’s at you, the only problem I see here is that when you approach things with this confusion what you are doing is giving way to more confusion and lack…when we chase the bills that have to be paid, everything we are giving out is shouting lack, and of course, we receive more lack, the hours we work and the more we try to catch up is made more difficult by our mindset, remember we are what we think,
A great number of people believe that by thinking in a positive way is eluding the reality of things, this is not true, we are creating our reality every day, by what we do, the action we take, and what we think, and the mindset has to be correct, you know that you can achieve great things, and are on your way to making it happen. Just remember that you don’t always need to overwork yourself to get there……As long as you have a burning desire for what you want and a strong belief that you can achieve it, things should fall into place when the time is right.
When you want success you must reflect on WHO you are, and what GOALS you want to achieve an how many DELAYS you may have to overcome, you have to make a conscious decision to do whatever it takes or is necessary to overcome your delays and reach your goal. Know that your positive mindset will make you aware that your thoughts do impact your reality, your mind must be focused on the road you need to take to reach your goal, the road should have small, specific measurable, and attainable goals, know that failure will only take you forward because you have to see them as opportunities to learn and grow, it is extremely important to have a support system around you family friends and mentors who will guide you along your road to success, and your vision must be very clear in your mind, the more detail the better.
Many also think that only hard work can get you to where you want to go, this has been proven to be untrue, have you heard of the Pareto Principle or maybe the Principle of Least Effort or quite simply the 80/20 Principle, like the truth, it can set you free, you can work less and at the same time you can earn more and enjoy more, the only price is that you need to do some serious 80/20 thinking, we are all exposed to the 80/20 principle at some point in our lives, the principle is quite simply 20% of efforts lead to 80% of results, it is a very powerful concept. 80/20 thinking requires, with practice, enables us to spot the few really important things that are happening and ignore the mass of unimportant things. When you start to analyze this in your own life, you start to see results, when you have the right mindset the road becomes more clear to you and it comes to you the way to go, you do not have to keep turning yourself inside out day after day, IF 20% of what we do leads to 80% of the results and 80% of what we do leads to only 20%, we are wasting 80% of our time on low-value outcomes. In applying the 80/20 principle to creating your ideal life you have to know what you want. When we have a handle on what we want, we can start to look at whether what we have and what we’re doing matches up with these ideals. And then go something about it, you need to focus on what you find easy, you should not devote overly much effort to correcting your weaknesses, you should believe that the highest success in living and the deepest emotional satisfaction comes from building and using your strengths.
The action implications should be plain, go for quality rather than quantity, spend your time and energy reinforcing what is most important to you.80/20 is all about focusing your energy, apply the 80/20 principle to everything in your life and notice how quickly things will change, ask yourself this power question for each area of your life, what would you love to spend 80% of your energy in which area of your life you want to focus on, the great thing about this question is, it opens up your imagination and true desires.
Brooke Universal Life Coach
The lack of sleep seems to be an everyday problem within our modern society nowadays, sleep has changed over the years, due to the light bulb giving light for longer and allowing us to participate in other activities, imagine what it would have been like to sleep from sun down to sun rise !
Then of course don’t let us forget the radio and television entering into our homes, yet a further distraction to keep us from sleep, even though enjoyable and even educational, and then the internet, in fact things have changed more in the last 20 years than maybe in the last century………all of these things have stolen important hours of our sleeping time, particularly in the younger generations. It was not all that long ago when our parents would state our bed time, and shortly after that time we would sleep. Now we navigate through the web, communicate with others in every corner of the world at any time, and it seems our dreams or tiredness can not stop this new ritual . Most of the young people who study sleep a lot less than they should in fact only 2 % sleep more than 8 hours and the majority less than 7, the effect of lack of sleep not only affects younger people and children, adults are also effected by this. We need to sleep between 8 and 10 hours and very few people respect this biological fact.
Our new bad habits are mainly to blame for our lack of sleep and tiredness that we drag with us through life, we have mobile phones on the night table which is one of the biggest mistakes we make, we use it as an alarm, but the tradition alarm clock is far better for us, by having it next to us during the night it means we go to sleep more excited than normal , it delays us from falling asleep and we sleep with a poor quality of sleep and wake us before we should, all of this will course silent problems within our organs and life.
When we are tired we tend to have a lack of a sense of humour, and our general well-being is not at it’s best, our cardio vascular health can be affected along with our immune system, anxiety , loss of memory and we age much quicker !!
