The purpose of life:-
The purpose of our life needs to be positive. We weren’t born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. For our life to be of value, I think we must develop basic good human qualities – warmth, kindness, compassion. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful – happier.
I always believe we are the same; we are all human beings. Of course, there may be differences in cultural back-ground or way of life, there may be differences in our faith, or we may be of a different colour, but we are human beings, consisting of the human body and the human mind. Our physical structure is the same, and our mind and our emotional nature are also the same. Wherever I meet people, I always have the feeling that I am encountering another human being, just like myself. I find it is much easier to communicate with others on that level…If we can leave the differences aside, I think we can easily communicate, Exchange ideas and share experiences.
First…….sorry I am late with this, but I really wanted to do this so hope you enjoy…..
I have had a rather strange week, which I won’t go into, but I’m glad it’s over……………gone, it now belongs to the past, and of course I am living in the present !!! Which I am pleased to say has it’s kindness which I have seen by others, I went to the garden center this morning, and on the way I have to stop at a cross roads, coming down the road I saw an elderly gentleman struggling down with the help of two walking sticks and his rubbish bag, making his way to the bin , which has a flip top and can be heavy, as I was wondering how he was going to manage, a very Young man stopped his car next to him, jumped out, took his rubbish and popped it into the bin for him, the elderley gentleman looked so surprised but was smiling from ear to ear, it was very lovely to witness this, and to see the awareness of this Young person who instantly stopped to help, It does not seem much written down here but it truly was an act of Kindness that happened around me this morning.
Are you with the right life partner, how will you know when you are ? At times we know what we want in our mind but the reality is at times different than what are imagination has indicated. We always see happy funny loving people who live for every second you spend together. But the real thing can be a Little more complicated than that, when you do meet the right person, it may take a while for the feelings to flourish, it is not love at first sight for everyone, you may not even feel love or lust for that person, and of course the perfect person at that moment does not mean you will be great life partners.
You need to find someone who you wish to spend time with, when you know you can spend hours talking about similar interests, or just have a great time together, enjoy each others company and have fun, you will want to spend time together. When you do spend that time together, after, you will feel good about yourself and value the things that you know the other person has seen and values also. Respect is a very important part of any relationship, when you know you are respected for who you are and your qualities, you know that your partner can only help you to become the person you really are or wish to be. A successful and long lasting relationship is one when both parties are independent one from the other, to follow individual interests if they wish and to feel independent , but knowing your partner will always offer support and encouragement. This at times can be difficult, but a relationship needs balance and working on this is important to have a healthy relationship. When you meet in your life, is also important, timing is everything, one may be looking for a long term relationship and the other no, love is not enough if both parties are not looking for a committed relationship.Communication is also vital, you must be able to express yourself and them to you, this will créate a strong and close relationship. There will be times when things don’t go as planned, an argument does not mean you are not good together, it is the most natural situation in the world, but, if you can’t talk about it later, on equal terms, you may not be able to go the full course, both should be able to communicate and choose to disagree if that should be the case, partners go through good and bad times, but if one is afraid to put their opinión forward, it is not a good sign, at the end of the day, this will rise to the surface and may not be understood.
No partnership is perfect, nobody is perfect, although you may think so at the beginning of a relationship, but if you can communicate and peacefully reach an agreement or not, you may have found the one, but you must be able to express how you feel regarding different situations.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road your trudging seems all up hill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
Ayou want to smile, but you have to sigh
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit
Life is queer with it’s twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a failure turns about
When we might have won had we stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow
Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the cloud of doubt, and you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far, So stick to the fight when your hardest hit, It’s when things seem worst ……………
YOU MUST NEVER QUIT !
If you feel that you get so close, then it fades away, keep this, and read it often, I have had this for maybe more than 15 years, and it has been read many times !
Wishing everyone a fun and happy week end. What ever you may be doing this week end, enjoy , take time out for yourself and your family
Dealing with expectations is really a tricky issue. If you have excessive expectations without a proper foundation, then that usually leads to problems. On the other hand, without expectation and hope, without aspiration, there can be no progress. Some hope is essential. So finding the proper balance is not easy. One needs to judge each situation on the spot.
