Transforming Suffering:

It seems that whenever there are intense emotions involved, there tends to be a disparity between how things appear and how they really are.

Whether we are successful or not, even the honest attempt to search for our own contribution to a problem allows a certain shift of focus that helps to break through the narrow patterns of thinking that lead to the destructive feeling of unfairness that is the source of so much discontent in ourselves and in the world. 

His Holiness the Dalai Lama.