Have you ever felt envy, most of us have at some time, why, why not admiration for some one ? So how do we reduce this negativity ?
This is an emotion which makes us feel that we can not achieve what some one else has. Many people feel inferior to others , and for this reason we feel they are better than us, so how do we make this positive ?
Envy is a desire to want something that another has that we feel we can’t have or obtain, what is this due to, Is it feed by sadness of not having what the other has or the rage and frustation that the other has it. In a way it is the person feeling envy does not have sufficient confidence to think they have the capacity to obtain what they have and for that reason do not want the other to have either. This emotion can even lead you to wanting to destroy what they have.
Now we have to ask can there be “healthy envy ” the answer is no, the emotion should then be called admiration, although people do say healthy envy, when you see that you recognise the value and merit of the other person, and when you hold some one in your admiration for them, you want to be like them and follow what they do, and this is when you can raise to the occasion, you feel you can do it. When we learn to copy models that we admire (like our Mothers, Fathers brothers etc., we also copy attitudes and fears) So, you have to take great care what you learn, if not the envy will still be there, you must not compare yourself to others, if we do the balance will be wrong.
So what do we do, no two people are the same, each one of us are unique I always tell you that, sorry to repeat but it’s a fact, envy is to want to be some one else, which means we do not want to accept who we are, so we need to concentrate on ourselves and our potencial. If you accept who you are and that you cannot be repeated and learn to value yourself, envy will leave you, as you see your own capabilities and talents. You have to become aware that we only compare ourselves with people who have more, How would we feel if we compared ourselves with people who have less ? When we start to have confidence and see our own potencial to move forward and obtain what we want and start to get results, we leave the envy behind………………………………………………………………….