When we keep all our emotions deep down and pent-up, it is important to emphasise that the cure for the outside world is not to put on a brave face and fight back the tears, this will only make things worse and can have great physical effects along the way. This method of hiding your emotions will also add to your original stress, tension and conflict – just as tensing up against physical pain succeeds in causing greater pain. You may feel that you need to hide your emotions and be strong for the rest of your family or maybe you simply have always lived within a family unit that do not show emotion to one another or anyone for that matter, this will only create long-term  severe negativity, that grows and becomes the root of maybe a terrible illness. 

This is why it is essential that we find a way to release our emotions that suit us, we are all different and some methods suit others better than the next person. You cannot allow your frustration or fear or anger whatever the emotion you are feeling be taken out on your family and friends or within your work place, there are many ways to discharge pent-up emotion.

When you are overpowered by these emotions and they spring up on you , especially if the feeling has become habitual, try to find yourself a little spot just for you, take a deep breath and then scream or shout as loud as you can, this really helps to release all that you have bottled up, jealousy hatred whatever it maybe, if this is impossible then do a similar process but with a pillow, shout into a deep pillow, which will muffle the sound and then hit it time and time again as hard as you can, this is a great way to release that pent-up tension, you may think you are far to reserved to act in this way, but I would suggest you give it a try, this is something between you and your emotions, no one else and you will be amazed on the release it gives you ! 

Another wonderful method is a good cry, just think of something that will trigger this emotion for you, or maybe listen to a certain piece of music that holds memories for you, or maybe its a film that brings those tears up to the surface, just have a wallow in nostalgia. Talking about your emotions can also help if you have a great friend who you trust and can confide. However if your problem is really deeply set, and well rooted into you, seeking professional advise is very wise and can resolve the problem much quicker and happier for you and your surroundings. They will help you work through your feeling and you will feel comfortable doing so. Another great solution on the opposite end of the scale is laughter, laughing until you ache is a great formula to release stress and tension, it really helps to change our perspective on things that really do worry or frighten us, so, whenever possible laugh as much as you can. Watching or reading funny things a film, a book or the TV really can boost your feelings. 

Never keep your emotions pent-up, no matter what you have been taught or how strong you wish to be for others, find your space, find your method and release as much as you possible can, pent up emotions can only lead to an unhappy and even a very unhealthy lifestyle, again loving yourself is part of all this and we need to care for ourselves the same as we care for others, we are not here to be forgotten ❤

Brooke Universal Life Coach 

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