Do we ever get over this feeling, if as children we did not feel that we were supported sufficiently by our parents, we grow, slowly ,losing our confidence within ourselves. And to feel accepted in society becomes an act of survival. Now, as adults, are we capable to care for ourselves and break this dependency.
We are the worst judge, when we feel this way, each angry situation makes us feel unappreciated, for us this is a terrible feeling and has a devastating effect, without realising we have adopted this understanding and carry it with us. As young children and teenagers we feel very poorly valued, and we become our worst judge.Many years have passed since you felt the danger , it makes no sense now, you have to remember that you are no longer that child who is afraid, who depends on everyone else, you are now an adult, totally independent and can protect yourself from any danger.
Observe less and live more, If you imagine how many people our in this world, in our world, it is impossible for everyone to like you or not, we are all unique and cannot be compared one with the other, Many people will sacrifice their interest and enjoyable moments just to be liked by some one, taking the desires and opinions of others. However to be happy what we really need to do is analyse and criticise less, the problem is not the others it is the torrential rain of self-criticism that we insist on telling ourselves. We are all exceptional people yet we can become our number one enemy !
Are we brave enough to be how we are ? Many of you don’t see it very clear, but being just who we are, to be authentic is the biggest job we have in our life. When we are who we truly are, we shed fear, the breaks come of and we stop conditioning others.Everyone is born with their own identity , with their own talents, , on many occasions due to the pressure we are under, this identity and talents fall by the wayside. It is time to take up your dreams and fulfill them, not the dreams of others, when you decide and control your road ahead, your way forward you will start to feel a higher confidence level, and a newfound sense of security.
Don’t suffer by what people say, at times we allow ourselves to be influenced by what others say, we take things n a negative way, regarding how we look, our appearance, our work or relationships. When we receive these comments, there always a way to take them in a positive manner, this is the way to go, we can do this, nobody is perfect. It is also an opportunity for you to see that side of that person, they don’t belong in your group, reflect on what is said, and judge for yourself, would your opinion be similar or not ?
Speak to yourself differently, once you become familiar with comments regarding yourself you will start a new internal dialogue with yourself, your inner voice will be heard by you, and you will be able to express yourself in a better way, without fear and your opinion will count. We know better than anyone else what we like and dislike, how are emotions react. We are no longer silenced by other people, you are not a child, but an adult in full control of your life.
Brooke – Universal Coaching.