This is an easy little challenge for you, we are all rock stars in our own right, don’t ever doubt that, but today put yourself out, do an act of kindness, something you know will make someone or even yourself happy and full of joy and gratitude, it will be a fabulous way to start your weekend break, When we fill ourselves up in this way, it shows on the outside and you feel it on the inside, your vibration lifts and you and the universe can start to bring your thoughts into reality.
Be happy always, this simply depends on you and no one else, when we realise this in our life, our life becomes much more enjoyable, people can only bring us down, upset us and dampen our feelings and reactions when we allow them to …………………….do you agree ? You have the power to stop that, let happiness into your life, it really wants to be there………………..<3
Have these past holidays been different for you, maybe your partner is no longer around or your children are making new families of their own, whatever the difference, do any of us like change or do we fear it ? At times it is hard to imagine ever being happy again at festive times because of the memories we keep deep inside, but time is a great healer as they say and with a little effort all round, things can become special again.
When you have grown up in a busy happy household, where Christmas and the New Year took on great importance, so much food and gifts, laughter and love, friends coming and going, it is quite frightening to think of things being a different way, you still expect excited little children, carols being sung and little lights everyhere and sadly this is not the case, but other beautiful things can take place there , you can experience events and social gatherings that children could not of been part of, sofistication can enter your home and your life, exceptional food, still traditional but with that extra sassiness that generally little fingers don’t mix well with…….even our decorations can take on a new style, …………………………………..So, new year, new changes, it can at times have been a complete upheaval leading up to the event, and at times you even want to put enough distance between the place of events and yourself………..but that is not always the answer, you may move home (in the event of losing your partner) but your heart moves with you, so you might as well stay if you are basically happy there, and let hopefully your heart heal in familiar surroundings ………this time can be very sad for most people but sadly it has to be gone through, there is no magic spell or magic wand we can use.
When this situation appears on your horizon you have to feel your way through new christmas or festive arrangements, there are no golden rules here either you just have to use common sense and do your best .
After a period of time, as I mentioned before, what ever the reason your situation has changed, things will get better………..so if you have just passed an important date in your life or are going to in the near future, accept that it is going to feel strange different maybe even awkard, your emotions will be running high and are felt more at these difficult times, give yourself a break not everything is your responsibility or fault, take it easy, things will get better, things change so always stay open to new ideas , and always if children are involved shield them from adult stupid animosity !! it is not their fault, never has been and never will be……………..
Don’t for what ever reason feel resentful , during these times , always think and act in positivity and don’t forget about you, you are important.
Do you love yourself enough to go it alone, or are you afraid of taking those steps without others.
What we need to face or realise when we are on the bottom step and feel we can go no further down, when we hit rock bottom ……..we always have ourselves, and it is you that has to be repaired first, we are so tempted to think of all our baggage,that we take ever where with us, which is normal. You are no good to anyone, not even yourself we love are friends and family and want the best for them, but, at times we do not see what is the best………….when you are not happy or satisfied with yourself or your results, you are no good to anyone, you have to make the decision to start out again, to reshuffle your cards and to get back into life, but you have to do this alone, when you accomplish this, you can re-track and take others with you, on your new great journey called life, you want them to be part of it, and they also want to be part of you, but first you sort yourself out then you can help others, it cannot be done all at the same time.
They can be your why, which will keep you going on your road to recovery, but it is important that you do it alone, it is the only way, you need to come to terms with the new you, before you introduce yourself once again to your friends and family, feeling well balanced and strong. This may all seem strange to you, but if you are trying to put yourself together again, for whatever reason, just imagine trying to do it, with the worry and concern of your responsibilities (family & friends) discovering your new self is a one man show, it is deep and revealing and you need to be happy with it, not anyone else, this is also important to put your feelings and opinions first.
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Never be afraid to let go of what you are familiar or maybe over familiar with, it takes strength and courage, but the outcome is usually always beneficial to you, and never be afraid of letting go of what you do not want in your life. It is never to late to change your direction in life, if you feel this way, go for it, you have nothing to lose.
We all have the strength of the lion hidden inside, never be afraid to move out of your comfort zone………………….(its where the action and your new life starts)
In my part of the world we are going through the winter, and yes this year it has been cold, it may only be for a couple of days or weeks, we certainly to do not have months of cold typical winter weather, we are very fortunate and in general we can count the really cold days on our hands………….however when those days arrive, what do you do , what do you choose, do you make the correct choice, without it affecting you and your mood………..when I look out of my window I can already see Almond Blossom on the trees ,not all of them but the first show of this delicate little pink and white flower can be seen across the country side.
You may have noticed that this kind of weather can create a reaction within us, we look in the mirror and some of us can see a tired face glaring back at us, Christmas can really take it out of you, especially if you have catered for a family or friends, it is not only the physical part we put into it, it is the mental side also, that just leaves us drained, we need to rest and restore those high quality batteries, ready and prepared to take on the first quarter of this year, setting us up in a A star position, Once January and the first half of February is behind us we start to notice the change in the air, and we start to enjoy a little more outside life and sunshine, did you know that the light alone of our wonderful sunshine can fill us with energy and automatically bring us into good vibes and moods………….we see the world through a much better lens……….and our general feeling is more up beat and we are much more eager to get out there and accomplish things, we wish to share are spurt of energy and well being, we even start to eat in a different way, the menu becomes lighter , the down side is we then leave the darkness of the winter to start worrying about our body and the bikini time that is quickly approaching !! We simply change one concern for another, so, when are we going to start to except who and what and how we are, we are unique and beautiful in our own way, if we weigh 5 kilos more or less have we changed…the answer should be or would be NO…………..the only thing that should concern us is our health and not all problems are permanant , it is true to say that without our health we are affected in a big way, weight or even age does not. And, the sooner we come to terms with that the better, loving yourself the way you are has to be one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.
Just get out of my way, go, don’t look back, never show your face around here again……I said get out of my way, your voice goes on and on ! Can you ever imagine talking to yourself in this way, well if you feel blocked, that you have procrastinated long enough, maybe you should. If you tend to blame others for your situation, the financial aspect, your own qualifications for what you want to do, whatever excuse you put forward, let me tell you, you are wrong, yes sorry about that, but if you stay with me a second, I will explain, as we are all guilty of the above, not just you. When we make these excuses we are really hiding behind our own fear, fear can be a strange thing and comes in many sizes, it does not have to be shaky hands and a cold sweat, we…