The great majority of emails I recieve are related to people requesting advice covering a vast amount of topics, wanting to know how you should handle things, resolve conflicts, immprove your confidence and more than anything being afraid to reach out and take a risk in your life ?
Many of us, turn to people close to us or who have a lot of contact with on a daily basis, we look outside ourselves for answers,but what you should know is that you hold the answer inside of yourself……….If you think about it, we are all unique,we all own our personal stories and history, and we experience our own reality with lifes rights and wrongs, it is not wrong to look to others for help and advice, but this will not give us the 100% answer you are probaly lookinñg for.
The majority of our personal problems can be resolved within ourselves, to be able to tap into this wonderful gift we all have, you must be totally honest with ourselves,and be prepared to adapt to your maybe new circumstances, a change is needed to able to put this wheel in motion.
If as children you have been taught to look to others for solutions, it will be more difficult for you to change, but not impossible change is good, change is necessary for all of us at certain times in our lives, and we should never be afraid of change to find our inner wisdom. As adult people the only person with the knowledge of your life,problems and situations are you,the answers that you search can be found when you start answering your own questions.
It is only you that can bring into your life the good things, and don’t forget the bad things also,this all depends on what you are aiming for and knowing what you want, our inner wisdom will tell you what is favourable or not for you and your life.
When you find yourself in a complex situation and really don’t know what to do, you first must reason with yourself,out loud directly to yourself(using a mirror is helpful here) ask yourself direct questions that you want answers to, it’s amazing how answers will flow to you,actually putting these questions into words, creates a very positive effect, and you will find the answers that you are seeking.
The beauty of talking to yourself, is the truth, at times when we talk to friends and those we love,they do soften the blow regarding our problem and tend to wrap your answer in the colour you are longing to see or that they want you to see, this is done with all the love in the world,but when you are on a one to one with you and your inner wisdom the truth prevails,and the right solution is brought to the surface,this is you in a pure state, you are being honest with yourself.
This does not mean not to talk to someone else, sometimes talking to another person, can help, it always helps to talk, to shed you added cargo,just getting it out in the open is great, but don’t forget that special talk to yourself, just you and your inner wisdom.
Brooke Universal Life Coach
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Always give people the opportunity to know you, if they are important to you, it is the least you can do………………always offer this possibility , so many of us are never understood, the more we understand each offer the better quality of life we can lead.
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“All things grow with love, The flowers of tomorrow are the seeds of today “
Today is all about planting seeds of love, how easy is that ! If we think of seeds freshly placed in good soil we know that without water, those seeds will never grow, and as people we are the same within our relationships.
Many people make this mistake, during the early days lots of water is to be had, nobody forgets to water the seeds, but as time goes by the water gets less and the seeds don’t grow at all or the flowers that have grown just get dried out ! Not a pretty sight, and not a good feeling, this is a job badly done. We have failed to blossom, to grow. Falling in love is the easy part, but staying in love is very special,and not everyone can do it. We all grow into the beautiful person that we are supposed to be, but some earlier and some later. And it always takes two, the seed and the water, this is not a job, that one person alone can accomplish, so if your seed or your water give up on you,don’t take this as failure,you just need a better seed or better water,that go together in a better way, if you look around into the world, there are very beautiful flowers to be seen, all started from a seed, that have been watered in the right way and have grown into something truly incredible.
When the combination is right, it’s all about growing as a couple, never giving up on each other and learning about each other everyday. There is always something to be learnt, as you grow older together, so should you be aware of every little line that come’s with time as you walk down this lovely lover’s lane of life. Never lose your awareness or interest, feelings of love can be shown in so many ways, love is all about knowledge and understanding.
As we grow you realise that you learn to love so many people in different ways, it’s about cultivating those relationships and finding what will last forever. Our job here is to love other’s without stopping to inquire of their worthiness.
“Love does not come with a tag of restrictions and limitations, it is an independent feeling which arises from within and is purely unconditional and boundless”
Love never happen’s right away, it is something that is in continual growth, it’s a process and this develop’s after you have had times of suffering, ups and downs tears and lots of laughter together.
Remember, plant seeds always, but never forget to water……………………
Brooke Universal Life Coach
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The more we stop to listen and take note of what is said, the more mature we become and the more we are able to understand……………………………………….