The essential nature of mind is pure. It is based on the belief that the underlying basic subtle consciousness is untainted by the nagative emotions. Its nature is pure, a state which is referred to as the mind of clear light. That basic nature of the mind is also called Buddha Nature. So, since the negative emotions are not an intrinsic part of this Buddha Nature, there is a possibility to eliminate them and purify the mind.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Overcoming obstacles :
The capacity to see things from different angles is quite selective, we can focus on a particular angle, a particular aspect of that phenomenon, and adopt a particular perspective. This capacity becomes very important when we seek to identify and eliminate certain negative aspects of ourselves or enhance positive traits. Because of this capacity to adopt a different perspective, we can isolate parts of ourselves that we seek to eliminate and do battle with them.
Our positive states of mind can act as antidotes to our negative tendencies and delusory states of mind….As you enhance the capacity of these antidotal factors, the greater their forcé, the more you will be able to reduce the influences and effects of these things.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Overcoming Obstacles:
By making a steady effort, I think we can overcome any form of nagative conditioning and make positive changes in our lives. But you still need to realise that genuine change doesn’t happen overnight.
All deluded states of mind, all afflictive emotions and thoughts, are essentially distorted, in that they are rooted in misperceiving the actual reality of the situation. No matter how powerful, deep down these negative emotions have no valid foundation. They are based on ignorance. On the other hand, all the positive emotions or states of mind, such as love, compassion, insight and so on, have a solid basis. When the mind is experiencing these positive states, there is no distortion.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
Overcoming Obstacles:-
“Now, no matter what behaviour you are seeking to change, no matter what particular goal or action you are directing your efforts towards, you need to start by developing a strong willingness or wish to do it. You need to generate great enthusiasm. And, here, a sense of urgency is a powerful factor in helping you overcome problems”
“In order to generate a sense of urgency to engage in sprititual practices, the practioner is reminded of our impermanece is encouraged, so that when it is coupled with our appreciation of the enormous potential of our human existence, it will give us a sense of urgency that we must use every precios moment”
His holiness the Dalai Lama.
” Money will always match your mindset “
This is the first thing you should always remember, what you think is what you get. When a country or the world for that matter is in recession, many just want to go to sleep and wake up when they think it may all be over ! If you really want to succeed in your passion, don’t ever do that, what many do not realise is that during a recession it could be the biggest and best opportunity we could ever get.
Recession brings, lower start up costs, these are spread over premises and comercial units being far cheaper than in strong economical climate, intelligent Smart entrepreneurs start to invisage what will be needed as we come through and out of the recession or even during it, new services are needed and old one’s come back !!! It is the Golden opportunity to position yourself within the market, also don’t forget many new businesses don’t need premises anymore, a laptop is sufficient, when an existing business sadly close’s it doors, it’s equipment are worth nothing on the open market, a lot to them, but the hard truth is the selling Price has dropped so much, it’s value is very poor, but this is the opportunity waiting for some one else, the work forcé you may or not need are also in surplus, you have a great selection to choose from, and they may be willing to grow with you,this does not invite you to abuse, but a good agreement can be made for both parties, you need to open yourself up to opportunity, virtual or not.
You have to see at this point, that the way you are thinking will determine whether you see this as a problema or a gift ! That choice is yours in your mind. What are your thoughts on money, money is a simple tool that is exchanged from one to the other (yes I can hear you say,but you have to have it to do that) I agree, but maybe by the way you think of money you actually repell it from yourself. You need to write down what you belief about money (this is extremley important)do these thoughts help you or block you regarding money. What are your positive thoughts and reason to attract money to you. Write down your difficulties that you think you have.Then write down how you think you could resolve that difficulty.
When you think of money think of the freedom you can obtain,freedom from stress, worry, anxiety and freedom for what you want to enjoy .
More tomorrow :- How to alter your thoughts and your core beliefs.
Overcoming Obstacles…………….
“Whatever steps, however small, one can take towards learning to reduce the influence of the negative emotions can be very helpful. It can definitely help one live a happier and more satisfying life.”
“Learning and education are important because they help one develop conviction of the need to change, and help increase one’s commitment. This conviction to change then develops into determination. Next, one transforms determination into action – the strong determination to change enables one to make a sustained effort to implement the actual changes. This final factor of effort is critical.”
Happy Monday, to everyone, within the big picture of what you want,,decide which steps towards this you will be taking this week, step up, step out and step forward…………keep moving toward your goal, focus on what you want and not what you don’t want.
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