I receive many emails regarding, feeling like a spare part ? Some of you seem to be passing time, all day and everyday, especially if you have children who have flown the nest with a feeling that nobody needs you anymore ! You are depressed and certainly not happy, you may find that your partner has a social life with his friends, and you are left behind on more that one occasion, or you have not had a partner during your years of raising your children and you feel even more alone, you may not have a situation of the empty nest, but maybe your children have started school and they become independent and you have more time on our hands, which at the moment is getting the better of you, most people long for time, it is one thing most people like to claim, and can’t…….you are basically bored and don’t know what to do with yourself, and at times sadly this is when a depression can go one step further and bad dark thoughts run through your mind, , so what do we do to turn this round, until very recently you have felt important and needed by your family, and when your children have flown the nest, you fall apart !! not because they are not there, it is more to do with you having never set goals or objectives which make you feel important, you can start to do physical exercise, activities that you enjoy and will help you to relax dancing, painting or join a club where you can sing, if you enjoy that….. you can travel, take a look around you and you will see other woman in similar situations enjoying activities outside the home, this can be a big cross-section of ages, as each situation is different,when you start to join these activities you will feel that you are not alone, that a new group of friends are starting to form you start to feel valued again as a person, what ever the reason, why you feel this way, if you are living with a partner, it is very important that you discuss your situation with them, let them know how you feel, hopefully this will open a dialogue for you both to put an end to your boredom within the home, this way, you should be able to start to feel happier within your situation and most importantly understood. When you both have the ability to enjoy other activities, with the new-found time that you will now have.
Always make the most of your time, as later it is something we can never get back, if you are alone, you can enjoy life just the same, there is no written rule that states you have to go through life with a partner
Brooke Universal Coach
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