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Total Sunday delight………………………………………..just can’t think of anything better !
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Have a great Saturday morning, ………………………..it’s a really nice part of the weekend!
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We all have an interior mirror, which reflects to us who we are…..we see are values from which we measure and come to the conclusion if we are capable of success or failure.
We laugh and cry on the inside and from this we consider if we are strong or weak, we destroy ourselves like army men they destroy themselves on the battle field, or we dress like Kings and Queens, with wonderful gowns,are we the princes or are we the toad…..maybe we are just innocent, this is our self confidence, the interior mirror where we see our selves reflected, sometimes in the real world some in another configuration, just like the mirrors at the fair !!! Look into your mirror
The superbeing……We love to be loved, and that others feel good with us,we suffer when people don’t appreciate us and under value us as a person. The universal law gives you the limitation “love others as you love yourself” the injustice that one person can bring to another is at times unbelievable, the correct balance comes from your self confidence “don’t wish for others,what you don’t wish for yourself” To be able to place yourself in the place of others is the highest you can go in your self confidence.
Our own self confidence flies many times in our lives over success or failure, failing or succeeding is what is at play with our self confidence, it is the feel of power, to do things out in the world sure of yourself, or feeling failure and feeling uncapable of obtaining nothing being unsure and unhappy. You could see success in others as a failure to you, and a failure in others as a success.
Positive self confidence can be humble and silent,it can be a interior sentiment full of pit falls,and in our society today there are people who consider themselves the object of failure or they feel that they are full of confidence and sure of themselves.Success is not only asociated to material objects, we see many times third world countries where material objects are not part of there everyday life,but there interior mirror tells them they are winners, they have confidence in everything they do,they are happy……… take a look at your interior mirror.
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5 THINGS TO REMEMBER ……………………………………………………..
Always think before you act, as you can see, some things are impossible to rectify!!
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Something a little different this week, still within the weekend music trend, flamenco dancing is a wonderful part of Spanish culture, but it is not for everyone, it kind of grows on you, as you start to understand the passion and body language of it………..here are some distinct styles
I hope you enjoy this little bit of Spanish culture, this evening, the last video is one of my favourite Spanish dancers, she is very well-known and has represented Spain on many a foreign stage, she has performed in Japan and New York on many occasions .
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CONFLICT…………………………………
When there are continual arguments within a home, it will affect the harmony within the household and can bring about insupportable situations,even though there maybe family members who are perfectly level-headed and sensitive to most situations, holding a general respect for younger and older members,but when you find a strong impulsive dominant person the situation can be strained. I would suggest that when dealing with these kind of people is to take on an intelligent attitude and to become an expert in managing this situation , this way peace will return to the family unit much quicker, than fighting every inch of the way, this only prolongs the moment in time the situation and is better to defuse in a short period of time. Don’t feel you are always giving in to the dominant one.
It is far better to defuse, as a lack of harmony can provoke a bad state of health, and the dominant party will also start to place the blame on the other party for them feeling ill and not being able to cope, this is turn can then start that both parties start to suffer from depression, and they will start to feel very trapped within this situation with no way out. Remember that when you reach maturity with emotions, you will be able to avoid and to fall into the trap of this behaviour and you will be able to react and not be so impulsive in your reaction.
The key is within the serenity, if before a violent attitude and the wish to always be right, you will only see that both parties are reacting on the same level…If we are capable of marking a distance and not reacting in the same way, we are showing emotional maturity and will probably shock the other person, when they do not receive the reaction they maybe wished for.
A famous French Author VICTOR HUGO, said ” Who always insults me, will never offend me “
Four essential ways necessary to find a solution:-
Always remain calm, and avoid criticism , although the other party may insult you, shout or threaten you, you must remain calm for the situation to calm down
Move away from the conflicting situation, let the other person rant and rage, let them let the anger out, without confronting them…. when the other person realises that you are not going to argue and get into a conflict situation the other person will calm down.
Listen and do not judge, When the other person is within their aggressive attitude, watch and listen with interest without showing a reaction, show a little compassion and the other person will realise that they have lost control.
Reach an agreement, when they have finished their verbal attack, they will eventually feel more calm…….you can then discuss the problems on a more relaxed level, without raising any voices…. you can express how you would like things to be done and discuss the differences in the correct manner.
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