If you are on a mission to finding love again in your life, beware, and think before you leap, what have you learnt from your previous experience, by doing this, you are giving yourself and the new person in your life a real possibility of making a new relationship work, or maybe in the case of your actual  relationship if you are struggling, but you would both like to continue to wipe the slate clean, as they say, again take time to learn from your past mistakes whether they be yours or that of your partner. Talk about it together and consider both sides. 

This really should be your number one priority, there is nothing that states when is the correct time to fall in love again, sooner/later, but you have to be okay with yourself, do you feel good in your mind, or are you still confused, mixed up . You have to love yourself first, or how can any one else, or how can you love some one else, if you don’t love yourself, it will just not work,  you do not need some one else to tell you they love you, you have to know that you are already loved by yourself. 

When you do start to date again, don’t make the big mistake of only talking about your ex and how hard things have been, there is nothing worse than starting a new relationship on the back of another one, what are you saying……”don’t say this, do this,act this way ” the first thing you are going to do, is probably fill them with fear and think that you are still hanging on for your ex !! Enjoy yourself, have fun, get to know each other as equals and build that friendship up, would you tell a stranger your life story, there is plenty of time to go into past experiences, but don’t let the other person feel they are competing before they start, you should want to know about them, there likes and dislikes etc., never take anything for granted, we are all different remember, would you like to be compared or assumed  that you would like XYZ etc., 

Don’t be afraid to come out of your shell, you do not want to be a tortoise all your life, there is a big world out there, made up of all kinds of people, good bad and indifferent ! Do not be afraid of rejection, the opportunity is also being missed by Prince/Princess Charming, it is not your fault that they do not have the vision to see how wonderful you are, also it is a good time to remember that if things don’t work out, it’s because there is something far better on the horizon….. some people can be insecure, shallow and even cruel at times, but there is kind considerate loving people out there also, it is just a case of finding the perfect fit….maybe the next date! 

The final and one of the most important points you must remember, is never give up being yourself, what ever happened to you before does not define you, and what you can do or accomplish in this beautiful world, whatever has gone on in your life previous to your new relationship does not leave you with a label on your back, show your true self, never be some one that someone else wants you to be, it is you, that is going to fall in love, not the made up person you may think you are or who you are portraying for the love of the other person, you are worth so much, and now is a brilliant time for you to realise this and to grow into your true value. 

Brooke Universal Coach

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