June, the sixth month of the year, where did those first six months of the year go, they seem to have flown by. Time is really going far to quickly later, I hope that is not a sign of old age !! They do say the time goes quicker as you age, I personally think it is when you have children, you turn around and they are adults, they have flown the nest, and some are left trying to cope with the “empty nest syndrome”
This is a time when parents can be overcome with depression, grief a form of sadness when their beloved children leave home. Women tend to be more affected than men, this does not mean that men are not affected, they can suffer from this sadness also.
As more women work today, this syndrome can be less painful, the emptiness is not the same, and also children are leaving home at a later age, and for many reasons, children also return home more now than in previous years.
So how do you spot this syndrome and if you are suffering, to feel sad is normal at this time, you always have to allow for a period of time to adapt, you may find yourself in their bedroom more, or you zoom in on something of theirs to feel closer to them.
If you feel you may suffer from this syndrome make a note of your reactions and how long they last, if you feel useless, or cry more than normal or withdraw from your normal social activities, you should maybe seek some professional advice.
You also have to take into consideration that many women may be going through menopause also around this time, or trying to cope with elderly parents. The relationship parent/child will have great consequences for both parties, the closer they are, may actually help in some ways, as long as they keep their communication going, they are deeply missed, but with communication a healthy relationship can remain.
When a child/ren leave a home an overwhelming sadness can take hold, try at all times to discuss your feelings with friends for support and always be kind to yourself. The time and energy you directed to your child/ren, can now go towards activities for yourself, return to hobbies, leisure activities or a new career, this is your time now, there is no guilt attached to this time, you are always there for your children but your time now belongs to you again. Take this as an opportunity and enjoy your new-found life.
Remember…………..As one door closes, another door opens….!
Human Warmth and Compassion
I think that empathy is important not only as a means of enhancing compassion, but I think that generally speaking, when dealing with others on any level. If you’re having some difficulties it’s extremely helpful to be able to try to put yourself in the other person’s place and see how you would react to the situation.
On a personal level, being open and sharing things can be very useful. Because of this nature I can make friends more easily, and it’s not just a matter of knowing people and having a superficial exchange but of really sharing my deepest problems and suffering. And it’s the same thing when I hear good news. I immediately share it with others. So, I feel a sense of intimacy and connection with my friends.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
This thank you is to all my followers new and old, I am very grateful for the continual support I am giving by the blogosphere. I appreciate every single one of you for your likes, comments and great posts I get to read. You are all so different and unique and I am grateful for you all being here with me.
Thank you
Thank you Thank you Simon from Planet Simon sfarnwell.wordpress.com for my nomination to this award, I am very grateful that you thought of me. I would highly recommend you visit Simon’s Blog is very interesting Science -fiction humour,tech,space and books, there really is something for everyone, it’s amazing what you can learn ! http://sfarnwell.wordpress.com pop over and visit.
The rules:-
Display the Award on your blog and thank your nominator
Award 6 Bloggers of your choice, and advise them
State 7 interesting things bout yourself.
I am the Author of five published books, I love to write and really enjoyed the experience of writing my books.I am still an apprentice in this field but I am presently working on my first novel.
I like to follow fashion trends, and have an addiction to shoes and bags
I love cooking, but it has to be fresh vegetables etc., I don’t like tins or frozen food
I have been fortunate and have travelled quite a lot, I loved my time in Israel, Russia, Outer Mongolia, Siberia all different but great experience and memorable.
I enjoy visiting european cities, but only for a few days,I prefer open spaces and rural surroundings.Paris could be an exception!
I love to care for my plants, herbs nature in general
I am a typical Libra, I like to be organised, balance and harmony is very important to me.
I would like to nominate:-
http://dopelifey.wordpress.com
http://kristinagallo.wordpress.com
http://violtadyliopionistapercaso2.wordpress.com (Bukurie)
http://erikakind.wordpress.com
http://onceuponahotflash.
http://spearfruit.com
You are under no obligation to accept this award, but by doing so we are giving the opportunity for other bloggers to pass on the award. I hope you enjoy and congratulations to everyone.
