Depression should not be confused with sadness, depression is a terrible pain which affects your whole being, when you suffer from depression you will be emotionally blocked and thrown into absolute darkness, your mind will spin and spin .
It is said that when in depression, one of the best things you can do is write, write all your experiences and thoughts, you feel as though you are in a tunnel with no lights and you are totally incapacitated to find your way out, you will also feel anxiety, you will feel like a washing machine on full spin ! you can not make any decisions. Depression is a common problem, but in fact little is truly known about it, this is hard to believe and even more confusing from the people who suffer from depression, they find themselves trying to feel happy or crying because they can not choose what to wear.
Another big thing with depression is, you will tend to become an island to yourself, you will slowly close everyone out, when you read and write , it will help you to reconnect to yourself, your inner self, it will silence the devils that run around your mind, also a sport is good if you can, the body suffers and this can help, also with the pain in your soul. Many feel panic over the medication for the symptoms but don’t resolve anything, also many search for the why, the origin, when depression can out live anything or anyone. It is said that Churchill suffered depression, but he governed a country during a war, there is no set perfil it can and does affect anyone.
This illness is not a pain in the leg, arm or stomach, it is something very different and it takes strength, and determination and a lot of love to overcome this, if you have someone near to you with depression, be patient, understand, help when you can and love from the bottom of your heart, always seek professional advice if you feel is necessary .
Why do we complicate our lives so much, we break down, we feel confused and lose our way ! If we believed in ourselves a little more, we would know that our body mind and soul knows what we need and how to heal, faith we need faith……
I am writing this post today, to say thank you for your response to the vacancies I advised you of last week within my coaching program, I have had many emails and thought it might be of interest if I was to let you know the most frequent questions I have been asked, all very valid and you may find of interest to you :-
I would like to know, how can a coach help me,
A coach will help you see exactly what you want, as many people do not really know, we obtain clarity, you will become crystal clear on what you want.
We step by step uncover the blocks that are holding you back
We support you and keep you accountable for the actions you need to take to achieve what you want.
A life coach helps you with suggestions on how to make changes and to take the action required, step by step into the journey you have infront of you. You will align with the life you want and know who you really are.
A life coach will help you find your path, you are your own person, you are unique, and so am I, It is never to late to do what you want to do ? You can be coached from the comfort of your own home, in total privacy and at your pace. It is recommended a weekly session, the big question is usually the time ? This is difficult to answer, most people are in for the long haul, obviously as time goes on and you achieve what you want, you should look at one monthly session, contact with your coach is always a positive experience. Discovering your life potential is exciting business!! you will want to stick around, you will benefit by taking action, which you will not do alone, you will gain consistency, you will produce results that will really matter to you, it will improve your relationships, have greater respect for yourself,your self confidence will soar, you will know what you want and where you are going.
Why would you want a coach, maybe you are starting a new business, a total change of career, you feel dissatisfied, taking a new look at your options and choices, or you simply want to implement change in your professional or personal life.
You do not have to feel down, ill, disturbed in anyway to have a coach, alot of very happy and successful people have a coach, its a personal choice for personal development, you can move forward or you can powerfully move forward. I hope I have covered most things here,but my email is always open theutopiauniverse@gmail,com and there is more information on my blog, click on Universal Coaching, please feel free to drop me a line , any time.
Brooke….
How do we live around difficult people, although we may be optimists by nature, the majority of us like to be pleasant, however we always find someone difficult, should we say complicated ? When this happens we do get an opportunity to show our tact skills with this kind of person.
However at times we do not know how to react in front of difficult people, it takes us of balance and we focus more on what they are saying instead of what we are doing. And this can bring us down and affect our self-confidence and we become insecure, we become so angry that within seconds are whole world is up side down. This is due to the fact that we forget that difficult people do not change easily, if they wake up the wrong way, they stay that way. They are complicated and have great difficulty in putting themselves in the shoes of another person and have a great way of not helping.
Should you work with someone like this, or have to have contact, here are a few tips to help you:-
Never argue with difficult people, this only puts you on their level, don’t make excuses for them and dont raise your voice.
Listen, use your ability to listen , this way you will hear what is going on between the lines, it could be that they would like to be more like you, but they will find pleasure in criticizing you. You are the only one that has that right.
Be firm, decide before how far you will let some one go, and never let them go beyond that point.
Be persistent, don’t change your ways due to emotional tiredness, repeat your views in short phrases, the times necessary. This way you will see how convinced you are in what you say.
Keep the conversation short, Only relate true actions and keep it to a minimum, do not go into matters that could hurt you, and do not let them be little you.
Dont push your point of view, or even try to get them to understand it, you do not need to explain yourself to reach an agreement, this will not happen and you will fill worse afterwards for trying.
Avoid personal conversations, they will use them against you.
Be assertive, this will be your best kind of defense.
As always be happy…………..
How important is music to us ? to think it gives the soul to the universe, how grand it must be, just imagine what it brings to us, comfort, relaxation emotion joy and at times tears……..
At times, we forget the importance of colour, but they are there in everything we do, and they have an influence in our day-to-day. We don’t want all grey and black and white, we need to enjoy all the colours of the rainbow and its good energy.
RED – Is the colour of passion and strength, it brings the rebel out in you, it gives vitality and courage, it invites you to seek adventure in everything you do. When you wear or use red, it is a statement, here I am, its like a dare and a risk, it’s a good colour to move forward and abandon everything you know well, where you feel safe and secure.If red is very present in your life, you may be ready to start something new in your personal and social life, don’t be afraid you will have a lot of strength to get what you want.
