NEGLECT – Are you guilty of neglect, of yourself or maybe some one else, or something else. Do we focus so hard onto something that this creates a neglect on another situation. At times we tend to spin so many plates, men and women that some where, we neglect in an important area. From a male point of view, it maybe his career, the job totally takes over, and the family feel a sense of neglect. Only so many hours in a day right, this is a difficult one, because the career take over, is to provide a better future for the neglected family (this can equally apply to a female) however at times, when that moment arrives, there is no family to neglect. This neglect can be in many areas,
We could have a bad break up in a personal relationship
We could have had a long hard illness
We could have lost our job/s
We could be suffering depression/stress
We could be mourning a loved one
We could be stuck in a mid life crisis
We could be alone.
There are many reasons why neglect could knock on your door, so what do we do, first we have to admit to this little fall back,we do know, we know deep down inside us that things are not right, however to fix this you have to be on your own side, especially if you are neglecting yourself, this will have affected your self worth, your confidence, your interaction with others even down to your partner and children. You know you have to start to make changes, and this needs to be done in tiny steps, don’t try to change everything at the same time, as it will overwelm you and the job will be made more difficult. You are looking to find a natural balance back in your life, so routine and organisation is important here, you need to care for yourself both mentally and physically, you are worth this, and much more, if you have to much work, you need to list the pros and cons,and cut back where you can, maybe delegating could help take of a little pressure, whether this be in work or your home, sometimes the most smallest of changes can have a big impact. If your neglect is due to a break up, mourning,illness or even being alone, you need to accept this new situation, as I say many times you may not agree,but you can accept, when we accept this in our mind, we then start to process and introduce new things into our life, what has got you to wear you are now, belongs to the past and you cannot live there, you need to move forward and look into your future, Neglect can appear in many shapes and sizes, and I intend to go further into this subject in the near future. This is a preview for my A – Z Challenge.