Human Warmth and Compassion
Within all beings there is the seed of perfection. However, compassion is required in order to activate that seed which is inherent in our hearts and minds.
Whenever I meet people I always approach them from the stand-point of the most basic things we have in common. We each have a physical structure, a mind, emotions. We are all born in the same way, and we all die. All of us want happiness and do not want to suffer. Looking at others from this stand-point rather than emphasising secondary differences, such as the fact that I am Tibetan, or a different colour, religion or cultural background, allows me to have a feeling that I’m meeting someone just the same as me. I find that relating to others on that level makes it much easier to exchange and communicate with one another.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
Well, here I am again, you may of noticed I did say Awards yesterday and again today, because I still have another one to post, I am catching up as quickly as possible, sorry about this folks, However I would like to give a big thank you to the wonderful blog, (feeling my freedom) feelings161.wordpress.com this is a very interesting blog covering varied topics, and well worth a visit.You will enjoy the visit.
The rules ;
Say thank you for your nomination
List the rules and display the award
State 7 facts about yourself
Nominate 5 – 10 bloggers.
I live in Spain, and enjoy the benefits of gentler winters and very warm summers.
I love the outdoor life I can enjoy in this climate
During the summer months eating outside is normal, and everything takes on a different taste,you can relax and enjoy the evening breeze
I love the beach, and to hear and watch the sea,the water is clear and warm
I enjoy my garden and pool, swimming can be part of my everyday life
I love my life here, and have done for over 30 years
I am extremely grateful for my life and give thanks everyday for my life,my boys and of course my dogs !
My nominees are ;
endsandbeginningsblog.wordpress.com
simplyettad.wordpress.com
postprodigal.com
vickygoodwin.wordpress.com
milesandscars.com
realtastypages.wordpress.com
sumitofficial.wordpress.com
You are not obligated to accept this award, but should you choose to do so, you will in turn make other bloggers very happy,they deserve your support and the opportunity for us to get to know other bloggers,
Brooke
I would regard a compassionate, warm, kindhearted person as healthy. If you maintain a feeling of compassion, loving kindness, then something automatically opens your inner door. Through that, you can communicate much more easily with other people. And that feeling of warmth creates a kind of openness. You’ll find that all human beings are just like you, so you’ll be able to relate to them more easily.
I think that in many cases people tend to expect the other person to respond to them in a positive way first, rather than taking the initiative themselves to create that possibility. I feel that’s wrong; it leads to problems and can act as a barrier that just serves to promote a feeling of isolation from others. So, if you wish to overcome that feeling of isolation and loneliness, I think that your underlying attitude makes a tremendous difference. And approaching others with the thought of compassion in your mind is the best way to do this.
My basic belief is that you first need to realise the usefulness of compassion.
Human Warmth and Compassion
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
I have been honoured for the second time to receive this wonderful award, I have accepted, to be able to pass it on to the fabulous blogs we have in the blogosphere. I would like to thank my nominator, “Daisy” from Daisywillows.wordpress.com and apologise for the delay in posting my award !
The following rules apply:
Thank your nominator
Display the Award on your blog
Write 150/300 word post on your favourite blog, explain why and provide link.
State 10 random facts about yourself
Nominate 5 – 11 bloggers who have less than 200 followers
Place the rules on your post
Inform your nominees
Provide 11 questions for your nominees.
After giving great thought about writing a post regarding my favourite blog, I simply can’t, there are so many interesting fabulous blogs out there, I would be doing a great injustice to all of you, each blog I follow can be different but equally interesting regarding a vast about of topics, and I could not choose, Hope I am forgiven for this.
Daisy’s Question’s to me !
If you could bring One Musician Back from the dead, who would it be and why ?
This is a difficult one, we have lost so many talented musician’s in this year alone, however maybe I would go for Whitney Houston, her wonderful voice and beauty for one, and secondly maybe for the reason behind her death, did she feel so alone ? I could have chosen Pavarotti, Bowie or even Bob Marley, all talented in their field.
