Why is it, that most people want to be someone else ? I am not referring to who we aspire to be, on your journey to growth or success, because when you succeed in doing that, you are still going to be yourself, I hope !

I am referring to, what at times can be an obsession to really being someone else, people fix on a person and they just want to be them,the way they dress, talk and act and in some cases the popularity they have or success, there is nothing wrong in looking at a role model, in fact it can help you and can also be considered healthy, but there is a limit, a role model can be looked at, more for how they achieved their popularity or success, meaning a blue print of the their business success. but, not them personally, they are who they are, and we are who we are, and we are unique in every way, we have no necessity to copy anyone.  There is not one single person in this world like you, they may resemble you physically as it is said we all have a double, but it stops there, nothing else is the same, so why don’t we see that, why do we not feel as good as that person you want to me ! It is confidence, is it a fear of failure, or you simply don’t rate yourself, you think you are not cool enough !!


Now, when you realise how unique you are, the way you talk, the way you express yourself, the way you present yourself and most importantly what you have to offer the world… we all have something, yes it is true to admit that we can improve many areas, but notice the word we, that is not being someone else, you have to learn how to place your personal spin on things, when you decorate your home, your personal print is there for everyone to see, the person that looks at design magazines and actually makes a replica in their home, does not leave their personal print, they have copied that of someone else, however if you look at those magazines and like what you see, and use your own personal spin into transforming it in your home, you are being you, the difference is huge, your personal print is there for the world to admire, and it is the same in everything we do, when we attempt to copy others, it never works,………why, because we are unique so it really is not possible, and this shows, people will pick up on it,and that is not what we want, we do not need to be the carbon nearly copy of anyone, we have enough inside of us, to remain unique and be cool !just as we are. When you stretch yourself, you will feel more comfortable in what ever you are doing, it’s called, doing it your way, take guide lines from people you admire and listen when good advise is given, but, put your seal of approval on it, and not that of someone else. 


It is also the same with our image, we can improve, as mentioned before, if you feel you need to lose a few kilos fine, if you want to be more fit, go for it, hit the gym, but don’t try to be the fashion model on the front cover of a magazine, because that is not going to happen, but you can feel as good as them, (And believe me, they are not always as happy as you may think!) when you are happy within yourself,  and are you ! When you have a happiness from within, it shows on the outside, people are drawn to you, because of the way you simply are, and when you feel this way, your confidence will grow with it, being you is always cool ! So my message would be, if you want to shoot for the stars, and beyond, go for it, every time, never miss an opportunity, but take yourself with you, not someone you think people want you to be, learn on the way, always, gain more talents, let your confidence grow and reach your goal and success just how you want it to be, but, be yourself, go as you and win as you. 


About theutopiauniverse

It's time to payback all the good in our lives,to pass to each other everything we have learned,the knowledge we have stored within, and the love we have to share. I am a fully qualified Psychologist,Life Coach,Performance Consultant & LOA Practitioner. I have shared this blog with everyone since February 2013, I have been able to help many,but also been helped by many,this I am truly grateful for and thank everyone for your support and advice.Should you wish to contact me, please feel free to do so,my email is open to you all. I look forward to hearing from you.
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9 Responses to IT’S COOL………..BEING YOU !!

  1. Living in other’s skin is not so nice as someone’s think. I love to be myself, even my life is not perfect. But this is my my masterpiece, my hard work and my lessons. This is my path and i am proud of it.

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  2. I nominated you for this blog award Brooke. Your blog is full of positive messages 🙂 Summer X


  3. I really like what you’ve expressed in this post. Authenticity is everything 😀❤


  4. Ioana says:

    I remember a time, when I was in primary school, I looked around at my friends and class mates and thought to myself: “I don’t stand out with anything. I am just blending in. Everyone else is so much more interesting.” Back then I was too young to “notice” myself and no one ever had told me about how to find myself and rejoice in being myself. The first thing I did was I tried to copy a friend’s handwriting. I deliberately followed the patterns of her letters to copy them. 😀 Imagine the determination on me! I know my handwriting has changed along the way a lot, but I bet it still holds a little of it. I do wonder what it would look like today if I hadn’t tried that. The good thing is that I was copying a nice handwriting and it’s my best friends’ writing…so that’s one of the ways she’s “touched” my life. 🙂

    The idea is: start celebrating identity as early as possible! Great post!


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