Would you agree with me if I was to say that we live under a pressure today, that maybe our parents or grandparents did not under the modern aids and technology we have, I have to think that at times they are not a help but a heavy load that we carry, I can see how wonderful it can be in business, and the tremendous savings you can have in getting your brand, product talent out there, with one click we can almost show case to the world, but it does have its down side, like everything in life, I understand that, but what I was thinking about when I started this post, is the strain we put ourselves under regarding our relationships and personal achievements.
If we look at our personal relationships, I feel that younger people are under the tremendous strain of always comparing with others, which has to be one of the worst things we can suffer from, to live in eternal competition, as far as our appearance goes, it is possible that our parents or grandparents apart from the odd movie star as they were known then or pin-up the competition was greatly reduced, now, any magazine, tv or internet is full of beautiful people male or female it does not matter the pressure is on for everyone, and I have to say young or old, there are not many people out there who choose to be themselves, in every way, most are strongly influenced by others. Are you over weight, do you have the wrong hair colour for the season we are in, are your clothes the right ones ! the list in endless, do you live in the right place, is your home adequate, the list of this competition goes on and on, it is bread into us, by society and sometimes our home environment, do we or did we do well enough at school, did we compete strong enough in sports, there is a big difference in offering support to any child or adult and another is dictating how they should be and the results they should obtain, do we mix with the right crowd, all these things are putting us under pressure and also the person who is imposing this pressure, they are not pressure free.
Nobody has a totally stress free life, but the more we try to reduce that stress and pressure we submit ourselves to, the happier we are and will be, again this also goes for the one that imposes that pressure. Never confuse guidance and support with down right pressure, it is even a form of bullying, if we are not made to be 50 kilos in weight, the more our partner goes on about it,it will not let something magically appear or happen, the same applies with the career we decide to follow, if someone wanted to marry a brain surgeon, then do so, don’t expect a brain surgeon after 10 years of marriage to a manual worker, we love who we love and we share are life with people who are compatible with us, this is what helps our life to flow in the correct direction, this is what allows us to have internal satisfaction and peace, the more peace we have in our life, the less pressure we accumulate, and the more affective we become in our daily life.
Try to lighten your load, happiness really does account for a lot , pressure can be caused by ourselves it is not always brought on my another person, when we strive to be a perfectionist in this life, that is not wrong, but it is if it is costing us our health and happiness for ourselves and others. The pressure we put ourselves under, the worse we will feel, so try to slow up a little, put yourself first and take your foot of that pressure pedal.
Enjoy your time, whether it be work or pleasure, enjoy your day and enjoy your week !
Brooke Universal Life Coach