Whatever steps, however small, one can take towards learning to reduce the influence of the negative emotions can be very helpful. It can definitely help one live a happier and more satisfying life.
Now, no matter what behaviour you are seeking to change, no matter what particular goal or action your are directing your efforts towards, you need to start by developing a strong willingness or wish to do it. You need to generate enthusiasm. And, here, a sense of urgency is a key factor. This sense of urgency is a powerful factor in helping you overcome problems.
By making a steady effort, I think we can overcome any form of negative conditioning and make positive changes in our lives. But you still need to realise that genuine change doesn’t happen overnight.
The capacity to see things from different angles is quite selective; we can focus on a particular angle, a particular aspect of that phenomenon, and adopt a particular perspective. This capacity becomes very important when we seek to identify and eliminate certain negative aspects of ourselves or enhance positive traits. Because of this capacity to adopt a different perspective, we can isolate parts of ourselves that we seek to eliminate and do battle with them.
Above are the wonderful words of His Holiness the Dalai Lama- Thank you for your wise words
When you speak, you only repeat what you know, but when you LISTEN , maybe you will learn something new !