So, what do friends stand for, what is the purpose and to what do they serve ?…………… It is always said that a true friendship is totally of no interest, but, you know we do choose our friends for reasons, and one can be, what can this friendship bring me ? We compliment each other, it enriches us as people, it helps to get know each other better ? which one could it be inicially………….there are different types of friendship !
Amazingly 96% of the population think that friendship is important for our pleasure and personal equilibrium , however 49% considerate it indispensable in life. 25% of our friends we meet during our educational years and 20% during are working life, 16% in our living area, neighbours etc., 10% through other friends we know and 8% through our family members, we tend to stay within our social limits, most of our friends will be working in a similar area to you and maybe only 4% will be outside that area……………………………………
We all have different opinions on friendship, some of the most common can be “Always there when you need them”……”Would give you anything, without a question”………….”You are just allowed to be who you are ” ……….When we talk about our friends, we generally feel emotion and only have words of admiration, who are these super human people, who seem to have a sixth sense when we need them and will sacrifice for you and you alone, these friends who we meet in a casual way or have known them all our lives, who help us along our way, calm us when needed and generally enrich our life, they give us their time when necessary and never expect anything in return. Are they really so perfect ? maybe we just need to see it this way for our own internal building, when we are infants, are friends help us with our abilities both social and physical, as teenagers we break away from the infant stage and help each other to grow, and then we help each other to become independent and the necessary steps, when we make mistakes which as young people we do, are friends become very important to us, as they support us when are family try to install law and order !
The traditional friend, is usually one from early childhood which you have kept in contact with, when we do this it is also like keeping a closeness to are parents, these friends are a permanent witness to are childhood, although you may have taken different paths in life, the contact of those times is always present good or bad, it can be a friendship with a certain amount of nostalgia.
The compensation friend, can be the friend who always gives you good advise and guidance,like that of an older brother or sister, they can replace a parent if you do not have that contact, for those who had a childhood without a father figure or authorisation can look for this in a compensation friend, but you can also take out your suffering from your childhood with this person, they are not responsable.
The “confident” friend, this is the friend that you find yourself so totally comfortable, you do not have to be the perfect anything, friend, mother, sister,father etc., you can be exactly who you are, defects included…. you can trust and confide in this friend, you will not be judged and will be given a sincere opinion, although you may from time to time be offended by what they have to say.
The open friend, is the friend that we can work our intelligence with and that allows us to open up to the world and what is out there, good sound intellect conversation, you can spend hours talking to this person, they will probably lead an entirely different kind of life to you, they will interest and fascinate you , they can at times be people who you would like to have been, should circumstances had been different.
“Don’t look for friends to kill time with, look for hours to live “
“Friendship can be difficult, even more difficult than love, for this reason, it must be saved whenever possible”
Brooke Universal Life Coach