Who are we to talk of pain or hurt, it is a personal emotion that is felt in an individual way like love, we are not qualified to determine how much another feels love or pain and hurt…….in fact can we truly calculate for ourselves ? Everbody has a distinct threashold of pain or love…………………………the biggest problem however, is how we deal with this pain, you may notice within your group of friends that some will tell you every detail and explanation they feel fit, or others will tell you nothing, they go inside of themselves like a little snail and keep everything in, with time, this is the worst thing we can do, we actually create more pain for ourselves, when we hide away within a fortress or hidden walls we are not only hiding away from that pain, but we are also not allowing any happiness in either, we are depriving ourselves of everything, the help of others to maybe get through our hurt and pain and also any happiness and joy that comes our way, we are holding ourselves hostage alongside our pain. we are talking here of emotional pain,but when this is not attended to correctly it can also give us physical pain through an illness that we create by holding on to our inical pain.
At times, if we allow ourselves to cry, it can be the best medicine, it gives you that strength to carry on, and releases a great amount of stress and anxiety, there is nothing wrong with tears, tears can be associated to music, people we see, a smell that is so familiar to us and brings back warm and happy memories, tears can also be for happiness, they are not always associated with sadness.
We are all different and behave and react in different ways, when we open up to another person, it actually takes alot of courage and trust,within ourselves and with the other person. Even if you think you know you neverreally know how they will react or respond and that will always be out of your control. In keeping them out, you keep the risk of dissappointment and pain out. But in keeping them out, as I mentioned before we keep the happiness also out. We all have secrets and things we do not want to share with the outside world, but there are others that when we share, we are helping ourselves
Never feel bad to share your pain, it is good for us to talk, to cry to share, to be who we really are.
Brooke Universal Life Coach