So, take note try to sleep the hours best suited to you, set aside our wonderful technology and let it also rest, it is far healthier to rest and to dream, do not let anyone or anything steal your dreams away.
Wishing you all a good sleep…………………………………
Brooke Universal Life Coach
Do we ever get over this feeling, if as children we did not feel that we were supported sufficiently by our parents, we grow, slowly, losing our confidence within ourselves? And to feel accepted in society becomes an act of survival. Now, as adults, are we capable to care for ourselves and break this dependency.
We are the worst judge, when we feel this way, each angry situation makes us feel unappreciated, for us this is a terrible feeling and has a devastating effect, without realizing we have adopted this understanding and carry it with us. As young children and teenagers, we feel very poorly valued, and we become our worst judge. Many years have passed since you felt the danger, it makes no sense now, you have to remember that you are no longer that child who is afraid, who depends on everyone else, you are now an adult, totally independent and can protect yourself from any danger.
Observe less and live more, If you imagine how many people our in this world, in our world, it is impossible for everyone to like you or not, we are all unique and cannot be compared one with the other, Many people will sacrifice their interest and enjoyable moments just to be liked by someone, taking the desires and opinions of others. However to be happy what we really need to do is analyze and criticize less, the problem is not the others it is the torrential rain of self-criticism that we insist on telling ourselves. We are all exceptional people yet we can become our number one enemy!
Are we brave enough to be how we are? Many of you don’t see it very clear, but being just who we are, to be authentic is the biggest job we have in our life. When we are who we truly are, we shed fear, the breaks come off and we stop conditioning others. Everyone is born with their own identity, with their own talents,, on many occasions due to the pressure we are under, this identity and talents fall by the wayside. It is time to take up your dreams and fulfill them, not the dreams of others, when you decide and control your road ahead, your way forward you will start to feel a higher confidence level, and a newfound sense of security.
Don’t suffer by what people say, at times we allow ourselves to be influenced by what others say, we take things in a negative way, regarding how we look, our appearance, our work, or relationships. When we receive these comments, there always a way to take them in a positive manner, this is the way to go, we can do this, nobody is perfect. It is also an opportunity for you to see that side of that person, they don’t belong in your group, reflect on what is said, and judge for yourself, would your opinion be similar or not?
Speak to yourself differently, once you become familiar with comments regarding yourself you will start a new internal dialogue with yourself, your inner voice will be heard by you, and you will be able to express yourself in a better way, without fear and your opinion will count. We know better than anyone else what we like and dislike, how our emotions react. We are no longer silenced by other people, you are not a child, but an adult in full control of your life.
Brooke – Universal Coaching.
When you look at this water, what do you feel? Do you feel tranquility, peace within maybe even panic?
Do you feel that the ebb and flow of the water, can be similar to that of your life, we have good days and bad days, days when are emotions are riding the waves and then suddenly crash and disappear within the same crest of the wave that gave you such happiness, this we are told is life, ups and downs, experiences and our learning curves of life.
Now of course we could let ourselves drown in this situation or we can take another road !! What is essential for us all to learn, is how we deal with situations in life, will greatly influence the outcome, and that outcome should be much more in your favour than against you…….. so you may feel that this is easier said than done, and I would agree with you,but like anything else in life that we wish to change, will count on you and your consistancy in the matter…all our habits can be changed this way, and your trail of thought in this case, is nothing more than a habit way of thinking, first it is important to realize that we are not victims to anything, we are not born with that title, we are the only ones who claim that title for our own…………..it is our way of thinking that creates these emotions in our minds, that also an emotion is implanted by how we think about this matter, the same we can think victim we can think victorious, we give ourselves the titles we drag with us through life, no matter what it maybe, fat, thin, beautiful ugly fearful brave worthy reckless useless nervous, sadly we plant those seeds then water them them daily with our thoughts and ways and allow them to flourish into a forest, at times unable to control,
Another problem that arises here, is that we are, at the same time giving people permission to treat us in the same way as we treat ourselves, we have opened that door, therefore it is so important for us to change our habits into healthy positive ones and allow people to see us in our true light, as strong positive people in every area of our life, at times it can be hard, and maybe not really what we want at that moment in time but everything in life happens for a reason, and we have to find and understand that reason, knowing that this can be hard, but to find ourselves, is the biggest gift we can give ourselves.
Brooke Universal Life Coach