TEARS – Ever had that feeling, when your lower lip starts to quiver, the more you try to stop it the quivering becomes more out of your control, or you blink and blink to try to stop the tears rolling down your face. Do you tend to cry easily ? When we talk about weddings, birthdays, your children’s school play, or do you belong to the group of people who don’t remember when you last cried ? Sometimes we are taken totally by surprise and the tears appear no matter what we do, but at times crying in front of people can be awkward for the person crying and those around,however people these days do seem a bit more comfortable with this emotion. So why do we cry ? It’s not as simple as being happy or sad, crying is a natural emotion when we respond to certain feelings, usually sadness and hurt, but others do cry for different reasons, it can be for a thing of beauty, a piece of music, they just melt and the guard is dropped and they tap into their inner-self. Crying does serve an emotional purpose, it’s a release, when we have a buildup of energy with feelings. It’s a signal, when we cry, we are being told that we need to address something, you could be frustrated, overwelmed by a situation or just trying to get someone’s attention, also it allows us to release stress hormones or even toxin from the body.
Women tend to cry more than men, but this is simply due to a lot of old beliefs, it’s now starting to change a little, but some men still see it as a sign of weekness. There is no specific reason why some cry more than others, although people with history of trauma , emotional pain, who tend to dwell on the past will generate more feelings of hurt and tend to cry more. However, as I say there are benefits to a good cry, you feel better after a good cry, however in some cases, not all, people with depression or anxiety can feel worse.
“Tears are words from the heart, that can’t be spoken “