Have you ever had a moment in your life, when you find that someone else would like to dictate to you how your life should go, how when and where…it can be a very suffocating situation and of course more important than anything else, it is your life…… you will very often find that the person that wishes to impose all of this upon you hides behind a defense of love and caring, however, would they really behave in such a way if this was the case?

If you stop and study this kind of person you will observe that they have very little life of their own, they actually live your life or through you and your life, attempting to be you in every way and wishing to control you and even in extreme cases your family, they do all have one thing in common and that is how they operate when things don’t turn out how they wish when you are vulnerable and in a situation of internal gratitude they are at their highest, this is where they like to be, they feel in control over everything that concerns you, however, when questioned on this or simply taken out of the game, they will go all out seeking forgiveness with explanations for their behavior which once again will not add up to anything holding commonsense, the next move is usually looking to play the victim, where you are supposed to feel sorry for them, and sadly many of you fold here, keep your senses in tact and don’t let down your guard, if you have made a decision that you feel is right for you and your life, stand your ground because if you get to the third move, you will be the culprit, the whole situation will turn around, everything will then be what you do and didn’t do and what sadly they think you are doing, which is always way out and totally not true, but unfortunately this makes them feel good, the responsibility is not on them in their eyes, they have passed that on to you, so again, mainten your feelings, you know who you are and you know who they are.

You should never be forced into a situation that you do not want, and you should never be forced to love someone, there is a big difference between being fond of someone and being in love, love is a very versatile word, it can be used in many ways we can love food, places designs many things we can love our friends and family members but we are not under any obligation we do this freely and that is how we should be able to live our lives, without control and constant observation.

Be happy, live your life, but live your life how you wish to live……..we can all make mistakes, but when respect is lost and you feel violated of your rights to live your own life, you must keep on your journey, there is a lot to life, if you go and enjoy it.

Brooke Universal Life & Relationship Coach






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