Do you know how to say you are sorry, can you apologise, some find this impossible, it does not have to be the hardest word, so why do we complicate life so much for this little word……………………..I am not sure if a perfect apology exists, but here are a few tips to help you out!
You have to remember that you are in this, very much, the center of this hurricane, so never forget to use the word “I” we are not apologising for some one else, for example, ” I am sorry that I hurt your feelings ” instead of “I’m sorry that your feelings were hurt ” the person you are apologising too, will probably be more inclined to forgive and forget , if you take full responsibility for your actions and the situation you created. Do not try to deny what has happened all perfectly wrapped up in you justifying your actions, this can happen if you go on about how you did it, just a little too much.
Try to never bring in the word “but” it never sounds good, and is usually part of an excuse. Don’t request forgiveness straight of, many people find this difficult to handle and can’t do it. You also have to remember that if this is something you are continually doing wrong and having to apologise for, maybe it is time to make a change within you, this will resolve any future conflicts and it can be done, to see a change you need to change something within you, and put an end to repeat performances.
A sincere apology has three parts , I am sorry, It is my fault, what can I do to make it right ?
Life is full of mistakes, so many we can’t even count….. and we all make mistakes nobody is mistake free, and if you think you are, then maybe you should take a good long look at yourself, it is impossible we are human and we act and feel that way, at times something can be said that we are totally unaware of, this can hurt another person in a way you cannot imagine, at times it does not need to be words, an action you do can stay with someone for a life time, remember everyone is different and we are sensitive in different ways………..you may not be aware of what has gone on, but also remember it is never too late to apologise, and it’s never too late to say your sorry.
Brooke Universal Life Coach