To understand personal relationships, which is necessary to help us in all areas of our life, you have to see that we actually collect information all our life, but, do we use it? to help to guide us in the way we think and with our behaviour.
Emotional Intelligence is without any doubt the part of our life that we should encourage and develope and use wisely. To know how to listen and understand the emotions of others and to control our own, know how to communicate and create mutual respect where we all gain tremendously, it is necessary to avoid more than one problem in our life. If our parents had been educated in Emotional Intelligence, it would of formed part of their life and ours, we would be better mentally than we are, all arguments, problems with our friends, colleagues, neighbours, at school, big sighs over exam results and arriving home late!! and many more things, all of this would of been viewed as different, with ways of thinking and things would have been respected, converting this into a new learning curve, but nobody told us or them about it.(some of us have been lucky, and had emotional intelligence always in our life )
It should be included in our life, and should be part of the educational system, from a young age, as a basic ability and necessary to be able to relate with those around us, to know and better know how to have control over our expressions, feelings, emotions to know your own limits and those of others. I actually was asked to speak at a Junior school some 9 years ago regarding this subject, it was a pleasant surprise and should be done much more, it is not a normal exercise and would be very beneficial if it was.
Some people feel that a high IQ makes you more intelligent,or hold a better job, or are more successfull, true intelligence is one associated with happiness, our well being, the one that makes us proud of who we are and what we have, whether its alot or not, and that gives us good mental health to reach what we want and enjoy your journey on the road of your choice.
Know yourself well – dedicate at least five mins a day to analise how you feel and if you have done anything during your day that takes you nearer to your goal, did you take any action ? or you could take a personal development course where you will get to know yourself well, don’t forget that your final goals should be coherent to your values. Think of your emotions, place them on a set of scales, you have to find the balancing point, to be angry or grumpy or over the top happy, both can swing your scales, balance is the secret.
When you are about to explode, take a deep breath, visualise a beautiful beach and the waves rippling on the shore, take this time to slowly breath in and exhale,when you feel calmer start to think, reason and analise your situation, when you have regulated yourself, make your decision, this space will give you a calmness needed to make or take your decisions.
Only you have control over yourself, dont let anyone sabotage you, work on your interior well being and balance, YOU are going to be just great !!!