A big welcome to you all, I hope you are going to participate and enjoy these new Friday afternoon sessions, with me, my couch and coffee, welcome into my inner world, where I hope you will feel comfortable enough to open up and share your problem of the moment, maybe that thing that you are spending far too much time giving focus to, the more focus you give it, the nearer you bring it to you ! so let it out , let it go and let’s get it sorted…………….I recieve many emails over the weeks and I promise never to mention names or emails here, unless it is something you would want me to do, this is a comfy cozy private zone……
I am a young follower of your blog, at the age of 8 I was abused and generally treated in a bad way. At 16 I started to take drugs, which I left after 2 years, today I have a steady job and a quiet life, but with my mind living in the past. A do not stop questioning myself, and spinning thoughts around in my head, I think it is my sub conscious as all my past and experiences are in there and day after day come to visit me, I cannot live a tranquil life.
OK the question here is not that you keep going back to your bad experiences , it is your mind crying out to you to free yourself of the trauma you suffered in your childhood, Now that you feel more sure of yourself, it is the correct time to morn your experience in the correct way, as you were unable to do so at 8 years old, you need to clean out the toxic memories that you still hold in your sub conscious, I would recommend that you seek professional help to unload this problem and to help you to feel free, and to finally close this chapter in your life, making way for the new life that awaits you.
I have been separated for seven years and over this time I have seen many of my original friends disappear, I have good friends at work, but of course it stops there. I find week-ends a terrible lonely time and I go from being a happy positive person to someone who can not just get out of this circle of loneliness. I think of lots of things that I could do,but never manage to start them alone, I think I am independent but for many activities I can not imagine doing them without a partner. This makes me feel very sad and inadequate I even feel like a coward, which I know I am not, I feel totally trapped.
I would start by making a list of what you have in your mind, the activities you would like to do, activities that bring you passion and have an importance to you. Make yourself go out at the week-end, step out of your comfort zone and certainly your house, involve yourself with a group of people who you can share social, or intellectual , sport or artistic, whatever you enjoy. These activites will bring you happiness and a meaning in your life. And what is more important is the fact that you are going to make this effort alone, you will duplicate your confidence and eliminate your fears.
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Brooke Universal Life Coach