If you could live in a book, TV show or movie what would it be ?
Hav’nt finished my book yet,so can’t answer that, at this moment in time !!
If you could get away with a crime, would you ? if yes, what would it be
No, I could not commit a crime, It would play on my mind, over and over, I prefer a peaceful mind.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years ?
I see myself writing my second novel, after the first being a great success !
If you could live forever, How would you spend eternity ?
Totally in love, and helping others as much as possible
How do you want to be remembered ?
If I am remembered as a loving Mother, I would be more than happy
If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be ?
This would have to be a bungalow over the sea in The Maldives, full of inspiration and a laptop
What would be your perfect day
My garden, a big table, a great smell of home cooking, my family and my dogs , laughter love and good music
If you could speak another language, which would it be and why ?
I speak fluent spanish, but would like to bring my French to the same level it sounds superb….
What makes you happiest ?
My boys…………..always
If you could change one thing about yourself, What would it be ?
My sensitivity………………………………….
10 Random facts about myself:
I love coffee, I dislike cruelty to animals, I love beautiful things, I like old books, I always have flowers in my home, I enjoy my space, I enjoy a glass of wine, I have passion for my work, People are interesting to me, My home is my sanctuary.
My Nominees are !
abrokenbluesky.wordpress.com
ssthoughtpoems.wordpress.com
poisonoustruths.wordpress.com
searchingforfai.wordpress.com
xperiencedimension.wordpress.com
My question’s to you are ;
What is your favourite time of the day and why ?
Do you enjoy exercise ? and if so what is the benefit for you ?
Do you enjoy being alone ?
What is your favourite country ?
If you could do anything in the world, what would it be ?
Are you happy ?
Would you change anything in your life and if so, what ?
What are you most proud of ?
Are you a good listener or a good talker ?
Do you work with “your passion”?
Do you plan your week-ends ?
You are under no obligation to accept this award, but I would feel really good if you did and spread a little love and inspire more bloggers in this great blogosphere, I leave it in your hands, thank you
Brooke
Well, the other day I think I have opened a can of worms as they say, that it going to keep me busy for some time, The emails have poured in and I thank everyone for reading my Divorce post and then taking time to write to me about your personal concerns, I have set the mails into groups and today I would like to answer the above title ;-
Many of you seem concerned about family relationships falling apart due to internal and external problems coming between a family, I think the first thing that stands out to me, is the misunderstanding of family, our family grows as the family grows,but the initial family is the base and when we spread our wings and bring people into that circle, it is also a little bit part of the package, many see this as a competition and that is not the case, a family unit can accept new members, thats how families grow, but to grow strong everyone needs a time to adapt, in good and in bad times, life is not a fairy tale it is real, and real life traumas happen, not because we want it to, simply because we never know what is round the corner, and to overcome these obstacles it certainly helps if we all row the boat in the same direction. But, to do this there must be open communication, no story has one side, when brothers and sisters,mothers & fathers have a misunderstanding, it is normal that there partner will want to protect or simply be on that partners side, however, this influence can be very strong, because when you share a roof with someone who is not your original family at times, they can have undetected reasons to want this feud to continue, they see themselves as wonderful saviours, but they must understand that taking sides is not the solution, for many reasons, first of all, they do not know all the details, and if communication was flowing freely all parties would be able to speak without offense and criticism, and, maybe a different picture would be seen, you cannot make decisions and form opinions without this free-flowing conversation, it is basically very unfair and secondly basic family will always find away to reconnect even if many years pass, but the new addition to the family (even if years pass by) may never be forgiven the same and a bond of trust will never be seen. So why do people do this, to feel important, if they are simple maybe, or are they jealous of the existing bond, many people do not understand that bonds and family love have nothing to do with love between a couple. brothers,sisters,mothers & fathers is a love which is on a totally different level . These are people who have been in the life of the person in question their whole life, this can be a long time, and no matter what the difference may be they will always be brothers,sisters,mothers & fathers ! This may seem hard but partners can come and go, wives and husbands can be divorced and couples can part, this is a true fact, this does not mean that they are less thought of, but a family will have their dynamics and if they are communicating people, this should be respected, if a person wishes to be respected then they must respect others to achieve this. When people shut down and exclude others, they are showing their own insecurity, what are they afraid of………? In temper people may say or do things that they later regret, everyone can understand this action, but the ability to not say a very simple word “I’m sorry ” can also be seen as their true intent. Sadly there are people who truly do feel inferior to the family they are in, when this happens and they do not wish to communicate, their intention can be, just to split a family apart. This is like a hunter, just wishing to control their prey, obviously each family has its differences, and every situation is different and needs specialised answers to each case. However the basic reasons are generally all with the same base, this can be Jealousy,Inferiority complex, Control, Illusion of Superiority, Selfish by not coming from a close knit family with free flowing conversation. When you find yourself in a situation of this kind, try to keep calm and assess which and why is the basic reason, this way you will find it easier to resolve the conflict by knowing which way to operate to resolve the situation.
