Welcome once again to my cozy corner, thank you so much for your participation I am so thrilled you are enjoying this section, I can see this by the response, thank you, I really appreciate the mails, without them we could not get together with our coffee and chat, I have had a lot of mails regarding The Law of Attraction, so I have decided next week to go into more mails and do a complete section on this, so if you wish to be included or there is something in particular you would like to know or understand better let me know early in the week. So today I have selected two very different mails, which I have been asked about more than once.
I recently lost my partner in a very unexpected accident, and I really feel I cannot get over this, I have tried so hard but feel that all my illusions in life have fallen away along with all our dreams and hopes of things we wished to do in our future life together. I just feel that I can not go on alone, what can I do ?
The loss of a loved one, can be very over whelming, but it is normal and also a sign of good mental health. The loss of your loved one explains your level of pain, confusion loneliness and total disconnection with the world as you knew it. Think that as wounds we receive to the body, heal are wounds to our soul also can be cured, but for us to let the scar heal over we need time and care. It is a great thing to be able to talk, share your pain and loss with others, it is also good to feel the connection with other people who feel this way. Exercise is also good for you, to let your mind be focused and a little fresh air are always good, I know it is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it is there, I promise, but you also need to look for it and want to find it,you will slowly return to your life and the illusion life can bring. And always remember that your loved one, would always want you to be happy.
I have been divorced for two years, and have a child of 8 years old, some months back I started to see some one and things are looking good for us and we have discussed maybe living together, he is also divorced with three children, the big problem is that my child does not accept him or his children ? And I do not know how to make him understand the situation.
No child is prepared for their parents to separate and therefore are not prepared for this situation. You will probably find that your child has a right to protest and worry about this situation, you see for them there is no advantage, on the contrary before the situation, your child would have had you to themselves and know they find that you are to be shared with your new partner and maybe also his children, maybe the fear of your child lies in the thought of you being taken away and the child losing their place in your life. I would suggest that during this transition period, you give as much attention as you can to your child and in simple words that the child understands that you will always be his mother, that they will continue to be the most important person in your life, and that no one will be taking you away. Although I do not know the situation with the Father, it is important that the child knows that no one will be taking the place of his father. It is important during the process and after a divorce that couples show affection for each other, even if this is purely respect, and the children should never be used in a tug of war, just to get what you want, the child is more important and should come first always, most children live through a divorce well if it is handled by both parents from the beginning. Nobody enjoys a divorce, but it can be simplified for children if parents want this.
Brooke Universal Life Coach