This is a question we need to ask ourselves, are we capable of reaching out ? asking for help or support ? Or even just slip your hand out for someone to hold onto it or give you a big hug ?
You may or may not be aware that we know a lot of people around us that find these things very difficult to do, so unless you are good at reading people and have the gift of intuition (which many do) you may have someone very close to you, who desperately wants or needs your help. And of course the next question would be, would you give that help, from the goodness of your heart ?
If you are a true friend and wish to extend your help, there are a few things you need to know, the biggest one being “Just listen” hold that hand or embrace in that hug but above all else, listen……..many times when people listen to us, really listen to us, we instantly find comfort and are spirits raise, the fact that we are important enough to be listened to, is a great thing to us…..it speaks to us of untold love and respect, some one wants and does care…………..and at times this is just what we want……….
The one thing we must not do, is give advice, as it may come back and bite you !! particularly in a family or relationship situation, do you know the saying ” I can say what I want about him/her them, but don’t let anyone else” you see, even though we are down and need help or support, we do not lose our senses, and remember what we are told and what has been said, to call a loved one of another is never a wise move…parents, children or partner, this is why the number one rule is listen, no matter how tempted you are to give your opinion or asked to, we are all different and should never make choices for others and not one that could later cost us that friendship.
So what stops us from asking for help or support if we need it ? Pride, confidence, not wanting people to think we are weak………there are many reasons but none of them are sufficient to keep us from reaching out, we have to be brave to do this, there is nothing weak about asking, to not want anyone to know we are in this situation is a very often excuse that we us, it is understandable but again should not be used, is it due to age, having been totally independent and now again have to rely on someone, is it due to illness and don’t want to be a nuisance, if you are really friends, think how that person and you would feel if you never reached out and ran out of time to be that nuisance you think you may be……….Our friends and family are there for us in most cases, and you know the saying of a problem shared. You will know at times that your friend or family cannot resolve the problem, but you have lifted the entire weight of it all off you and you have shared it. And also although you really do not want advice, believe me on this !, but you may however get a good suggestion in a positive way, not relating to anyone in person.
This is a perfect time to let your gratitude shine through ❤
Brooke Universal Life Coach