It is a known and proven fact that unhappy people tend to be most self-focused and are often socially withdrawn, brooding, and even antagonistic. Happy people on the other hand are found to be sociable, flexible, and creative and can handle everyday frustrations more easily than unhappy people. And by far is more loving and forgiving than unhappy people…..Happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events. So which one are you? If you are in the process of creating a new life for yourself, if you are visualizing what you wish to créate into reality new beginnings, a new job, partner, or financial stability whatever your desire may be, you will know that during this process you also have to feel the sensation, the emotion of having what you desire, it is therefore very important, how you answer the question above, are you happy or unhappy? You have to be honest, otherwise, how can you possibly feel the emotion of having what you want, maybe this is your block, maybe this is between you and your wish, maybe this is why your frequency/vibration is not on the right level, you need to feel happy about what you have, and then you can feel even happier when you have everything you want. Although you may not have everything you want, you should always be happy and grateful for what you have right now, do you eat everyday, do you sleep in a bed and have clothes to wear, then you should feel happy and grateful because there are many who do not have these basics in life when you can be happy in your everyday life and situation, you can then visualize the happiness you will really feel in the life you wish to créate, and the level required on the right frequency/vibration will be more likely to go out to the universe correctly, and your message will be received loud and clear. Always believe in the way you think, the thoughts you process, and the positive outcome of your visión.
Brooke Universal Life & Relationship Coach
theutopiauniverse@gmail.com
Short of time today, so have decided to reblog a post, which I hope you will enjoy
Are you in charge ?
How many times do we give control of our lives to others ? Recently on a personal level I decided to Recharge – Take charge,I really never had given the consideration needed to this subject, you see we go through our daily life, giving everything we have to our families (this we do with love but you need to remember yourself as well) our jobs,our homes,our obligation’s .
You see, we do most of this because we want to and receive pleasure from doing so,our home and families are generally our main concern,and should be ,they are probably the biggest treasure we will ever have in our life,but with this we sometimes make decisions, or not,that if we were in charge we would not make. Problems and obstacles come most days of our lives,some are trivial and we deal with more or less automatically,but at…
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The purpose of life ;
Although it is posible to achieve happiness, happiness is not a simple thing. There are many levels. In Buddhism, for instance, there is a reference to the four factors of fulfilment, or happiness: wealth, wordly satisfaction, spirituality and enlightenment. Together they embrace the totality of an individual’s quest for happiness.
When I say “training the mind” in this context I’m not referring to ‘mind’ merely as one’s cognitive ability or intellect. Rather, I’m using the term in the sense of the Tibetans Word Sem, which has a much broader meaning, closer to ‘psyche’ or ‘spirit’; it includes intellect and feeling, heart and mind. By bringing about a certain inner discipline, we can undergo a transformation of our attitude, our entire Outlook and approach to living.
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