“When you attain the control of the internal direction of your attention, you will no longer stand in shallow water, but will fly out into the deep of life “
” Optimism is a happiness magnet, if you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you “
We have all been lead to believe that stress is always the foe, this is not always the case, it can at times be our friend, the heart pumps quickly the stress hormone flows into the blood stream,the brain becomes alert,it temporary closes our immunity systems,to concentrate on the problem at hand……it is seen in a very clear light and rational. If we were asked in that moment if it was friend or foe, we would see that it is friend, your body is on track, you are solving the problem at hand in a quick and rational way. We are not experiencing a heart attack,gastric problems or an ulcer,we are not having bad headaches due to all the tension,but these are the reasons we would see stress as the foe,but is it always negative.?
Stress is a natural process, always present in everyone we know and we need it to survive………it makes us aware and alert against anything that could put us in danger,we are prepared to defend ourselves, we can go back in time, and see that cave men would of suffered natural stress while hunting, gladiators before battle, they would not of survived without it. How does this work ? when we feel a situation of danger, mental or physically,our body automatically sends out the signs of emergency,which helps us to survive and work through our present problem,by standing up to it or to run away,we get the adrenaline rush, the stress hormones produce, so from this we can see positive stress in action, we adapt to the change and react quickly to the problem before us, we are in a state of excitement which bring changes to the brain which helps us in an easier way than normal to be alert and see things in a much clearer way, we find solutions and ideas that we previously did not see, we resolve our problem,in these cases not all stress is negative.
HOWEVER, when you are in this state for a prolonged time, you will have a reverse effect, your blood pressure will soar, your heart,immune system,and body in general can suffer damage and health issues can arise, you can become afraid,suffer from anxiety, there is a long list,this is negative stress and you should find no place in your life for it, under no circumstances,this is down to you, to handle your stress levels you, are in control, you look after your body and your body will look after you…………………Remember to relax when possible,eat well,sleep well and enjoy your life,,this is not a rehearsal,this is the real thing so enjoy everyday you have to the best of your possibilities…………………………………..be happy
” You simply will not be the same person two months from now, after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given to you “
Firstly, yet again I am here with a big apology for the last weeks, as you probaly guessed from my last post, I had a loved one in the hospital, and was so grateful for the love shared within those walls. However after that event my family and I were faced with a goodbye we were not expecting and a goodbye we never got to give, so I am dedicating this post to my father who sadly passed away, I have not been able to write a post before today, not because I did not want to,but my thoughts have been all over,emotions are high and low, and my concentration is not at its best,I know what I should be doing and I know the stages I must go through,but it is not as easy as that.
I would like to say a big thankyou to everyone who has mailed me during this time, people who have given time and there thoughts to myself and my family to help and support us through this time.
So how do we just carry on, it is a must,life continues,and it is probaly what the very missed person would want,but again easier said than done, we struggle with this,is it a form of guilt,should I being doing this, we question are actions,our thoughts,life is not the same,but we are supposed to just carry on, as if it was,as it is….I have had some very confusing moments,which I try to deal with one at a time. I am a very spritual person and feel and know that he is still here with us all, in another form but very present,he will always be with us, especially in our thoughts,I know we are in his.
Helping myself to carry on I have written a letter to my father, to tell him everything I wanted him to know that I could not tell him before he passed, this has been really good for me,and if anyone reading this, finds themselves in a similar situation i would urge you to do this, it is a wonderful way to express what you feel inside,what you would of said,and what you want to say,I have a feeling of inner peace,which in turn gives me strength to take one day at a time.
Thanking you all for your kindness and support.
First I would like to apologise for no posts this week, it has been a week I would like to remove from my diary for ever, but, from bad moments in our life we can and should find something good, if you and your family,friends and people you care for are healthy it is one of the greatest gifts you can ever recieve. Being fortunate in the fact that the hospital is not part of our normal life, to be thrown in there with no prior warning or desire, we start to see things in a different light, the one thing in common that everyone has within those walls is that they are either ill or caring for someone who is. The anxiety levels soar up,and your calm and demure side kicks in to those you don’t want to show how you feel inside,the combination leaves you finding an innerself you may not know you had or had never before been so deep. Your personal situation may improve or not, but you start to realise that there is another common denominater,everyone suffers the sick and the carer,you even suffer for the people you do not know and have no connection to you, you find your compassion for others on an entirely different level,we find hope and hold on tight,we hope for others and you know deep down that they also have hope for you. There is a silent connection between you all, you have to give your total admiration for the staff within that building, from the cleaner to the chief of staff, they are always pleasant,they smile,they acknowledge you and your personal situations in a very special way, how fortunate are we to be surrounded by people who all have that special ability,to express there unconditional pledge to people that they do not know, but are totally aware of your needs at any given moment,and give 100% every day, then we have the medical professionals who apart from there dedication and who have found there true calling,there life purpose, who are at times that one person who has to deliver the worst news you ever want to hear,or the best news.How do they handle that permanent emotional ride,they are not emotionally involved with there patients but they are people,great people at that,who deal with emotion in all shapes and sizes everyday, it is an added gift that they have apart from there professional academic skills. So my point today is that we need to find time to send a thought to all who need it, and not to forget that it could be us that will need that thought one day, the thought of appreciation to people we do not know,a thought of thankfulness that people of this special kind exist,a thought of gratitude for the health we have and that of are loved ones………………… A thought that………..even on the worst days there is a possibility of joy and being grateful for everything we have and everything we are and wish to be…………………………………………….Just one simple thought a day.
If you cannot control what you think, you cannot control your future
I am in control of my mind, it is not in control of me.
” Find and enjoy your magic moment of today, as it may not be there tomorrow “
” A crisis is produced when the old does not want to die and the new is’nt born”
Bertolt Brecht
” The only limits in our life are those we impose on ourselves “
“I`ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling, thats as unique as a fingerprint and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard and also allowing the energy of the universe lead you”
Opray Winfrey
“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear,our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson
Author & Speaker
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