“You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind”
This has got to be the number one rule, but we struggle with negativity,at times because of the people we have around us, we all know someone who may be very dear to us who moans from morning to night, and if we are caught up in the middle of all this caos and we can not just walk away, due to what ever the circumstances may be, we have to prepare ourselves to brave the storm and come out positive regardless, we owe that to ourselves.
You must never fall into the trap of becoming one of these cynical and negative beings, friendships and relationships should not be hurting you, they should be helping you…. the good news is, we can save ourselves, after all if we pick up a pair of scissors, we don’t cut ourselves, unless of course we make that choice… choice we always have a choice,and the choice we choose will reflect in our attitude,when we are around negative people and you know that they are negative, try to keep things light, talk about daily events,routine things and friends, protect your space, you can this way diminish there negativity. No one has the power to change the way you think,that is yours and yours alone, at times it is not what happens around you, it’s how you personally react, when we opt for blaming others or complaining this will change nothing, nothing at all. However if you concentrate on a solution and not pity for others or yourself things can start to change in a positive way,when we approach situations with love and care,it’s hard for negativity to creep in, we all have something that we love and care for, even if it is your dog,think of them and bring the right emotion to the event….. when we look for solutions from this angle, you have to act and this action takes you where you need to go.
Support is always good for anyone, but not pity, you do not need all the drama, just let others know you are there for them, with a quick “are you ok” “need anything” do not let them elaborate there negativity. No life is perfect we all have ups and downs,it’s when you dwell on it, it can become a major problem (negative) learn from it but don’t let it ruin anything, focus on today, the past has gone, whatever has given you pain, deception etc., in the past has gone, and we can not change that, imagine if you were to carry 100 kilos around with you on your back, the feeling would not be that of being alive and ready to go, quite the opposite, you need to lighten the load, let go and move on, difficult situations and wrong relationships can be heavy problems to handle,but you have a right to be happy now, letting things go does not mean you hate them, it means you are providing space for the right relationships and situations, you are doing this for yourself,to allow positive people and opportunities into your life.
When negative people are in our lives it is not easy but it is not impossible to keep our positive space, you need to care and defend ourselves and this can be done,with the right choice and attitude. Focus on today and let the past stay in the past.
Brooke Universal Life Coach