LIGHT BLUE – A pure colour, fresh and relaxing, it invites calm, emotions, spirituality. This colour invites you to concentrate on your interior life to achieve stable relationships, harmony in your world and the people who surround you. The colour light blue advises you to go the way you know how, avoid problems and not to enter in conflict, your success will always be found in your interior.
GREEN – The colour of hope, fertility money health and nature, love and more love will be brought into your life, it ensures that most things you do in your life are what you want to do and your friendly nature will do the rest. Most people in your life are loving and happy people, you do not suffer from lack of self-confidence.
PINK – The colour of innocence love protection giving and sweetness, it allows you to express your feelings soft and deep, pink helps you to live your emotions from a strong base of emotion and not passion.. You will have stable emotions, but can at times bring out the young child in you in attitude and on a superficial level.
When I first came across this quote, it spoke to me, I do not know how many of you have felt interior pain, but if there was a way to explain it this would be it, I think it is one of the most beautiful quotes,( although related to pain) that I will keep close to me forever. Tears that are never seen but are truly felt.
If you have been following the last 3 weeks, Mind set, LOA, (Wednesday morning post) you will now be starting to feel a little change taking place, today is all about wealth set point, but as I have said in past posts, the basics of this can be used in anything you wish to attract to you, It’s the basic way Law of Attraction works.
Again we need to mention our beliefs, this is what holds us back, every time, I cannot state this enough, we are programmed with all kinds of beliefs, some we acknowledge and others we sometimes refuse to see, it’s important so always think deep and find them, you need to change the biggest beliefs that are negative to you and where you want to go,you really need to want to do this, and you need to take action NOW,
Your mental set point, has to be correct to deal with what you want, whether it is losing weight, wanting a life partner or making money, if you do not feel comfortable over it, due to hidden beliefs, it will not be welcomed when your opportunity comes along, how many people meet a perfect partner, but it does not last, this can be because the person does not feel worthy of such a perfect partner or body if it is weight or money etc., your set point just did not allow it. And we do not want this result. Change those hidden beliefs and you except what is to come, you need to do work on self-reflection, it is not easy, but it is necessary, yesterday in my post on fear, I mentioned a story, tell yourself a story of how you are worth what you desire, that you are more than ready to receive, repeat and repeat and let that become your new belief, what you now know for sure is that thoughts and a change in beliefs creates your reality. See and believe in your peak performance,
More next week !!! Work on those beliefs.
Do you know how important it is to feed your soul, the soul is said to be the love which is within, so are you loving yourself enough ?
Relationships change, but that is not always a bad thing, it really is inevitable, when we start the intense relationship with romantic passion we are sure it is going to last for ever. However we must be aware that things change and we must be prepared to confront this and allow the relationship to move forward.
Buddha once said :- The only constant thing in life is change
In stage one of our relationship it is usually full of romantic passion and everything is wonderful, on all counts, we must be sure that the compatibility is there in our life style, our values affection and sexuality. If we fall in love with someone we are not compatible with, we are almost guaranteed failure, there will never be enough sentiment for it to work, the trust and fear will surface between you and this will affect the relationship.
When one of the couple is insecure, they will tend to see negative points in the behaviour of the other, silly things like a late reply to a message or call, will have the other thinking negative thoughts, if you suffer from insecurity, seek professional help to help overcome this and enjoy your life and your relationship.
There are certain indicators that are partner is not into the relationship as much as the other, if they still see ex girlfriends for dinner or still do the rounds on the various web sites they were previously associated with, should this happen please check in with your dignity and have a good clear conversation regarding this, a person with dignity would never allow another person to behave like this and to cause them any emotional suffering and to take advantage of their good nature.
When you decide to live together, this usually can be a time of the emotional type of problems, when you start to live together there will be practical issues to overcome and both parties have to show willing to compromise and reach satisfactory agreements.
Living together also means time to negotiate, put forward all your ideas and petitions it’s a big change for both parties, this has to work both ways, don’t make the mistake of wanting everything your way, this is important to do at the beginning, other wise you will witness scenes of anger, tantrums and even resentment, this will create emotional distance between you, until there is nowhere to go, and the relationship can only end. Love and negociate are two very compatible words, you may not think it sounds very romantic, but it is more romantic than a bad end….you both have to know how to negociate all the aspects of your relationship, before it is a problem.
The finances associated with the home and the couple should be talked about and clearly known how they will be taken care of, this will avoid problems later on, many problems can arise with these points are not made clear from the start. Again it is important to reach an agreement that you are both happy with.
Living together also involves respecting the other and there habits, we all have them and the sooner you share them with your partner the better, this is all part of being compatible, also when you are used to your our space, it can be difficult at first to start to share that space, we all need our space and should value this for everyone concerned. You may need space to do a special hobby or activity, or you may find your space by being with friends, this is not a crime and should not be frowned upon by the other partner, one is not the property of the other, we do not own our partners. Love is not about that, love should be free, we should not try to influence our partner, that will work at the beginning but later resentment can set in, and time is not something we can recuperate, there is also an abundance of love in this world, enough love for everyone to have their share, and to be happy. Love while you can, it truly is a beautiful thing.
This is our Monday affirmation, let’s start the week with good strong intentions :
You choose, don’t ever forget, that we always have a choice, read this affirmation everyday and let’s see that chosen change take place !!
Have a great week………………………….
theutopiauniverse 