Have you ever felt envy, most of us have at some time, why, why not admiration for some one ? So how do we reduce this negativity ?

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This is an emotion which makes us feel that we can not achieve what some one else has. Many people feel inferior to others , and for this reason we feel they are better than us, so how do we make this positive ? 

Envy is a desire to want something that another has that we feel we can’t have or obtain, what is this due to, Is it feed by sadness of not having what the other has or the rage and frustation that the other has it. In a way it is the person feeling envy does not have sufficient confidence to think they have the capacity to obtain what they have and for that reason do not want the other to have either. This emotion can even lead you to wanting to destroy what they have. 

Now we have to ask can there be “healthy envy ” the answer is no, the emotion should then be called admiration, although people do say healthy envy, when you see that you recognise the value and merit of the other person, and when you hold some one in your admiration for them, you want to be like them and follow what they do, and this is when you can raise to the occasion, you feel you can do it. When we learn to copy models that we admire (like our Mothers, Fathers brothers etc., we also copy attitudes and fears) So, you have to take great care what you learn, if not the envy will still be there, you must not compare yourself to others, if we do the balance will be wrong.images three dogs

So what do we do, no two people are the same, each one of us are unique I always tell you that, sorry to repeat but it’s a fact, envy is to want to be some one else, which means we do not want to accept who we are, so we need to concentrate on ourselves and our potencial. If you accept who you are and that you cannot be repeated and learn to value yourself, envy will leave you, as you see your own capabilities and talents. You have to become aware that we  only compare ourselves with people who have more, How would we feel if we compared ourselves with people who have less ?  When we start to have confidence and see our own potencial to move forward and obtain what we want and start to get results, we leave the envy behind………………………………………………………………….

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It's time to payback all the good in our lives,to pass to each other everything we have learned,the knowledge we have stored within, and the love we have to share. I am a fully qualified Psychologist,Life Coach,Performance Consultant & LOA Practitioner. I have shared this blog with everyone since February 2013, I have been able to help many,but also been helped by many,this I am truly grateful for and thank everyone for your support and advice.Should you wish to contact me, please feel free to do so,my email is open to you all. I look forward to hearing from you.
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22 Responses to DO YOU FEEL ENVY…………

  1. Miriam says:

    I think that being content with who we are and what we have in our life is one of the keys.

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  2. roach59 says:

    I really have never felt envious of anyone else. I guess growing up in a family with 9 kids and being taught to share and that everyone is different helped me to function in my own space. I learned early that everyone is gifted in their own right ant that it has nothing to do with the areas that I am gifted in. That is what has helped me not to envy others. It may sound foreign to others but that certainly is not an area of weakness for me. Great post, by the way.

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  3. Jenny says:

    Acceptance is a key. We are all unique so no reason to envy. 🙂


  4. DaisyWillows says:

    I agree that the opposite of envy is not healthy envy- it doesn’t sound positive at all. Admiration yes. I have felt a lot of envy in my past and sometimes I am still caught off guard but I’m learning that I top have abilities and strengths that make me me and a me that is successful


  5. Régine says:

    Por mi es stupido de tener envidia…. Creo que debemos estar contentos con lo que tenemos y no hay nada que nos prohibido con nurestras valores, capacidades y conciencia de mejorar nuestra vida….. Tingo admiracion por las personas que hacen u dicen cosas que te calienta el corazon….


  6. Agree with you on this! It is all about accepting ourselves. Please check out my post called ‘Envy and Inspiration’ …on the same topic 🙂


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